We have a 1 year old boy and a 4 year old girl. It has been an aweful marriuge since the begining. Im dying inside right now and dont know what to do? She is a stay at home mother. and says that she is going to make my life Hell, well it already is. What should I do?
2007-10-29 02:32:34 · 16 answers · asked by group138 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes you feel like you could eat them, and sometimes you wish you had of !!! You say you have been miserable for a long time. Honey, if you 2 are not happy then in return you are going to have dysfunctional children by raising them in an unstable atmosphere. if I were you, I would walk away. Remember though, those children are just as much yours as they are hers. So, until the courts decide who gets the custody, you can take them with you and keep them just like she thinks she can. The first one to get to the courts usually wins. I am sure your heart is broken in a million pieces and you just don't know which way to turn because of the babies. Unfortunately this is a normal feeling. Start keeping a log on the daily arguments. Is she a good mother? Are you a good father. Think of the children first and who can give them stability si that they do not have to hear horrible slang and you both downing each other. Take care of this while the children are still young and it will make it easier on them, rather than waiting until they start school and have to adjust to a whole new life and try to learn in school. I would get up , get the children, and leave her today! Best of luck with your life!
2007-10-29 02:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she going to make your life hell? Is it because she wants you out the house?
Best thing you can do is go as soon as you can, stay with a friend or rent somewhere. This is so your kids don't have to be around the tension there will be if she is true to her word.
Be the bigger person, sounds like she is really mad about something so try and be the calm and rational one in all of this. Make sure you get to see your kids, this is a must! Hopefully she won't use them against you.
It's time to get the ball rolling, you need to start divorce proceedings and think about putting the house on the market if you need to etc.. This is not a healthy relationship to be in so you need to set yourself free.
2007-10-29 02:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you're so unhappy. You sound like a loyal guy, but you know what.....this life is very short. If she's feeling this way, she certainly will not allow you any happiness, so why not just start a new life. I know it's hard. I've asked my hubby for a divorce twice already, but I'm still here, he's tried to change and so have I, but it isn't enough, we have real issues. Point is, you're been bad examples to those poor kids. Split up, and be two happy families instead of being one very unhappy family and giving them the wrong values.
Good luck, wish I could chat more....
2007-10-29 02:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mewgull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the root of the problem.Marriage is not a bed of roses and responsibility has to be shared.Are you putting in your shre of looking after the kids. Maybe finance is the problem then you both have to sit down and see if you can settle your finances if not bring in a financial adviser.Maybe since the kids came a long you have'nt spent enough time together find the lost romance that got you two married in the first place. Remember that marriage is a committment and love has its ups and downs.
2007-10-29 02:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by adrian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then give her a divorce, set her free my gosh, if one of the couple doesnt love back anymore , its time to end the marraige, and as you have said its an aweful marriage then why stick to it, even if you dance and walk using your head its not going to work out anymore, the kids well they are all below 7 so its the mom who would keep it. Do you like hell for a life? who wants that then give her a divorce, my gosh!
2007-10-29 02:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grant her the divorce - why stay in a bad relationship? Lot of kids grow up with divorced parents and they turn out fine, so don't say you want to stay married in a bad relationship for the kids - what would that teach them in the longrun? To put up with crap and not do anything about it?
I would highly suggest a lawyer - to ensure things don't get too messy. Document everything she says, as when she says she'll make your life hell, that's a threat - don't let her do that to you. Get legal help now.
Good luck.
2007-10-29 02:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole situation and your wife are giving your more heartache then joy, dont waste your time on her and focus on your children. Try to find out ahead of time what your rights are concerning the children. make sure you get what is legally yours, including your right to see the children. And also because of the kids, maybe smart to not let this thing last for years.....either the bad marriage or the divorce. keep it civil, however she behaves is her problem, just be sure you are being correct with everything and everyone
2007-10-29 02:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by jtmommy10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well their is always 2 sides to a story you say the marriage is awful but you never told us what she did or what happened to make it so awful??? Would love to help need more info
2007-10-29 04:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I'm sorry to hear that; divorce is never a pretty thing especially when there are children involved. If I were you I'd talk to an attorney, they will be able to help you make the right decisions. And please oh please, what ever you do make sure you are still remain a presence in your children's life. Please just don't pay the child support and think that is all you have to do. Please make sure you are still their Daddy, and not just a check that comes in every month.
2007-10-29 02:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rid of her and the marriage since you are feel misery now. start afresh but caring for the kids.
alternatively you could starta fresh with her provided you van rebuilt the love bet you two or else...
its a make or break dear as in marriage...
sorry have to be so blunt for have experienced such an dis better to make up one's mind.
2007-10-29 02:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by coffee_tea_or 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋