I went on a 2nd date with 25 y/o guy (I'm 25 too) on Sat night. At end of date, he asked me if he should call or email. And i said emailing is impersonal. But he still said, I will email you. He is not shy but very outgoing. He only calls to confirm dates. He emailed me last night "You know it's weird to e-mail people instead of calling, but thanks for a great time on sat and letting me make it up to you."
I plan to reply "Thanks for a great time too."
Should I mention anything about the emailing instead of calling like "That's fine, I assume emailing is what you're more comfortable with?" or should I leave that out?
Also, we went bowling, which came out to over 60 dollars... should I tell him i feel bad about that and that I should've chipped in? Or should i leave that out?
Oh yea, i'm also not sure if his intentions with me is just sex or if he is really interested in me. He voluntarily revealed that he is a virgin to me (which i find it hard to believe).
2007-10-29 02:31:21 · 14 answers · asked by angelgirly111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think hes married that why he e mails you... sorry..
2007-10-29 02:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe when any guy says he is a virgin. (My opinion).
I think your plan to reply, saying you assumed he is just more comfortable with emailing is fine. It's only your second date, the phone calls will become more frequent soon enough.
Also, I don't think you should make mention of chipping in for the date. He paid, that's fine. If you plan another date, then offer some mony when it comes time to pay for something, but don't insist if he refuses. Some men just prefer it that way.
Lastly, you never know so early on if he's just looking for sex. Don't give it until you are ready, and at that point you will know and won't have to ask.
:)
2007-10-29 02:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by In Hiding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, emailing is becoming the way to communicate these days. I hardly ever talk to my friends on the phone anymore - it's all texts and emails and IM's. Totally normal.
Secondly, he asked you out on a date, therefore he should pay. You don't need to say anything to him, just thank him, and the next time you go out pick up the drink tab, or pay the movie tickets or something. $60.00 isn't that expensive for a date.
Thirdly, if he was only interested in sex, he probably would have tried to get you to do it the first date. If he is a virgin, he told you because he is uncomfortable with it and wanted to see your reaction.
The fact that he contacted you at all post-date speaks volumes. Clearly, he wants to see you again.
:o)
2007-10-29 02:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Maeve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that e-mailing is ok, but you prefer a phone call now and did. When your go out on a date, maybe next time you will tell him the tab is on you, since u was wondering about him paying so much to go bowling.
2007-11-02 02:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It aint a big deal to write those things you have mentioned. Make sure you use, easy, jovial words. Its more often the tone of the words that conveys the wrong meanings. Dont make it sound sarcastic. Make it sound funny, so tha tyou guys have something to talk about the next time you meet. Thats how you start conversations. And about the sex, well talk to him more, before you come to any conclusions. Often times, we let our minds make decisions with a lot of assumptions regarding the other persons. Dont make any when it comes to relationships.
- K
2007-10-29 02:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by kiddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is as outgoing as he says then he is probably not a virgin. As for the 60 dollars thing leave it out and when you go out next offer to pay.
Stop over analysing everything and just enjoy.
2007-10-29 02:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would mention that you feel bad for him paying for everything. That would tell him you are not out with him because he spends money on you.
The rest, leave out for now. He may be one of those people who spends a lot of his time on the phone at work and doesnt want to talk on the phone when he gets off work.
Good Luck.
2007-10-29 02:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume emailing is what you're more comfortable with?"Actually, emailing is also very popular, especially dating online such as Bigblackconnect.com , In my opinon, you should keep some distance with that guy and continue dating online for a longer period
2007-10-29 03:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone who e-mails their intentions, feelings, etc instead of being able to communicate face to face is not worth the effort to keep in your life. If you can call that 'keeping him in your life'.
In addition...have sex with him. Obviously pure physical contact is out of his realm of possibility and he'll probably be content cybering instead.
Stop wasting your time with a person who can't communicate except electronically.
2007-10-29 02:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he prefers to email people...where is the major issue?
2007-10-29 09:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going out with him.Is it because you like him or is it because nobody else asked you? Variety is the spice of life .
2007-10-29 02:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by adrian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋