Shes 23. His mom says she loves him unconditionally since birth but says that woman will break her sons heart. She claims she saw her entertaining two of her male friends when she was supposed to be working at the office late at night. Her son is faithful naive and hardworking. No kids yet but he wants six.. he says he will support all of his family.
2007-10-29 02:16:31 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
should he get rid of her because his mom says so or should he ignore his mom eventhough he loves her too. He loves his wife feverishly.
2007-10-29 02:18:43 · update #1
of course...but i'd be checking into that report of the male friends...
2007-10-29 02:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Felix Arcanus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW--A REAL toughie....The mother doesn't have to like the son's gf and vice versa. The mother may even be correct in the fact that her son's heart will get broken and what she has seen (or thinks she has seen) w/ the male friends BUT being with the girl is still NOT the mother's choice. She has told her son how she feels and why and that is all she can do. If she truly loves her son she wants what is best for him, which is probably why she feels the way she does, but she can not hold his hand forever and seems to have done all she can. The only thing left for her to do now is bite her tongue and pray.
2007-10-29 02:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by mvngs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the wife has manners if she is caring and outgoing and respectful from what the man sees then id say sounds like the mother is maybe overbearing on her son (i think i may be like that too) but i would never go for that wife if she bad mouths my mom and disrespects her. if the wife is trying then it s the moms fault just being overbearing.. but if the mom did in fact see the wife out with other guys then the mom is too much in the buisness because I know for a fact as a mom i wouldnt tell my son if i witnessed this because i know that it would come out eventually and my son would need to see it for him self. the son needs to concentrate on the wife the wife should never ask the husband to stop talking to his mom no way but a marriage should be just the wife and husband not the mom too if the mom feels something bad about her then seh should just talk to the son but anyways what is the wife doing out at night any ways alone? if the son is hardworking and independent the only times she should be out at night is with the husband!
2007-10-29 02:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a touchy question on one side your mom has way too much time on her hands if she is checking up on her son's wife. Yet on the other hand you have to wonder if she is telling the truth or not. I would ask where she saw his wife entertaining at? Who were the two men? Has his wife gave him any reason to think she was stepping out on him?
If nothing else he could always ask or hire someone to keep an eye on her if he wanted to be sure, then inform him. He could confront her and ask her stating that one of his friends thought he saw her leaving his mother out of the picture, and find out what she has to say about it. Then again if she is sneaking around on him, personally I would leave.
2007-10-29 02:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check out the possibility of cheating. If mom is right, dump the girl.
I would also say that love does not stop because mom does not like the girl. If there has been no cheating then mom is wrong and will have to get used to the girl.
Mom might have seen the girl with two guys and made invalid assumptions.
Take care,
Troy
2007-10-29 02:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for mom to let go but some mom's have a hard time doing this-A man should leave his mother a woman leave her home the two shall travel on to where the two shall be as one as it was in the beginning is now until the end woman draws her life from man and gives it back again
2007-10-29 02:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by suan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should not get rid of her simply because his mom says so. Although a mother's love is since birth and ordinarily without strings, a married man's prime obligation is to his wife. Who knows, his mother may be lying or just wrong.
However, it would be wise for him to find out on his own, or confront his wife with some direct questions and hard evidence if available. No one stays naive for long, believe me.
2007-10-29 02:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, Mom has loved him since his birth, but it's time to let go. It sounds like she is having difficulty doing that though.
He should stand by his wife. He is building a new life with his wife that will hopefully last the rest of their lives, and that is where he should place his responsibility.
Cheers.
2007-10-29 02:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Perplexed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully I love my mother-in law, she is my best friend. In this case it seems a little difficult. The mother-in law seems to know that the wife is cheating, therefore she is going to be treating the wife like crap until she is either found innocent, or the guy divorces her. This guy married this woman and if children then get involved, the wife can easily keep them from their grandmother if she doesn't drop the grudge. Good luck, and just keep opinions to yourself...It's safer that way!!!
2007-10-29 02:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by I hang with the BIG DOGS 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should stand by your wife but I would make damn sure she was faithful to me. If she's cheating on you get rid of her now before you have kids.
If you're a mommas boy you're going to have trouble with all the women in your life, I'd shake that off if I were you.
2007-10-29 02:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband's family is like this too. We have been married for 13 years. In his family's eyes if your not made by them then you never get the chance to be one of them. My husband is different than them though. he knows how to love, and excepts the love that my whole family gives him. Now that he has set them in their places, he hardly ever hears from them. We know that this family is just like this. My husband was married prior to me and they treated her the same way. I look at all the in-laws in the family and they are all treated like I am too. Not only do they treat us like this they even treat my kids that are not my husbands the same way. We have even stopped going around for holidays. This really hurts children when they grandparents give the biological family gifts and leaves the off springs out. So, my husband chooses to stand with our family, and if his family wants to be immortal than we have enough love to spread evenly between all of us. LOL!
2007-10-29 02:43:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋