Should I run away?

Question

My friend is running away and I want to go with her. I think my family hates me. After my dad died 2 years ago my mom has let my older brother punish me(including spanking me) Right now I live with my other brother because my mom and I arent getting along. So should my friend and I (both 14) run away?

Answer 1

No you should not run away! Two 14 year olds without an adult could be in danger. Make some phone calls asking for help in your situation. Look in the phone book for a crisis center or runaway hotline. There are adults that can help you resolve your family issues. Talk to a teacher or counselor at school, they will know who to contact in your area. Losing a parent is hard even without other issues you and your mom might need outside help to sort through your grief. If your older brother can't continue to take care of you maybe a foster family can help. There are a lot of solutions that could be considered that are not nearly as dangerous as running away. Try to get your friend to ask for help from an adult too. It could save her life. If you don't know who to call locally, you can call the Boy's Town National Helpline @1800-448-3000.

Answer 2

As yourself these questions before you go:

1) Do I currently have a roof over my head?

2) Do I currently have food I can count on a pretty regular basis?

3) Am I warm when it's cold outside and am I cool when it's hot outside?

4) Do I have a plan for WHEN pedophiles, pimps, and weirdos try to get me to do things?

5) What will I do for money?

Even though your family life isn't ideal, I can GUARANTEE you 100% that your life running away won't be better. For one thing, it takes alot of money to put a roof over your head. Yeah, you can stay at a seedy motel for a little while but how long do you think you can do that without people noticing there are 2 pretty little 14 year olds in that room? You have NO IDEA of the kind of depraved people out there who could kidnap you or rape you. Do you know that most prostitutes start out because they are young girls who are runaways who are just desparate for money? The pimps get them hooked on drugs then they have to turn tricks to just be able to afford the drugs. Don't do it honey. Stick it out for another 4 years, make a plan to attend college any way you can and make your life better through wise choices.

Answer 3

Running away from your problems is never the solution. As far as being disciplined by your brother is not right in any way shape or form, and I think you might want to consider living with another family member, but not running away. Make sure you tell your Mom where you are. Keep in mind she is probably still very hurt by your Dad's passing and maybe in her eye's she may think nothing is wrong as far as being disciplined by your brother. YOUR MOM NEEDS TO DISCIPLINE YOU, AND YOU ARE TOO OLD FOR SPANKINGS ANYWAY

Answer 4

Running away will make things worse not better. You are too old to be spanked by your brother. If he does it again or threatens to report it to a teacher or the police. If you can't solve your problems with your family you need outside help. Is there something like a guidance counselor at school, she may not be able to help you directly but she may be able to direct you to someone in your community who can.

Try to talk your friend out of running, she will be glad you did in the future.

Answer 5

You have no place to go when you run away. You need to get help. Go to your school counselor and tell her your problems and see if they can help you settle these hard feelings. Your brother should NOT be punishing you physically. Why does the brother you are living with not live at home with your Mother and the rest of the family. You need to get to someone and tell them about what is happening, but you need to forget about leaving home as there are many things that could happen to you if you have no place to go. Good luck, little one and please take care of yourself and confide in someone about these problems so that you can get help.

Answer 6

Running away is never an answer to any problem. If you run more problems will come to you, like where am i gonna sleep, what am i gonna eat.. omg it is cold where is my warm bed.. if you dont like where u live you should try to find an alternate solution to your problem.. try talking to your mom.. if that dont work then try talking to a counselor at school.. there is always a way to fix things without running..You are too young to be out there on your own. Help your friend to get help too.. Running away seems to have become a habit for your friend.. dont follow.. be a leader.

Answer 7

No. Don't run away. Run aways have a higher chance of becoming prostitutes or getting murdered. Your brother shouldn't be spanking you. That's messed up. Maybe you have another family member that you could move in with? Maybe an aunt or someone? Go that route first.

Answer 8

No, What are two 14 year olds going to do out in the world. As much as your family sucks i'm telling you your going to regret trying to go and run away. You need to talk to your friend too and make sure she doesn't make that mistake, You will appreciate your family as an adult, i assure you right now everything is a crisis but it will get better.

Answer 9

Baby girl, running away will make BIGGER problems for you and your friend! You both need to stay put! Instead of running away, help one another stay in and finish school so that when you graduate high school, you both can get jobs and live together. Stay home and cry on each others shoulders, listen to each other, and keep each other strong!

Answer 10

No! That can get you in a worse situation than you are in already and going together can actually make things worse. I would talk to you school's guidance counselor about your family's situation. If you really don't want to be at home there are channels that you can go through to become legally independant. They will know all about those at the school.