Got in to a relationship (stupidly) with a guy who had just recently broken up with his ex-gf (just over a month). initially, i genuinely to just want to be his friend and help him thru his breakup. little did i know, he was the nicest guy i know and i started to fall for him.he treated me well (but obviously he was rebounding). anyway,he realised it and broke it off with me telling me he needs time to sort out his still existing feelings for hs ex. i was crushed initially and went thru various levels of reaction..ranging from denial to desperation.in the end, i realised what i was doing and agreed to give him time.i told him if he wants me to leave but he wouldn't say.he just keeps telling me to give him time.i have since start to contact him less but still drop him a line once in a while to show support. thing is..this is killing me.i'm hurting like hell but i know i cant force someone to like or accept me when they are not ready. i want so much to cut all ties but i still care=(
2007-10-01 21:40:21 · 10 answers · asked by BunnyBunz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what would you do..if you were in my shoes? would you stop supporting him...should i let go..=(
2007-10-01 21:41:28 · update #1
I would not contact him. Let him contact you if he needs your support. Be there when he does call. They say if you set them free and they return, it is meant to be. I would give him his space and not contact him at all. It is one of the worst feelings to be the subject of a rebound. You need to try to go on with your life. It really does hurt to really like someone who doesn't like you in the same way. At least he was honest about it. It is different if someone was married versus just dating and how long they dated. It also depends on each person. I am sorry you are feeling so bad. It will get easier and the best way to get over him, is to leave him to himself. He knows your feelings. God Bless you.
2007-10-01 21:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to somebody you cared so much..but you have to give distance And it is more painful when your the one being break up by a bf.. It is like torturing you.. It is always the one that is left behind who suffers and feels the pain. I tell you he wouldnt know that and wouldnt understand even if you tell him.
let him missed you madly.. you already showed what love you can offer, let him figure out what his missing.. If he doesnt come back then maybe your worth more than this man. Why would you want somebody who doesnt give value to what you can give.. He cannot do that if your always there on her side..sending msgs,emailing,calling etc.. Let him breath his own air. He should feel that love is sickening to the stomach to let go of you. Love should be crazy love..
Second reason i could think of is that other guys say they cant think and want space to think but at the back of their mind they just want to get out of the relationship and save their face of the truth that they are jerks to break a womans heart. It is bad for their image..
One or two, you still have to give space and time if he comes back then his yours..
2007-10-02 05:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by sweeter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off for now. Give him some space. If you don't he will never completely sort those feelings out, and one day he will be cheating on you with her. I know this from experience. Try never to be the rebound relationship. It takes more than a few months to get over someone that you love. It took my ex boyfriend 2 years,when he left his previous ex. When I left him, it took me just over 18 months.
2007-10-02 04:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and be there for support if you really want it. You never know, you two may end up getting back together or you have scored yourself one hell of a friend.
I would sit him down and explain to him that I am going to back off from the wanting us to be together, to give him time. If he wants it all he has to do is say, I want to be with you, I am over her. But that I will always be there as a friend, and then hope it turns into more.
2007-10-02 04:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by weirdgodess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from someone with experience. MOVE ON!!!! If he ever lets go and seeks you out and you still feel something then maybe you can work at it then. For now let it go and stop wasting your time. It may seem like you are thinking about him all the time and you miss him, etc, you will eventually stop missing him and you will be better for it.
2007-10-02 04:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by shotsbabywilliam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop contacting after telling him that you want to give him the time he needs and for him to call you when he's ready. Emphasise that you still care for him and that you're prepared to wait for a while for him to sort himself out. You might find that your feelings change with less regular contact. Good luck!
2007-10-02 04:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say move on cause he sounds confused, if he really wanted to be with u then that shouldn't have came out his mouth. But if he go with her and run back to u, he's playing u. be careful and follow ur heart
2007-10-02 04:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by nos626typer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest letting it go for now. He's told you he needs time.
2007-10-02 04:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't push.Let ihim make his move if he really cares he will come back.
2007-10-02 04:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"if you love someone, set him free, if he comes back to you, treasure him forever".
2007-10-02 04:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋