so she's not "technacally" my step mom.. but she started dating my dad(46) 3 monthes
ago. She just turned 21. To make a long story short, me and my dad have been close ever since i can remember, we hunt together.
i go over there every wednesday and everyother weekend. WE WERE CLOSE, until they hooked up.. well my dad's the manager at "A FOOD MART" and she worked there, & so did i. but i never figured they would get together. So she has a baby, and a husband, but there in the process of getting a devorce, and she has nowhere else to go (because her moms a drugie, and her dad has some guy living with her) so she has moved in with us. She has a 18 Month old baby girl, that stays with her half time. but i hate her, its not reallly that she's mean, cause shes not, its that shes taking a part of my life away, and i cant let it happen(if it were someone else, i'd understand) BUT ITS HER! some ppl arent gonna understand, but the one's that can help me to make her mad, or get out.HELP!
2007-10-01 16:20:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand you 100%. You need to go tell this to your dad. You should be priority in your dad's life, not a girl friend. Your dad though, does sound like a great guy. I think if you were to get all of this off your chest with him, that he'll understand.
2007-10-01 16:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you think this girl is not suitable for your dad. From what you say about the situation, she is not. Age gap, still married, baby, no place to go. The thing is, you are feeling displaced. She has moved into your home and is taking your dad away and I'm sure you are wrestling with feelings of resentment, jealousy, not to mention feeling a bit territorial about your turf.
As difficult as it is, there is nothing you can really do. Oh, you could become the kid from Hell, but that isn't going to get you anything but in trouble as your dad apparently wants her there or she would not be there.
You don't say how old you are, and you may not be able to understand everything at play here, but your dad and this girl have something going on between them that you will not be able to be a part of. You can talk to your dad about how you feel, a trusted relative, or even a counselor to help you deal with these feelings, but until one of them comes to their senses, you are just going to have to figure out a way to deal with it.
2007-10-01 16:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your dad is acting like a kid. You sound way more mature than him..What you do is nothing. Keep mum, this will not last. What a s*** she is. You take the high road as hard as it is.
2007-10-01 16:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be a step mom. and when they marry they become monsters most of them do. especially when they have their own. the best i can tell you is say as little as you can enjoy your dad as much as you can and when you graduate get a job or college get out of there and be done with it. take care and good luck
2007-10-05 15:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't last. She is probably only there because she has nowhere else to go. If she meets a guy closer to her own age and they hook up she will be gone.
2007-10-01 16:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Carol A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A WOMAN THAT YOUNG WILL EVENTUALLY GO AWAY TO SOMEONE YOUNGER AND PROBABLY WITH MORE MONEY..SOUNDS LIKE SHE'S JUST LOOKIN FOR A PLACE TO CRASH RIGHT NOW...SO I'D JUST WAIT IT OUT...IT'LL BE OVER BEFORE U KNOW IT..
2007-10-01 16:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by loveleygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you are so selfish and immature that you don't want your dad to be happy and can't man up and tell him how you feel about it.
2007-10-01 18:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋