Both my BF and I have (for me had) a friend. This friend has often lied and talked badly about each of us behind each others back. Especially when we first started dating. Some of these lies have taken a toll on our relationship.
Among the things he's meddled with in our relationship..he's stolen and spread personal and private photos of ours on the internet-and when caught denied it and then never apologized. He comes around my BF's parents house and expects to stay for free anytime. That's 3 ppl in one tiny room. While there, he always nags me and presses my buttons. But my BF can't get him to stop. He also picks fights with me a lot.
And just recently, he lied to my BF's parents, accusing me of beating my BF up all the time.(as if I could, even) And they believe everything he says -cause he's that kinda guy.
Then he picks a fight with me later on and ends up getting me kicked out;100 miles away.
Now, he's living freely off my BF's parents, and he's 30!
Is it bad to want him gone?
2007-10-01 21:16:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, he's the kind of guys who totally charismatic, hence my BF's parents love him and listen to his every word. So when he says bad things about me or my bf to them - they believe it all. And their own son can't make them believe otherwise. Which I have witnessed 1st hand.
My bf himself has said he's "ruined his life" with the lies he's told about us. But he so easily let's himself get walked all over...(and I hate saying that about him)
People think eating all the household food is bad, he also uses up at least 2 of 4 of my bf's asthma inhalors in 1 week! Those get expensive! And my bf NEEDS them -he only has an allergy (not to mention, his OWN inhalor!)
I don't think it's right that he treated me like that, and got me forced to leave & quit my job;and is now freeloading of my bf's parents' retirement. (My bf pays for his own stuff.)He really has no respect for my bf, and OBVIOUSLY no respect for me.
I think it's only fair that if he wants to be 'our' friend, as of now,he should not
2007-10-01 21:16:22 · update #1
.....I think it's only fair that if he wants to be 'our' friend, as of now,he should not be around us because he has caused a lot of conflict. And I feel he needs to realize this.
Is that really wrong??
2007-10-01 21:19:35 · update #2
get rid of him, he is a freeloader with no respect for you or your bf. some friend he is. he is NOT your or your bf's friend. he sounds like a terrible person whom you need to remove from your lives permantely as quickly as possible. it is NOT bad to want him gone. he is nasty, rude freeloader who is making everyone's life miserable. what a waste of space.
2007-10-01 21:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem with my sisters, but I have no choice but to like them. I could hate them, but that is unhealthy to me. I could forget them, but that is not an option.
That doesn't subtract from the fact that it is dangerous to be around them.... Maybe I can see their good side, just not deal with them because they cause me trouble.
So, I think that is best: for you: Like him, but just don't deal with him anymore.
Especially, don't offer your home to him for free. He has to earn that by not hurting you..
2007-10-01 21:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f should know how to identify a 'pest' and how to deal with it.
2007-10-01 21:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋