We have a two year old son who loves his grandparents more than anything. And they love and spoil him to death! They ask me to bring the baby over all the time. anyways... i was over there cooking dinner for the whole family! (i get bored cooking for 2 1/2) sooo... my SIL (sister in law) came storming in the house and said "I hope you have enough for my friends that are coming over." of course i didn't. then she opended the fridge and spilt what was in the side door. and then said "god dammit kristina pick up this f*ing mess." and i told her to do, so she let the dogs lick it up. i was floored. So i went outside for a breath before i killed her, and then came back in cooked dinner and then we ate. i cleaned up dinner and was getting the babys stuff together, and she said "Hey why don't you stop bringin that kid over here i can't sleep when he's here, i don't know why you can't take care of your own child, and when you have the next kid i am moving out" WE LIVE FAR AWAY
2007-10-29 02:51:25 · 10 answers · asked by mommak071005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we only come on the weekends when we let the baby spend time with his family. and its not every weekend.
how do i not kill this girl?
and do i have a right to be mad?
or and my husband and her never got along and they are the only kids, shes the younger.
2007-10-29 02:52:36 · update #1
she's 20.
and i am 22. he brother is 23.
i didn't know if i should mention to her parents?!
2007-10-29 02:59:37 · update #2
i have total respect for you, cus i would have left her bald. you have a divine right to defend your child from everyone, especially her. if i were you i would not let her sabotage your child's relationship with his grandparents. first of all i would let everyone know of her nasty remarks and leave it very clear that it is unacceptable for her to treat your family that way unless she wants to feel the same way. if it happens again then it is mostly her problem, she may have issues with her parents and thinks that it is the baby's fault. sounds like all she wants attention. don't become her doormat, if she says something rude, be witty but polite,after all your not at your house. i think that if you stand your ground she will see it as hassle and back off. if all else fails, give her a good one for me!
2007-10-29 05:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by 1monkey2butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so the girl is a whiny twit of a brat, good to know for an answer here. First of all, stop asking for her help. Do everything that you can yourself. When you absolutely have to have outside help, then call her. After she's done with her snide and rude comments about her wedding, just smile and say "I'm glad you did what you wanted, now we are doing the same." Then ignore her and do whatever you want. If she refuses to do things your way, then tell her that if she wants to run the show, then she needs to pay for the whole thing herself. I bet that will shut her up, for a moment anyway :-) You aren't going to change her nasty behavior, and it's a little late for a change in the wedding party. Just do the best that you can for now. I'm sure that you can have a beautiful wedding day with or without her help and support.
2016-05-26 00:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by noemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds kinda jealous of you and the child. Is she getting attention from her mom? I mean I am only 23, but I know how I felt when my sister had a baby and I was 16, I felt as if my mom no longer cared about me and it was ALL about the baby.
Have you tried being nice to her, ask her to go shopping or something? Does her mom do things like that with her?
And no, its not wrong of you to bring the baby over for the inlaws to see and visit.
She sounds bad jealous, and if you think its possible, I would try to sit down and talk.
2007-10-29 03:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by twilight_dezire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this isn't your home so I'm not completely convinced that it is your place to say anything to her. Perhaps you and your husband could talk to your in-laws as this drama is taking place in their home. If they refuse to do anything, then I would advise cutting your visit short, or, visiting only every other weekend until the b***h moves out. Or, better yet, have your in-laws come to your home and make sure the SIL does not get an invite. If she shows up and acts rude, you have every right to toss her silly a** out.
2007-10-29 03:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While sitting at the dinner table tell your in laws that their daughter says you are coming over too often and ask them if they too feel that way. If you put it out there then they know what she is doing and will deal with her themselves. She is way too old to act like a teenager, I'd tell her so if I was you. Also tell her you are pregnant ( even though you aren't ) just to see her move out..... :)
2007-10-29 03:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id be interested in knowing what your in-laws reaction is to her outbursts, as well as how old is this girl?
I think that I would politely explain to your in-laws that because of your SIL's behavior you don't feel comfortable bringing your baby there, but that they are welcome at your home whenever they like (or whenever they are invited). Either they will talk to her about her behavior or you will be having guests.
2007-10-29 02:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to be mad, but that won't do any good. I guess you should talk to your parents-in-law about this. Then try to arrange things to avoid shortages of food, and have a sense of humor about your sister-in-law.
AND have another baby QUICK.
2007-10-29 05:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the right to be mad, and I would be mad if that happened to me! have your tried talking to your in-laws about it??
You don't deserve to be talked to like that if you were invited to the house, and if you were just being nice and cooking dinner. Don't waste your time on her. She isn't worth it.
2007-10-29 02:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by haley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old is she and how old are you? if ur older thn maybe you can yell at her and teach her a lesson and make sure she doesnt talk to you like that... and if she ever commands you to do somethig just ignore her.. i mean who is she to tell you not to bring the baby
she seems like a very spoiled little gurl.
2007-10-29 02:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Someone S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? maybe she's jealous? try inviting her to stay with you for a weekend or two
2007-10-29 02:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by suan b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋