I had my b/f's mother sign up for childcare so she could get paid for babysitting my kids since I can't afford to pay her out of my pocket right now. I didn't know she was receiving money from another source from the state for someone to come and cook her meals, wash her clothes etc, etc. We filled out the paperwork In May of this year and last month I went to speak to my caseworker and asked why hasn't my sitter received her payment and she told me because she was recieving money from this other source so they could not pay her. So my sitter said she couldn't watch my kids anymore a week after I told her what my caseworker had said. She knows that I don't know anyone here and that I don't have anyone else to watch my kids. She just all of a sudden told me that I would have to quit my job , that way maybe my caseworker will get on her horse about paying her. I am a single parent of 3 children and I can't afford to pay her. She's calling and emailing me demanding payment. What can I do?
2007-10-29 02:28:03 · 8 answers · asked by Kari L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Firstly, ignore your boyfriends mother. Most states have programs where you could send your children, for little or no cost, speak to your caseworker about it, its called a child care subsidy.
2007-10-29 02:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jenn~ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I used to be a social worker at the Dept. Of Human Services (welfare) in Cincinnati, OH. Had a Day Care Unit there where the women/men qualified and we would pay for a large portion of their daycare (but the daycare unit or the person doing daycare in their own home) had to be licensed. At the time there was a sliding scale the county would pay from 45%- 100% for the daycare. Of course the parent had to be actively working or in some type of school etc. Call and check at the Dept. Of Human Services, where you live. I'd assume each state is different. (good luck)
2007-10-29 09:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely you don’t expect her to watch your children for free. And it doesn’t appear that that’s what she agreed to. It appears that she agree to watch them with the understanding that ‘someone’ would be paying her. So if the state (I’m assuming it’s the state) refuses to pay her, then you’re responsible. It’s just like if your health insurance company refuses to pay a doctor bill (for whatever reason), then you’re responsible for paying that bill.
You said she’s Boyfriend’s mother…where is Boyfriend? If these are his children maybe he can help?
What you do is find another babysitter and figure out a way to pay them--it appears they may be willing to pay someone else, who is not receiving other funds from the state.
Regarding her demand for payment, tell her you’ll pay her some when you can, and then make an effort to do that. If she continues to call and email, then you *may* be able to file harassment charges, but do you really want to do that? It will put a HUGE strain on your relationship with Boyfriend. And keep in mind that his mother is NOT making unreasonable demands here--apparently she’s waited 4/5 months for payment already. And if you file harassment charges, you can expect her to turn around and file suit against you for the monies you owe her (that's what I’d do if I were her).
2007-10-29 09:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You write her a check. She watched your kids, she deserves payment. Then go find a real daycare and put your kid in there and the state will pay them if you qualify.
2007-10-29 09:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If there is no written contract, find another sitter, and in the meantime file harassment(sp?) charges.
2007-10-29 09:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by juventus0151 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry! I wish I knew how to help you.
2007-10-29 09:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by chickenmonkeygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does you b/f say? and who does HE know who can help you out?
2007-10-29 09:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
cry
2007-10-29 09:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋