We both are under a ton of pressure with work etc...
we are coming up on our one year ann. and i Love this woman with everything.... I just dont want these changes to become permanent. I want our exciting times back.
any suggestions would be appriciated
thanks
-N
2007-10-29 03:56:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All anal all the time.
2007-10-29 04:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by CmP 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If this is something you really want, you can do it. Some suggestions I would do that take little time: if you're sitting, watching TV, make sure you're sitting together, ask her to sit with you. If she's tired, ask if she wants to lay her head on you. Keep the physical contact frequent, doesn't have to be sexual.
Be prepared to do most of the work for awhile when it comes to initiating intimacy. Some evening, have her meet you someplace without telling her why. Then have something romantic planned....this doesn't have to take alot of time...flowers, candles, soft music, fave foods or treats...just anything to show her she's special to you. And make the evening all about her.
Once you've made her feel really loved and special, the spice will come back. She'll want to show you how special you are to her and do things that she knows you'll like.
As long as you two love each-other and show it regularly, don't be discouraged when things aren't 'spicy' because of work stress. Keep the love alive and the spice will return. The work stress won't always be there, but if you two forget to work at the relationship daily, then that might not be there later.
2007-10-29 11:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would plan a really fun overnight excursion to celebrate your one year! Go somewhere, a nice hotel or even a camp out, but don't stay at home. Sometimes just a new setting will spark things up. Make a big deal out of the event and recommit to each other. Show her how much she means to you and that you don't want to lose the wonderful relationship between you. By putting a priority on your relationship together and forgetting all those pressures, your bound to find a way to renew your love life. Maybe add a couple sweet, but sexy, touches like chocolates and champagne or new lingerie and your in a win win situation!:)
2007-10-29 11:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by treedle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her you need to do everything you can to show her that.Most people unfortunately wait until there loved ones leave them to show them how much they care. Then its to late.Dont be that person. You need to set aside alone time. A date night something. DO something unpredictable. Make dinner. Buy some wine and get wasted together!! Flirt with her. Give her an erotic massage. When your in bed be passionate soft and then be a little rough and go back to soft.Its exciting.Tease her.Lots of foreplay make it all about her. Women love that stuff. Plus if you make it all about her this time you can guarantee she will return the favor! Good luck and remember dont let the one you love slip away. IT starts slowly and before you know it your whole relationship is over and you dont know what happened to start it all. So before that happens be everything she wants now. Show her how much you love her and live everyday like it might be your last.
2007-10-29 11:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Arie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand totally how you feel. The other day I was reading about the same topic on Dr. Laura Berman's page. She advised that couples should not lose the intimacy due to life getting in the way. Start talking about the good ole days like what attracted you to that person, try to remember what it was like when you got butterflies in your belly for that person, always try new things, especially in the bedroom or any room for that matter, always make that person you love know your affections for them but not in a corny mushy gushy way. I worded in my words from what I could remember from her site and also parts mixed in from what I wish was my own. Good Luck I wish you both the best!! Not many men ask that sort of advice....good to hear there are more out there like you. She must be blessed.
2007-10-29 11:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by squishy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iv been married for 18 years and i try to think of things all the time to keep things fresh.
go back to the first place you went on a date, maybe go seperately and meet in a bar than chat her up.
affirm your love for her, run her a hot bath, massage her in candle light, let nature take its course.
do something silly, go play in a kids playground!!
talk honestly about your desires and feelings, listen when she tells you yours!! you might find out new things about each other
dress up/role play??!!
take one night a week to pamper the other person, cook a meal (or order takeaway!), clean up after the meal while she bathes/showers, rub her back/feet/whateva. take the pressure off her when she comes home, she can do this for you too.
light scented candles
dont confine sex to the bedroom. remember when it was all new and fun and you couldnt keep your hands off each other? try to recreate some sponteneity in your love life. remember sometimes a 'quickie' can be as much fun as the full deal.
appreciate her. tell her she looks nice/smells nice/ her eyes are beautiful/ whatever. you know what you love about her, wont hurt to tell her will it??
relax together, laugh, enjoy each others company.
spend time together doing things you want to do, even an afternoon a month is good if its quality time.
think a little and you will find the perfect things to do. you obviously love your partner and its good you dont want to let your love life slide. best wishes xx
2007-10-29 11:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by dreamcatcher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take her to a resort for ur ann. get a suite somewhere and wine and dine her. then when u get home do a lil role playing every no an then. if she likes toys then try that. i would recommend going to a store that has toys and games. let her pick out somethin she likes. make it a ritual. once a month u go to the store and get somethin new an exciting. also try unorthadox places like outside in the rain, a pool, the kitchen where ever. let ur imaginations run wild. when you are married the sky is the limit!!!
2007-10-29 11:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you are trying.
Always...no matter what, make time for each other. Put work and life aside. Take a nice relaxing bath togather, get intimate again. Set aside a special time for each other at least once a week and no matter what, keep to it.
Try new things, explore your sexuality togather, don't be afraid to open up and tell each other exactly what it is you want, maybe try going to a adult store togather to find somethings you would both like. Try giving each other sensual messages.
and lastly, communication is VERY important.
2007-10-29 11:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out some other spices; too much of one thing sort of takes away the taste. That is why spices come in a wide variety of offerings.
2007-10-29 11:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-11-01 09:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show your boss this question.he will take care of your pressure-after he laughs at your childish spelling.
2007-10-29 11:10:04 · answer #11 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋