I finished college a year ago, I'm 23. I think my best years are behind me, although they weren't that great. During high school, I didn't have very many friends; I never had a girlfriend. I never got invited to parties, and I didn't go to the prom. I made good grades and I got into college. In college, I maintained a high gpa and graduated, but I had the same problems that I had in high school (few friends, no girlfriend). This period in a person's life was supposed to fun, yet I didn't really have very much.
Now with that all behind me, I don't think there too much to look forward to. Have I wasted my life?
2007-10-29 03:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bill,
There's everything to look forward to! You've worked hard and accomplished so much already in your life...
And, now, without the 'goal' of acquiring a high school diploma or a college degree to focus on or to hang over you, you have freedom!! Work is easier to plan around than school (unless your job gives you homework!), and with all of this 'extra' time, you can focus on the recreational and social aspects of your life.
Your story sounds very familiar-I didn't get invited to parties or go to the prom, and I only had one person, Liz, whom I fully considered my friend (as I actually would see her socially outside of school). After my school years were finished, I reflected much as you have, and I discovered that not only did my 'focus on the goal' inhibit me from gaining the relationships I wanted, but also I had had too much of a passive approach to social interaction. Liz and I were able to be friends because she was assertive. She'd call me. She'd ask me to do things. I rarely initiated contact. I delved a little deeper as to why I was so shy, and it really came down to inexperience. Once I discovered this, the plan was action. I'd go to places I liked and talk to the people there. I knew we'd have at least one thing in common! Yeah, I got rejected occasionally, but I had much more fun times than embarassing or hurtful, and I found out that people were generally more accepting than I thought.
Be proud of what you've accomplished. You might've had to sacrifice a few things to get here, but you've set yourself up to have an amazing life. Put yourself out there, and try to be assertive and initiate interaction. A little confidence goes a long way.
2007-10-29 04:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! With only 23 you haven´t even lived long enough to think your life was wasted!
Look what goals you´ve already reached.You went through college and got a degree! You really call that wasted?
Do you really think that ONLY friends or a girlfriend means having fun???Take a close look at some of the people you met in High school and at college.Are they still close with their friends from back then?Or the guys with the girlfriends.Are they still together? I bet some of them had to get through nasty breakups and other situations that were at least fun!
It´s your private life only that´s bothering you so much,right?
OK,no girl is going to knock at your door saying "Here I am!"
you have to put some effort in that "mission" too.Go to places where you can meet people.What about a membership at a gym p.e. ?Or activities at you church? BTW do you know HOW many people are meeting online nowadays? Try it!
Only 2 things before I come to an end: I had my first real boyfriend when I was 21. And If you´re going job-hunting NO one is interested in how much friends you have or how much you´re socializing.Your future employers are interested in your college degree ONLY!
2007-10-29 10:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have not wasted your life. You have the whole of the rest of you life to have fun.
You are now a well educated man with the potential to make a good salary and hold informed conversations. Young women will find you a very attractive catch.
2007-10-29 10:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wasted your life? No way! Your 23, done with college, probably have a nice cushy job, right? Now that you have the time, make some friends and have some fun. You did it the right way! Don't waste your life living with regret.
2007-10-29 10:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by ~Jenn~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age I felt the same way.
Now I'm 56 and life is a blast. Be patient. Who says life is "supposed" to be anything?
Besides, the people who were having so much fun when they were young are not so happy now. There is a pendulum, and it will swing in your direction eventually. Trust me. You have NOT wasted your life. it will get better - much better.
2007-10-29 10:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by SUSAN P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem ... But i later realise that Its never too late to start. I'm happy for you cos at least you realised it .... staying around here and thinking about the past dont help .... Quickly go out and run after those thing you have missed !!
Good Luck !
2007-10-29 10:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by happie_julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You'll be the one having the great life with your good grades and therefore good life. You'll be able to pay off your mortgage early, have frequent holidays and not have as many money worries as other people your age.
2007-10-29 10:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by pinhead_hey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! You make it seem like 23 is over the hill when you've barely just begun climbing it! If anything your best years are still to come.
2007-10-29 10:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Longrove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But, the good grade is not all. Personally, friends circle is very important for one's life.
2007-10-29 10:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are still young
2007-10-29 16:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋