Family & Relationships - 1 October 2007

I have bent over backwards for him. I have gone places I did not want to go just to please him. I have watched stuff on TV I am not interested in just to make him happy. I have done way too much over the last few years to satisfy him just so he could treat me like a door mat.
Tonite, he got so mad because I was cleaning up a spare bedroom and told him I did not actually like to watch CSI. He would not kiss me goodbye or hug me or anything and went home. He lives about 3 blocks or so away from me.
Is it me or is it him. We had a nice evening sitting in the swing outside and watching the stars, but when he found out I didnt want to watch his prized TV show, he threw a fit. I told him I have been doing a lot of things for him and its going to stop because he hasnt taken me into consideration for anything he ever does for example he went to his class reunion and did not invite me. He goes to football games and doesnt invite me. I am tired of being ignored. Is it me or him?

2007-10-01 16:53:03 · 3 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-01 16:52:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please include specifics. What issues eventually led to the split?

2007-10-01 16:52:28 · 14 answers · asked by florita 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm really quiet and pretty shy until you get to know me. I feel like I'm "unlikeable" to guys, and whenever I have a suspicion that a guy might like me, I just tell myself it's impossible because I'm so quiet. Are there any quiet people out there who've found really compatible boyfriends or girlfriends? Also, does 2 quiet people together work, or is one person usually quiet and the other loud?

2007-10-01 16:49:10 · 13 answers · asked by Katy H 3 in Singles & Dating

I am 21 and in Maryland, and there is a Navy Recreation Base in Solomons where my family used to go, courtesy of my grandfather who was once in the Air Force. Unfortunately, my grandma died and my mother, brother, and sister are no longer living in Maryland but are instead living with a crazy bipolar woman in Troy, NY whom my mother met online (LONG story). But the point is we can no longer go to the Navy Recreation Base, and yet I would like to be able to at least just like visit it again because it was so much fun, and I just want to see it again. But the only way I could even visit it would be if I was with someone who is/was in the military, i.e. if I met a guy who was in the military and we ended up together. Likewise, I do not want to date/marry/have a bf who is younger than me, or who is more than 5 years older than me. So are there any single guys between the ages of 21-26 who are, or are trying to be in the military and you are reading this and you want a gf?

2007-10-01 16:48:48 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why do most asian girls go for white guys instead of asian guys?

2007-10-01 16:48:21 · 21 answers · asked by nic 5 in Singles & Dating

This guy that I really like was talking to me about why he was single and how he feels that a foundation is needed for any relationship. Well, I agreed with him, but, I made a comment saying that I thought my ex-boyfriend and I would always be friends because we have a foundation. Also, my ex-boyfriend called while he was at my house and I told him that I was talking to the new guy that I like and the new guy got mad because he said that it was none of my ex-boyfriends business that I was talking to him. This new guy and I have had a sexual relationship and I really like him and I think he really likes me but, I don't know what to do to make things right. How do I redeem myself after this to let him know that I really like him. Even if it seems that my ex-boyfriend and I are still in contact with each other?

2007-10-01 16:47:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Someone told me that they love me and that they believe that I love them too but I am sometimes misguided by emotions? Can you explain?

2007-10-01 16:45:30 · 5 answers · asked by noble 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Its dang near impossible!

2007-10-01 16:44:37 · 13 answers · asked by LovelyMe 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm 18, I'm slim and I'm nicer than most girls these days. I don't go out for the bad boys type, I don't go to clubs or bars or whatever. People outside compliment me saying I look pretty, gorgeous and they even compliment my outfits too. Yet... no one ever asks me out? So is there any tips and tricks on how to lure someone? I know I can do that seductive thingie but I'm too scared he might be taken or not like me. Is there any way or location or whatever that you can suggest that they would be comfortable to approach me?

PS - I live in NYC and I'm 18... And I'm not stuck up or conceited, I'm asking a question because I need help... not to brag...

2007-10-01 16:44:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We are both 21 years old and many of my friends tell me that I should at least be engaged by now. Do you think thats selfish of me to want a ring and a commitment by now?

2007-10-01 16:40:36 · 24 answers · asked by rachelly22 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There is the girl whom I really like, and she doesn't share the same feelings towards me. I have been trying to get over her by meeting a lot of different girls and getting to know them. However, in the end, I think about this same girl again every night before my day goes out (before I go to bed).

It'd be nice if I could just choose not to love this girl anymore. I really thought she was the one for me. But this situation has indicated otherwise.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could fall in love with someone who was previously in love with us ?

What's your opinion on this ? INPUTS, PLEASE

2007-10-01 16:39:42 · 9 answers · asked by JustANiceGuyHere 4 in Singles & Dating

I'm 20, but how old do you think someone should be before they're allowed to date? i believe in 16, because honestly, who wants to have their parents pick up a girl and drop them off, and then pick them up again? I did that for my 8th grade dance. Even 6 years ago it was HORRIBLE!!!

2007-10-01 16:37:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-01 16:36:20 · 26 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4 in Marriage & Divorce

plz tell us what u think of each of these cakes for our wedding.our colors r white and black w/ red accents. alot of these cakes i would like to add a lttle bit of black details but tell me what u think of the overall cake (colors unimportant but if u c an interesting and classy way of incorporating black plz say so) thanks!!
http://www.novelty-cakes.net/i/c/red_roses.jpg
http://www.novelty-cakes.net/i/c/sweets_and_hearts.jpg
http://www.cinderellacakes.com/images/Weddings/slides/Weddings-19.htm

(this is a grooms cake that weve considered making a bridal cake just bc it looks ssoooo delciious!!!) http://www.betterbatterbakery.com/grfx/groom_novelty/book341.jpg
http://www.creativecakes.com/gallery/creativecakes4_7_06%20002.jpg

the flowers we have chosen r red roses (of course) and calla lilies. with the exception of the bridesmaids who will b wearing simple black satin gowns and carry mainly white roses w/ red for a splash of color. we also decided to use the joined hearts as a theme

2007-10-01 16:35:37 · 30 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Weddings

My bf broke up with me after he sent me a porn email and I ignored it. I had always played the hot and lusty wench for him in the past, but I was beginning to feel that he was using me. When he asked me why I ignored the email, I wrote "I'm just not feeling very sexual lately." He cancelled a trip with me then, saying I was being passive aggressive. After that, I tried to be friends, but he still didn't seem loving to me, so the anger in me just grew. I did some vengeful things to him and said honest (but insulting) things to him after that. Now I miss him dreadfully, but he will not have anything to do with me.

If it's that easy for him to cut off all ties with me after he had said so many times how deeply he loved me, it was all a lie, right? Is there any hope I can get him back? He lives in a different state from me, so it isn't easy to just "run into him." We also do not share mutual friends.

2007-10-01 16:33:05 · 13 answers · asked by nondescript 4 in Singles & Dating

Hey guys.. I wrote about this not long ago. I had alot of great answers.
Here is the link for those of you that didnt read it.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avw8oPFVq2BeJwlyx3KO8qHty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070827202544AAHM8oy

Well, Tonight, it got really bad. My little sister has moved in with me. She came to me tonight in tears. She said that my husband is making her feel very weird and uneasy. He is coming up to her and grabbing her *** and saying out of the way things.
When I confront him and tell him he needs to apologize to her, he confronts her and tells her that he doesnt have to say anything to her, this is his house.
So, I made him leave.
I am so torn.
I am so tired of him doing this, but, then again I dont know how to live without him... Please give me some advice.

Stacie

2007-10-01 16:32:09 · 16 answers · asked by stacie m 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend is running away and I want to go with her. I think my family hates me. After my dad died 2 years ago my mom has let my older brother punish me(including spanking me) Right now I live with my other brother because my mom and I arent getting along. So should my friend and I (both 14) run away?

2007-10-01 16:29:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

especially if the guy never treated her bad before, what would be the emotional cause?

2007-10-01 16:27:11 · 1 answers · asked by Señorita Bonita 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok so i just asked out a girl and she said ok. she is a cheerleader so this is kind of a the biggest date of my life. so where should i take her for a romantic first date. P.S. i got the money for really expensive things.

2007-10-01 16:26:35 · 16 answers · asked by artur s 2 in Singles & Dating

I am doing a study for my sociology class to see what the average time frame for each of the following is (in terms of relatinships). You can use the time frames you used in your own relationships, or what you view the norm is. I know it is all relative upon the people involved and each individual relationship, but please provide what you beleive to be the 'usual' time frame.

1.) How long the couple is together before they become intimate

2.) How long the couple is together before they say 'I love you'

3.) How long the couple is together before they move in together

4.) How long before the couple becomes engaged

5.) How long an average engagement lasts.

Thanks for your help

2007-10-01 16:22:32 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

okay guys i am not sure if this guy likes me.(keep thing clean okay im only in 7th grade) he hangs out with me and is in 5 of my classes. he keeps looking at me and does the puppy dog face. then when me, him and his friend were walking he randomly said u must really like her. then he got all quiet and looked down and keept walking. then he started talking to me. and i used to sit next to him. he acts kind of silly and dumb around me. he kept puttting his leg under mine. he walks with me in all 5 of my classes. he is always trying to act all tough around me. i think he likes me but help. will he ask me out if he likes me? should i tell him i like him?........ help

2007-10-01 16:21:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so she's not "technacally" my step mom.. but she started dating my dad(46) 3 monthes
ago. She just turned 21. To make a long story short, me and my dad have been close ever since i can remember, we hunt together.
i go over there every wednesday and everyother weekend. WE WERE CLOSE, until they hooked up.. well my dad's the manager at "A FOOD MART" and she worked there, & so did i. but i never figured they would get together. So she has a baby, and a husband, but there in the process of getting a devorce, and she has nowhere else to go (because her moms a drugie, and her dad has some guy living with her) so she has moved in with us. She has a 18 Month old baby girl, that stays with her half time. but i hate her, its not reallly that she's mean, cause shes not, its that shes taking a part of my life away, and i cant let it happen(if it were someone else, i'd understand) BUT ITS HER! some ppl arent gonna understand, but the one's that can help me to make her mad, or get out.HELP!

2007-10-01 16:20:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My B/F, was baptised Methodist, but had his Communion and Confirmation in a Catholic church, is it necessary for him to be baptised as a Catholic?. And in my case I have not been confirmed yet, is that something necessary as well?. If you would provide me with some link for me to show him, would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much in advance

2007-10-01 16:19:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My dad is the biggest jerk i know. He is very self-absorped and told me that i would be a horrible mom and i should give my baby up for adoption and that this is impossible to do and i won't ever do it and i'm helpless.. How the hell do i stop trying to get his approval and just tell him to **** off? I've been trying for 23 yrs and he can't help anybody in this family... and hes never given me the support i needed or wanted. How do i stop trying to get his approval?

2007-10-01 16:17:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-01 16:15:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ever since my hubby got back from Iraq...i kind of feel like we don't exist...no calls really at all from family and to top that today...there was a get together and we were not invited...i am upset because it hurt my feelings....do i tell them how i feel or just forget about it?

2007-10-01 16:14:20 · 4 answers · asked by angelstarszzzz 4 in Family

my friend has lately been talking to a guy who is part of the band staff [hes 18 shes 15] and she likes him and he[we thnk] really likes her too. they talk on the phone all the time but everytime he says for her not to tell ANYONE that they talked. he says its because he doesnt want to get fired but shes worried that its deeper than that. she thinks that its b.c. he doesnt want anyone to know that basically hes just using her to try out his pick up lines and stuff like that so he can know what works with other girls. age is a main reason for her worry also that back a while ago he got kinda a "man whore" rep. or atleast rumors flew about him. and she trusts him but at the same time it kinda worries her. question:[1] do you think hes using her to try lines on or using her for sexual stuff. or do you think that he actually likes her. [2] is the "dont tell anyone about our convo." thing is b.c. of band or because he doesnt want anyone finding out cause hes using her. please answer asap.

2007-10-01 16:12:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

he said i looked "kool" and im awesome. I talked to him for like 4 hours straight.when i see him he looks at me and catches me looking at him (at least i knew he was looking back!!!)I like him a lot but im a year older than him but he has a gf and she's a year younger than him.Is there a possibility that he likes me but he thinks i have no chance with him because im a year older then him? Are those signs that he's at least interested?

2007-10-01 16:11:51 · 1 answers · asked by Richelle 2 in Singles & Dating

ok well my friend like the gut im dating now n like like a differnt guy but still have fellings for my boyfriend what should i do

2007-10-01 16:02:53 · 1 answers · asked by kiki5 1 in Singles & Dating