Family & Relationships - 1 October 2007

I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR FIVE YEARS IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, HE NEVER DISCLOSES TO ANYONE THAT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND I FIND THAT STRANGE, HE NEVER TALKS ABOUT MARRIAGE AND ITS MAKING ME REALLY INSECURE. HE CONSTANTLY FLIRTS WITH OTHER GIRLS HOWEVER SINCE I FEEL I KNOW MY BOYFRIEND I KNOW THE FLIRTING IS HARMLESS AND HE IS ONLY DOING IT TO MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER ABOUT HIMSELF. HE RECENTLY TOOK HIS EX OUT FOR DINNER AND NEVER TOLD ME ABOUT IT HOWEVER HE GETS ANGRY WHEN I TALK TO OTHER MEN. I RECENTLY GOT A LIFT TO WORK FROM HIS MATE AND HE BECAME VERY ANGRY SO HE HIT ME. PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I AM FEELING REALLY DEPRESSED. I FEEL I CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM!

2007-10-01 23:56:25 · 18 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my bf for 3 years and we have lived together for about 18 months, i love him to bits and would love to take our relationship to the next level, but he wants to stay like we are. he has never told me he loves me. I have children from a previous relationship and he treats them like his own which is great, we are a family but i would like to get married as this is how i feel i love him and feel i am ready to marry him and settle down properly. I have strong feelings about this but every time i try to talk to him about it he just tells me "i am going on and on and he doesn't want marriage and that is the end of the matter" when i tell him i love him he just says whatever this hurts. What do i do?

2007-10-01 23:39:41 · 41 answers · asked by sea salt 1 in Marriage & Divorce

On a scale from 1-10, how submissive are you to your man.

2007-10-01 23:08:54 · 7 answers · asked by YOU BETCHA 2 in Singles & Dating

make love, just sleep, party all night...

2007-10-01 23:06:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-10-01 23:05:12 · 3 answers · asked by insecuregal 2 in Singles & Dating

my hen night got took out of my hands my partners work collegues arranged on for me where i go out on friday and we do all the clubs and that well he said yes for me and so it was all aranged well i felt bad if i then said no. well i get married on saturday and me and my bridsmaid who is 11 were ment to be sleeping at my mums and now my mums not happy that its all arranged on that night because it means we cant sleep round and so i told my partner that i just cant do it because i have got to much to do on that night and i have to be up about 6 on saturday so now my partners not happy would you go out on the night before your wedding and not get in till gone 12 at night knowing that you had to sleep at your own house and get up about 5 so i could get round to mums?

2007-10-01 22:57:55 · 18 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Weddings

I have a problem at work as I am experiencing intense desire for a co worker who I find very attractive and a great personality - she is aware of it and we have been out to coffee and found we enjoy spending time together - problem is I am married and should not be carrying on like this but find her irresistable - I saw a program on BBC prime about desire and it is one of the most powerful of emotions and can be a positive emotion when in love but can also be very destructive.
It can lead to taking extreme risks - like destroying a marriage of 20 yrs to satisfy a craving for someone new. Has anyone had this problem or am I a vulnerable personality type - obsessive, introverted??
Any ideas please...

2007-10-01 22:49:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

MEN.. what on earth is going on in your head when you act like this with a woman?
You've often flirted before and have a connection.then one day you know kisses etc but not sex (you try, she's type that waits a bit) . Seems like the usual start of something but you don't contact her next day, or next day, or next day!! Say she contacts you and suggests meeting up...and you don't reply...WHAT'S GOING ON IN YOUR HEAD?

2007-10-01 22:28:45 · 10 answers · asked by this girl wants to know 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 25 and have been in a relationship for 3 years. We are really happy. We have a house, a dog and two cats. I'm aching for a baby and I want to get married but It's hard to wait untill we're married for have a baby. I don't want to be 30 and no kids and not married. I want to be a younger mum. My boyfriends keeps saying he wants a baby now, should I give in or should I stick it out untill we're married?

2007-10-01 22:21:34 · 24 answers · asked by Georgia W 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Am I the only one in this world who thinks there is big difference between making love and having sex?!! I have talked to several people about this and I haven't found many people (especially guys) knowing this ... Many of them just looked puzzled once I talk to them about this ...
Okay I know sometimes someone might have a lot of feelings for another and they actually have little making love in thier sex ... but I am talking about the real making love. Here is what I think is the difference between them:
* While having sex, the feelings are just dull physical with the goal of just reaching orgasm, while making love I feel that orgasm is something I don't want to reach as it signals the end of heaven.
* During sex, a guy mostly working out the genitals and using the kissing and foreplay as a tool to losen the girl and get her ready for intercourse. While in making love, the couple just worship all body parts and every touch (even touching the hair) sends trembling feeling all over.

2007-10-01 22:17:53 · 15 answers · asked by Wild_Stallion 2 in Singles & Dating

I love having sex and could do it about 20 times a day, is it just nature or am I a sex addict ?

Sometimes I've stayed of work just to lay in bed with a girl I've pulled, is this normal or just a high sex drive.

2007-10-01 22:15:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she said she is fed up and it sounds like her other friends are having much more fun at their uni's, she feels alone and stuck in her room most of the time, how can i help?

2007-10-01 22:06:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Would you run and hide, or stick with the girl and make a complete idiot out of her?

2007-10-01 22:04:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-01 21:58:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been told by many people that I am very attractive (9+ to 10, long blonde hair, blue eyes, fit/lean/ great financially ) and I have a college education and a great career...my question is I cannot for the life of me find a good guy (good looking, smart, great career,etc...etc...etc...)

Help...what am I doing wrong? Where should I go to meet great guys?

My single friends go to bars to meet guys and the rest of my friends are already married...but their husbands friends would NEVER be my type. I will go to bars occassionally but I follow a body building/ fittness model diet and work out and really cannot drink to much.

Can you please help...seriously...ANY ADVICE?

2007-10-01 21:55:35 · 13 answers · asked by Calisofie 3 in Singles & Dating

ok! it has been 3 weeks!!!!since my mother in law the b-tch!!...spoke to my hubby declaring she wants nothing to do with me, i am counting the days eager to see her or awnser the phone.... what are ways i can tell her to **** off !! i mean ive benn with my hubby 11 years and she still does not accept me! only creates problems. she wants my husband to leave me! but my hubby loves me and wont have it! but she tires me!!!! she had one of her son's divorce allready! i just want to say it right! "she is mad" becuase she believes i took her son from her!!! "lunatic"

2007-10-01 21:53:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We work in two different departments and I see him occasionaly when he comes up to my floor. I feel like I am sooooo infatuated by him, like, this is the biggest crush I have ever had in my life. My heart skips a beat when he comes around and I can't breathe when he is close to me. I just want to reach out and stroke him, just one nice looooonnnng time. When he is talking to me, I just want to kiss him and start making out right then and there. He was sitting very closely behind me the other day rocking his leg and it was tapping my azz. It was driving me crazy so I slid up. I'm not sure if he knows that I like him yet but I want to make it known to him very soon. He asked when was the next time that I worked and it just so happens that I'm on the same schedule as him. Somebody please tell me... What do I do?

2007-10-01 21:47:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a first grade teacher getting married in June (after school is out). I really want a flower girl in my wedding. I am wondering if it would be appropriate to ask the parents of one of my students if their daughter can be in my wedding. I am concerned that it might seem unprofessional. I am also concerned that it might be seen as favoritism or cause jealousy among the other girls in my class (although, since the wedding isn't until school is out, I think the parents and I could keep it a secret from the flower girl until the school year is over -- that would greatly minimize the chance of other kids finding out or being jealous).

I do have one other option. My cousin has a little girl who will be about 2 1/2 or 3 in June. The downsides are that she is rather young and I have only met her twice, so it wouldn't be quite as meaningful to me to have her in the wedding.

What do you think?

2007-10-01 21:46:49 · 19 answers · asked by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 in Weddings

is it true if you guys have been hurt in your past relationship you get scared to be commited to someone else again?

2007-10-01 21:42:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Guys, please look at this situation: you have a female friend that you have flirted with a bit in the past...you're not really close friends but sort of friends. Then she's in your area and you hook up and kiss plus bit more. You're on for sex but she isn't (but she doesnt explain its because she needs time & likes to take it slowly). Is it most likely that you feel something for this girl and would like to go out with her or are you just looking for some and strung her along in the hopes that you could get it?

2007-10-01 21:41:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Got in to a relationship (stupidly) with a guy who had just recently broken up with his ex-gf (just over a month). initially, i genuinely to just want to be his friend and help him thru his breakup. little did i know, he was the nicest guy i know and i started to fall for him.he treated me well (but obviously he was rebounding). anyway,he realised it and broke it off with me telling me he needs time to sort out his still existing feelings for hs ex. i was crushed initially and went thru various levels of reaction..ranging from denial to desperation.in the end, i realised what i was doing and agreed to give him time.i told him if he wants me to leave but he wouldn't say.he just keeps telling me to give him time.i have since start to contact him less but still drop him a line once in a while to show support. thing is..this is killing me.i'm hurting like hell but i know i cant force someone to like or accept me when they are not ready. i want so much to cut all ties but i still care=(

2007-10-01 21:40:21 · 10 answers · asked by BunnyBunz 2 in Singles & Dating

How do you get a guys attention in a bar...without being sleazy

2007-10-01 21:31:12 · 5 answers · asked by Calisofie 3 in Singles & Dating

My best friend is always under loads and loads of pressure by her parents. She's vietnamese and her parents were brought up in very very strict households in Vietnam. They expect the very very very very best of her in absolutely everything she does. They never listen to her and even though it's the holidays she isn't allowed to go anywhere outside her house like shopping or movies or even to a friend's house. Her parents are forcing her to study school material for next year... she can't do anything about it. They won't let her on msn and she isn't allowed to call anyone from her homephone (but thank god she can use her mobile in secret). There's no point in her arguing or anything because it never leads anywhere. She's really upset and I want to help her stand up to her parents and let them know she had enough of their crap. I suggested she runaway but she's worried bout police. I really want to talk to her in person somewhere b4 skool in a few days. How do I get her out of the house?

2007-10-01 21:30:21 · 2 answers · asked by boyofgeorge 1 in Friends

2007-10-01 21:30:18 · 2 answers · asked by sara 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

we've been friends for some time already. some things he does include.. telling me stories and asking qns about me when we do talk.he smiles and mumbles alot when he talks to me. and when we walk together, he slows his pace. changed his bus route for mine once and made like he wanted my no but kept his phone.

he avoids physical contact and when other guys talk to me he stares alot. he texted me continuously for 4 days though he had an exam and always ended with a qn.

ok, he stared alot at me in class all year, he'd choose seats opposite me or somethin. when i used to catch him, he'd look away. now, he holds my gaze. we hardly talk in class..and i'm too embarrassed to say hi or look at him. however, i do text him if ever, out of the blue.. just to let him know im interested.

is that enough..? and lessons are ending soon, is it ok to ask him out? thanks =)

2007-10-01 21:30:13 · 7 answers · asked by Nat 2 in Singles & Dating

My gf and I have a long distance relationship untill I graduate. (im in KY shes in MO) When I do graduate I am moving there and staying at my friends house there for minmal rent. Anyway, our relationship has been rocky lately at best, and shes been "breaking up then unbreaking up with me" and thats driving me crazy and making me upset. OK, so the other day I told her my parents where getting me a new guitar for my 18th bday next week, and she got mad about it saying I dont need it because I already have 5 other guitars, and that I should ask for money for when I move there. However, I have wanted this gutiar for a long time (Gibson LP Custom) Last night she broke up with me again "for good" and I was extremly depressed. I cried, puked, i was a mess. So this morning with and "idc anymore" attitude I went and bought the guitar myself, and just asked my parents for $$ for moving there. She called me 2day "undo the breakup". How do i tell her i got the guitar w/o pissing her off?

2007-10-01 21:27:05 · 16 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Singles & Dating

And my sister thinks that I'm jealous of her because she's a lot smaller & shorter in shape and my man used to talk to her a lot when he first met her and when he stopped talking to her (cause she's a boring b*tch) she tried to accuse me of telling him to stop talking to her out of jealousy, and so did her bf. And she's been convinced ever since last year that my bf wants her. Now I think they think that he ignores her and is supposedly 'rude' to her because he knows he can't have her.

Is this crazy or are they on to something? I know he can't stand her because of all the sh*t she talks and her ego.

2007-10-01 21:19:43 · 2 answers · asked by Daniel's Woman 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My friend came back from a holiday abroad saying that he had had an accident and now he has lost 90% of his sight and that he can't read or watch TV. He can only see things if he puts his nose right up against them and everything else is just a blurred outline. Yet he walks about at normal.speed. Crossing roads, walking up steps etc: perfectly normally.
I just couldn't make it out untill I heard that he is expecting to get £100K off the holiday insurance.
In the past he has bragged about pulling off Insurance scams. Is there any kind of blindness that the person cannot see anyting close up or far off but he can negotiate at normal walking pace, roads, steps, kerbs, lamposts, road works, etc: perfectly as normal. I want to believe him because this would be such a terrible lie to tell.

2007-10-01 21:19:41 · 6 answers · asked by Wunout O 1 in Friends

2007-10-01 21:19:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I hooked up with this girl 5 weeks ago twice, then i told her i couldnt because i still liked my ex. i ended up getting back with my ex, and she started a relationship with a guy in texas. bear in mind we live in california. my gf lives in connecticut, and im probably going to end it in a week if not 2. my question is, if this girl and i have remained friends, but friends who talk about the pitfalls of our relationships and stuff, how can i go about getting her to break up with her bf for me? any tips on how to sway her to coming for me? im about to make a cadet move and break up with my gf for this purpose so please give good advice here.

2007-10-01 21:18:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating