There is the girl whom I really like, and she doesn't share the same feelings towards me. I have been trying to get over her by meeting a lot of different girls and getting to know them. However, in the end, I think about this same girl again every night before my day goes out (before I go to bed).
It'd be nice if I could just choose not to love this girl anymore. I really thought she was the one for me. But this situation has indicated otherwise.
Wouldn't it be nice if we could fall in love with someone who was previously in love with us ?
What's your opinion on this ? INPUTS, PLEASE
2007-10-01 16:39:42 · 9 answers · asked by JustANiceGuyHere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Often, people want someone they can't have because they don't feel worthy of or ready to be loved. Sometimes they just love the thrill of the chase.
Another painful aspect is that if someone has self esteem issues deep down- if they think they aren't cool enough or smart enough or good looking enough then they think that the person who wants them must not be worth caring about because if they stoop low enough to love you then they must not be a very good catch or they are desperate- feeling like this will actually make you drive away people who see the good in you that you can't see.
Try not to think about her- think about another girl or about trees or who would win in a fight between a badger and a wolverine. Most importantly- think about yourself and why you don't want someone who cares about you
are you scared of love or commitment or do you not care about yourself as much as you should? Once you identify your problems you can work on fixing them and making yourself a good partner!
2007-10-01 16:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Cait 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true that you can't choose who you fall in love with. But, if the girl isn't returning your affections, how can she be "the one" for you? Don't waste your precious time thinking about someone who's rejected you. It's self-destructive and will hold you back from finding someone real. You seem like a nice guy, and I'm sure there will be someone special to come along and make you realize that.
2007-10-01 16:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by lovefool1050 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is true you can't choose who you want to fall in love with. I did not plan to fall in love with my husband when we met then started talking--it just happened. He let me know when we met that he liked but I had been hurt several times by men like him and did not want to take a chance. He never gave up on me and within a month he won me over.
2007-10-01 16:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by ginnrc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't choose or help who you fall in love with, and sometimes it really stinks!! I'm sorry you're having some probs with this...message or email me if you like, we can talk more about it!! Good luck to you...Rachel
2007-10-02 02:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true ok heres my story one day i was working at walmart when my now boyfriend walked up to me and said youll great in a bathing suit during that time i was falling for him and i didnt know i was until i figured out that i coudlnt stop thinking about him and i coudlnt sleep without him and now i found out that he doesnt make that much money but that doesnt matter cause im so in love with him so sometimes god works in mysteries ways. I think god chose him for me. i didnt think i had a chance with him cause his hot.
2007-10-01 16:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by jerseygirlprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you because i am trying to get over my love but i always seem to compare him to everyone else and those people dont seem good enough, and yes life would be easier if we all could love the poeple who love us.
2007-10-01 16:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by cheli_luvr24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False.
2016-05-18 22:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to make firends with her and see if she really is your true lover.Then take her to the movies or something
2007-10-01 16:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no we cant choose who we fall in love with --- nor can we choose who falls in love with us ---- i never expected to fall for a lady much younger than i nor did i expect that she would fall for me but it happened
2007-10-01 16:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋