My bf broke up with me after he sent me a porn email and I ignored it. I had always played the hot and lusty wench for him in the past, but I was beginning to feel that he was using me. When he asked me why I ignored the email, I wrote "I'm just not feeling very sexual lately." He cancelled a trip with me then, saying I was being passive aggressive. After that, I tried to be friends, but he still didn't seem loving to me, so the anger in me just grew. I did some vengeful things to him and said honest (but insulting) things to him after that. Now I miss him dreadfully, but he will not have anything to do with me.
If it's that easy for him to cut off all ties with me after he had said so many times how deeply he loved me, it was all a lie, right? Is there any hope I can get him back? He lives in a different state from me, so it isn't easy to just "run into him." We also do not share mutual friends.
2007-10-01 16:33:05 · 13 answers · asked by nondescript 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We dated for eight tumultuous, intense months.
2007-10-01 16:36:03 · update #1
I think he felt rejected by you and was reacting to that.
2007-10-01 16:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one and every situation is different, but from the sounds of it yes he was just using you. It is hard to maintain a relationship that is long distance at the best of times but it was only eight months. Even if it was quite intense and he told you that he loved you, he wouldn't have broke it off with you for ignoring the one email. If he loved you he would respect you and want to be with you no matter what. A relationship is not all about sex. Yes it may be good but it is not everything...to maintain a relationship especially a long distance one, is a lot of hard work and effort of what you out into it, if the relationship is all based on sex then thats all it is. If it was that easy for him to cancel his trip.... think about it....he cancelled after you ignoring one email and just telling him that you were just not feeling very sexual lately. As much as you doing some vengeful things and saying some honest but insulting things to him..we all do things that we regret but at the time it was you being honest and lashing out at that time. If he doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore than it is for the best. You don't need a guy like that in your life. If it was that easy for him to cut his ties with you as he did then he obviously didn't deeply love you as he said he was just using you it was all a lie. Don't waste your time on someone like this there are plenty more guys out there who will respect you and want to be with you for you (who you are) not for what you can do in bed for them. About the mutual friend thing not all people who fall in love have mutual friends and it doesn't mean that the relationship will not work out just because you don't share mutual friends if 2 people fall in love with each other it has no boundaries, the two will neither care about each others flaws or what each other can do for them in bed, they want to be with each other because they know each other inside out, care for each other spend quality time together like going for a long walk along a beach things like that, doesn't always have to result in sex. So don't waste your time with someone who only wants you for sex.
2007-10-02 00:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Dancegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little is true and alot is not.Sex was not just an outlet for him to be with you but to some what try to get a little closer to you.Some men show this side of them in different ways but still afraid to just look into your eyes and "Tell" you he loves you.But he should of steeped up and told you so instead of being an ***,hate full.
2007-10-01 23:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First learn this lesson. Never burn a bridge you may want or need to cross over again. Now dump this jerk, you can find someone better in your area and not so far away. Cut your ties completely and move on. Go girl and good luck!
2007-10-01 23:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, he is a D!CK!!! you're better off without him. he wanted only one thing from you and when you denied him of it he dumped you. he's probably going to find some skank. If you didn't use condoms, please get tested for STDs. from your question he seems like the kind of guy who might have cheated on you. a true test of a man is when you don't have sex and he still stays with you. I told my friend not to put out with her bf. she didn't. he broke up with her when she said no. She was upset, but I told her he was a jerk and he didn't care about her. her next bf wanted to have sex. she said no. they've been together for 2 years, and still haven't had sex. Now we think he's going to propose.
2007-10-01 23:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, that is just the worst. I'm sorry I wish I didn't have to say this.
But he is just using you.
But before you lose any more pride or dignity or whatever.
Lose him.
Really, just try and get over him because even though you miss him, you DEFINITELY want and need someone that wants you for more than just booty.
2007-10-01 23:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
o m g..im soosorry he acted that way...he was just using you for sex....you are nt the only one who has gone through this..many guys do that..just be careful next time..ditch him
2007-10-01 23:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, it sounds like it meant more to you than him.
2007-10-01 23:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he liked the sex more than he liked you.
2007-10-01 23:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-10-01 23:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋