Family & Relationships - 1 October 2007

I met a guy recently on the net . I've met him in person also. We've casually been out a couple of times (just for lunch/coffee/shopping). We know each other quite well & I know I can trust him. So please..when you answer my question, don't tell me not to trust people i have met on the net :)

So anyway, he has had 2 "online/phone" relationships with girls who are overseas...far away...whom he's never met in person. When he was in that relationship they had even considered marriage! One of these two girls is now engaged to someone else but this gal is still VERY GOOD friends with him. They are VERY close. Mind you, they have never met in person but yet they are very close (platonic)

So my question is, we've been on 2 "dates" so far & 3e talk very frequently on the phone. He still has not made any "moves" on me. So do you think he just wants friendship with me or is he scared to make the moves on me? We have known each other for about 6 months now.

Pls give me ur opinion. Thanks!

2007-10-01 21:16:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Both my BF and I have (for me had) a friend. This friend has often lied and talked badly about each of us behind each others back. Especially when we first started dating. Some of these lies have taken a toll on our relationship.
Among the things he's meddled with in our relationship..he's stolen and spread personal and private photos of ours on the internet-and when caught denied it and then never apologized. He comes around my BF's parents house and expects to stay for free anytime. That's 3 ppl in one tiny room. While there, he always nags me and presses my buttons. But my BF can't get him to stop. He also picks fights with me a lot.
And just recently, he lied to my BF's parents, accusing me of beating my BF up all the time.(as if I could, even) And they believe everything he says -cause he's that kinda guy.
Then he picks a fight with me later on and ends up getting me kicked out;100 miles away.
Now, he's living freely off my BF's parents, and he's 30!
Is it bad to want him gone?

2007-10-01 21:16:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I love her, and I am hurting so bad to finally do this, but i have to break it off with my gf of over 2 years. Shes been mean to me, controlling, wont let me spend my money how i want, talks bad about my family, puts me down, spys on methrough my emails, kissed another guys neck, wont let me have the career i want if i stay with her, and keeps breaking up with me on and off, and gets mad at me for every little thing i do (like calling the suicide hotline when she told me she was gonna kill herself and stopped answering her phone).. however.. when she doesnt do this she is sweet and nice and she is very beautiful and she even took me on a date last month.. but i cant deal with what shes doing. i know its going to hurt her very bad and i want to do it as painlessly as possible, bc i know its going to hurt me very deeply too.. so I have 2 things i need help with. 1. how can i break up with her gently. 2. How can i deal with it, i dont even know what its like not to have her in my life.

2007-10-01 21:12:49 · 10 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Singles & Dating

Say you live together and are a couple (of coarse )and your asleep on the couch and she cant sleep,is it ok to wake you for intamacy?Should she feel intimidated and nervous?

2007-10-01 21:10:54 · 12 answers · asked by wherestasha 2 in Singles & Dating

Even if their only a year or two apart.

2007-10-01 21:07:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This girl at class, we always have a good chat, but theres this really wierd thing she does, everytime im about to leave, ill be like seeya and nearly walk off..., then she really slowly and quietly(really quietly)mumbles " see you later...and sometimes she gets half way thought "later" and stops....its really cute, but is she trying to show her feelings towards me?, we always talk now, at the start she used to be shy, now shes opened up heaps, and talks to me alot!
im from canada, and goto canada high school if that makes any difference

2007-10-01 21:07:25 · 4 answers · asked by dinnn 1 in Singles & Dating

there's a girl whom i don't know very well, but a little. friend of a friend.

tonight, i saw her for the first time since the spring. she said several times that i looked nice and complimented some of the stuff i was wearing, even though i wasn't dressed up, really. she also laughed at my jokes. both of us are straight and single.

i have lost some weight and got some new clothes since i saw her last. (i didn't change for her, obviously.)

is this a sign of attraction, or just nothing?

2007-10-01 21:07:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She also gives me false intensions. Wy would she do something lie that?

2007-10-01 20:59:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This girl in my college is sooo nice...i mean i've had a HUGE crush on her...She sits beside me in Chem lab but English is my second language and im just afraid that i wont be able to have a good communication with her...i mean i can almost speak about random things but when it comes to joking or some other things i have some difficulties to understand or talk....but im really into her !!! GOD...i dont know what i should do !!!i cant stop thinking about her ! i will do anything to get her but im just afraid...

2007-10-01 20:55:50 · 16 answers · asked by Ali 4 in Singles & Dating

Last month my roommate was packing to take off with her boyfriend to another city for the weekend, the day before rent was due. I asked if she was just going to leave me a check for rent and I'd pay it. Her reply, "Uh, no- I don't have the money." This infuriated me. A mutual friend was covering her shifts that weekend. I asked why she was going out of town if she didn't have money for rent. She just looked at me. I went into my room and shut the door- to calm down a bit.

20 minutes later she came into my room with a check for rent. I didn't cash for a week to be certain she had the money.

Wednesday, she asked me to go shopping. Before we left she checked her bank account and only had $52, so we didn,'t go. She's worked twice since then and tonight she hurt herself playing soccer, so she called in to work for tomorrow. Rent was due today. We get a penalty after the 5th- not to mention it looks terrible to pay it after the 1st.

How should I approach this?

2007-10-01 20:55:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

What is it that I’m feeling?
Is it luv or is it my lonliness calling out to me?
Day or night…you are on my mind
Awake or asleep….it is you I think of
And it doesn't seem to stop…
Tell me what it is
Is it luv…or is it just my lonliness calling out out to me?

2007-10-01 20:52:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am often awoken by my wife and we end up being very romantic. I get some very sweet kisses. As i lay back i am often having trouble feeling just turned on by what she does.

I hate myself but I keep thinking about her sisters (she has 5)
I have my mind pop one on me, one on my face, one kissing my wife and the little sister(17) is always snifing around my bottom like a truffling hog. By this stage i am usually about ready to pop.

I wish i could focus on my wife. i am sure i do love her. maybe she doesn't do it very well. Maybe it could be all my fault but it seems more like hers.

Advice anyone? Thanks xx

2007-10-01 20:39:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

amongst general popularity census we nowadays see that women more than men prefer anal sex....
is there more safety than fear from pregnancy.
or
the fear of not to lose virginity and at the same time indulge............
please answer with seriouness.

2007-10-01 20:39:19 · 19 answers · asked by mh02m1968 2 in Singles & Dating

I want out but, I've got kids, can't drive cause I'm on meds, can't leave cause it will only be more difficult and he said he'd give me hell and I know he will. I can cheat and get away with it. He does things behind my back and I always catch him lying.I'm not emotionally, physically, mentally being satisfied and though he knows what I want - he doesn't even try. I've been good to him, but I don't want to be anymore cause I 'm sick and tired of giving and getting little in return. So if you knew that I really couldn't leave- would u say it was ok to cheat?

2007-10-01 20:28:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When my husband and I argue he always makes me feel like its my fault. I know its not but I take the high road and apologize and make up. I do this because he will apologize after going on a tirade about how I am always doing this to him and blah blah blah. We have a very good relationship when we arent arguing. We talk about everything and laugh together and just have fun together. Well last night his phone was cutting out and I couldn't understand him. I told him that too. Like "hey I can't understand you your phone is cutting out" Well when reception got better he started talking again and I was a little lost on the conversation. I told him this and he was so frustrated and pissed about having to repeat himself for the 3rd time he lost it. He started yelling and cussing and we got into a fight. I was trying to stand up for myself and everything escelated. Now he's pissed because he expects me to apologize. And I did for hanging up on him and then saying the phone cut off.

2007-10-01 19:48:40 · 15 answers · asked by natasha 4 in Marriage & Divorce

On June 11th, 2006 my youngest brother died in a motorcycle accident. He was the 3r4 of 4 siblings. I am the only female among these. The sibling who'd have preceded me was a mid-term, terrible miscarriage. The oldest brother is 8 years older than I. Here is the unfortunate problem. Ever since my youngest brother died, my mother has developed a strong resentment for me. I think it is because I'm female and she preferred her sons to me. I can not even really discuss this issue, nor tell her I suffer from what I feel it is an uncalled for behaviour which I can not repair.
This Oct 30th, will be my mother's birthday . . I have never failed to give or send her a gift.
However the last time we talked, only a few days ago, she told me she wanted me to stay away, and hung up.
I've bought her some birthday presents because it's not in my heart to leave her out, no matter how harsh she's now to me. I DO still love her, no matter what. What would you do, if you were me?Send the gifts anyway?

2007-10-01 19:45:48 · 15 answers · asked by skydancerwi 6 in Family

I called her and she says it is true. I am so confused I do not know who to believe. He was really hurt by his brothers accusations. I had faith in him, but after talking to her I am not sure anymore. She was reluctant to even say anything at first she did not want to hurt anybody but she confirmed the accusations. To my knowledge he has never cheated on me before. When I confronted him about it he was sort of neutral in his response (neutral - meaning he was not angry or hurt, just sort of calm) . He of course denied it, but I don't know who I should believe. She stated she did have feelings for him. Also, they were in a relationship together before he was involved with me. Which was about 14 yrs ago.

2007-10-01 19:44:50 · 12 answers · asked by alegna 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a big dilemna here.
My brother lives in OH and i live in CA. He is going through a terrible divorce. He called me yesterday completely distraut and i am serisouly worried about him.
I have tried to call him all day and he doesn't answer his home phone and his cell phone is set on a "no accepted call" setting.
I don't know who to call as he is all by himself. I have no way to get a hold of him or check on him.
Should i call the police and at what point would they care? I talked to him 32 hours ago....will they take it seriously??
This is a serious matter......please anyone give me advice.....

2007-10-01 19:29:16 · 5 answers · asked by arwyr 1 in Family

My husband & I have been separated for 11 1/2 months. It has been a messy separation (I left due to emotional abuse), but now he is really making an effort to be friends. I'm not sure what his motives are other than we are both so very tired of fighting. He is trying for 50% custody of our children (4 year old boy & 3 1/2 month old baby girl - I was pregnant when I left). Recently, he came to me & asked me if I really want to go through with the divorce. He says he realizes he was not a great husband & he wonders if we'd make it if we tried again. I'm really confused, because my love for him has never been an issue. He says he loves me too & he's sorry for the way he treated me. There have been other women during our separation. I went through the pregnancy alone. My sister-in-law & I have always gotten along really well. She talks to him on a regular basis & may be able to shed some light on his motives & sincerity. Is it a wise move to ask her her opinion?

2007-10-01 19:27:54 · 11 answers · asked by Shannon H 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a south asian raised in america who has been married for 2 years. I had good schooling and have good job (as does husband). For the first year of my marriage, my husband and I lived abroad. Now I am back in the U.S. and living with his family. This is common in my culture, but not in America. His mother is a little older and while mobile, needs help around the house, which I provide. But my husband thinks i don't do enough. (I clean the house, cook a twice a week, do dishes, and try to keep house clean. I also do all my hubby/my laundry and ironing, and deal with all our bills.) I work 40 hours a week, and commute 2 hrs/day. My husband works about 70 to 80/ week and rarely helps me. His father, and siblings never help.

I am sick of doing everything and listening to him say i need to do more. I have told him I want my own house. He says he won't leave his parents. I love him. I know he loves me--in all other ways he treats me well--never yells, is caring, loving, etc.what do i do?

2007-10-01 19:24:23 · 7 answers · asked by Firefly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

no similar questions found.. wow
What if you had to move away from your home town when you were 15, then in H.S. you chose friends perhaps known as the "druggies", started smoking pot, eventually drinking, and blacking out 3 times a week from getting drunk. I can't smoke pot anymore, or drink. How do you start over again? I don't even want to do that stuff even though I can't anymore (other issue) so wein, wine, cry, yeah , yeah., why not try this question

2007-10-01 19:20:41 · 6 answers · asked by Julia Caeser 1 in Friends

2007-10-01 19:18:54 · 7 answers · asked by tefola06 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've already lived through the worst of it,...I've taken hold of my own responsibility in the matter. I've admitted it and it pains me to absolutely no end. I am grieving. Beyond belief. I've gotten us into some serious financial peril. I know. On the other hand, so has he with his “wants” turned “need.” But at the same time, I want to fix it as best as I can so as to move past this stagnant little … well, let’s just say, this pond.. Where do we go from here? I'm about as mucked as I can possibly be...how to clean up the mess now? ...haul it out and make fertilizer out of it and buy a new horse? I could leave the situation Scot free with precious few ramifications but I feel it is my responsibility to repair some of the damage I caused. The short story is that I don't see this relationship surviving it and it seems like he needs to vent on me more than he needs to heal. At what point does venting become healing or even abuse? From the looks of it on screen, I should seek out an appropriate shrink. From my vantage point, I see no way to rectify the matter(s) since he's not willing to move past it. It's been 2 months. We’ve been together for more than 7 years. Sometimes I wish I'd committed the crimes that I'm accused of now. Of some I'm guilty, of most, I’m not. Where do we go from here?

2007-10-01 19:18:09 · 15 answers · asked by berecca 2 in Marriage & Divorce

So I really think that diamonds are so over played and I really don't want one.. I told my boyfriend that I would rather have a pearl. My mom thinks that I am crazy.
What do you think?

2007-10-01 19:18:06 · 18 answers · asked by MissAmber 2 in Weddings

2007-10-01 19:13:16 · 15 answers · asked by jlg_jdf 2 in Weddings

2007-10-01 19:09:34 · 7 answers · asked by Lady Scorpio 2 in Marriage & Divorce

He is working alot and seems to be in another world when he is home .This past week he went on a hunting trip.The last two years we haven't been on a vacation because he said we could not afford it.

2007-10-01 19:04:51 · 16 answers · asked by Help Me 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Can you get a marriage license in one county (the one I live in for example) and then use it in the one where you plan to marry?

I'm getting married in SF and it would be easier to get the license locally vs SF.

2007-10-01 19:03:10 · 7 answers · asked by Smarty Pants 3 in Weddings

Single people between the ages of 18 and 25 need only answer.

I am a 19 year old straight guy, I will be 20 in 25 days, I was talking to a girl yesterday, and the conversation led to sex. She asked me when the last time I had sex was and I told her 1 year and 11 months ago.

She got so freaked out. She didn't believe me. I didn't understand. So, I asked other people why this is so weird, but no one would give me an answer, they would just say "It's just weird."

No one knows this, but I've only had sex with one girl, and she broke my heart, really bad, and I just haven't been interested in sex all that much since she broke my heart. I've had plenty of opportunities, but I just didn't take them.

Why is this weird that the last time I had sex was almost 2 years ago?

2007-10-01 19:02:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I think the 3 bridesmaids will all be different sizes. Drastically different sizes. The (likely) maid of honor is a bigger girl & one is slightly overweight & the other is tiny tiny. I am concerned that I won't be able to find something that they all look good in and feel comfortable in. The wedding may be outdoors (still undecided) so I'm not sure if that matters. I was thinking maybe the same skirt with the same top just in different styles (strapless, halter, etc.) or the same color of dress in different styles, or maybe having one unique item for each one like a shawl, gloves, etc. (but not to the extent that it looks weird) any suggestions or tips?

2007-10-01 19:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda 4 in Weddings