my hen night got took out of my hands my partners work collegues arranged on for me where i go out on friday and we do all the clubs and that well he said yes for me and so it was all aranged well i felt bad if i then said no. well i get married on saturday and me and my bridsmaid who is 11 were ment to be sleeping at my mums and now my mums not happy that its all arranged on that night because it means we cant sleep round and so i told my partner that i just cant do it because i have got to much to do on that night and i have to be up about 6 on saturday so now my partners not happy would you go out on the night before your wedding and not get in till gone 12 at night knowing that you had to sleep at your own house and get up about 5 so i could get round to mums?
2007-10-01 22:57:55 · 18 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need a good nights sleep before your wedding, and the night before is family time, in my opinion, I spent it with my family and girl friends at the hotel we were marrying at. I made my excuses to go to bed at around 10pm knowing I had more chance of sleep that side of midnight. You only get one wedding, and enjoying the day with your new husband is far more important than some club night, and is not the night to say yes on just to please some work colleagues. Explain clearly and kindly that you appreciate their efforts but you want family time and an early night, and could you do it after the wedding as a celebration maybe and enjoy a quiet night with your mum and little bridesmaid. Don't worry about treading on toes or hurting anyones feelings they went entirely behind your back and this moment is just too important, if they are good ppl they will understand. Have a fabulous night, a fantastic wedding and a wonderful life.
2007-10-02 00:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paragraph structure would be good next time. It is hard to discern what you are saying when there is no sentence separation.
Now...I think it is sweet that your partners work collegue did this for you, but I think you need to ask her to move the hen night up a night or even by a week. The last thing you need is to be exhausted on your wedding day when it can be stressful as it is.
It's unfortunate that she didn't ask you when you would like to have the hen night, but I would think she would understand if you need it moved by a week. This is a reasonable request.
So rather than saying you can't do it at all, ask her to move it, because doing it the night before would just be too stressful for you and you wouldn't be able to enjoy the hard work she put into the party.
2007-10-02 10:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this would have been a lot easier to understand if you had made each gobbit of information a seperate sentence and seperated the sentences by using a capital letter for the first word and a period at the end. However, James Joyce and William Styron use the same "everything run together, stream of consciousness" writing style (but considerably more polished) to good effect, so who knows? End of lecture.
The problem is that you said yes to the party in the first place, knowing that it was scheduled for the night before your wedding day. Letting people say "yes" for you when you'd rather say "no" is weak and cowardly -- get a back bone girl! You should have politely told him that you appreciated his troubling but had to get home early that night.
Now, because you were "too polite" to tell this fellow he had taken rather a lot on himself by "saying yes for you" instead of asking you, you are in a bad snarl. The only out I see for you is to go to the hen party and then leave after an hour, telling them you will be there in spirit, but your body needs to rest. If your "host" is unhappy about it, it will teach him to give more thought to the convenience of any future 'guests of honor' for whom he may plan a party. However, it is YOU, and not HE who is most to blame here -- you should have told him ASAP that he had chosen a bad night.
In the future, don't let yourself be pushed around like that. Remember that friends with good intentions can harm us just as much as enemies with bad intentions.
2007-10-02 09:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be too stressful - your wedding day is a long day and you will need all the rest you can get, plus its the last time you will be sleeping at your parents as a single woman so its might be a bit sentimental to them. Why not compromise and suggest going out for a meal and a few drinks,but come home at 10 Or suggest going out the night before (thursday).
2007-10-02 06:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No . . . the partying should be done a week before the wedding. Definitely go sleep at your mother's the night before the wedding. You will need your rest for the wedding day.
All you are doing is asking that the date of the party be changed. Tell your fiance to grow up. If he is not mature enough to realize that being rested for the wedding is more important than the partying, then perhaps you should not be marrying him???
2007-10-02 06:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO
Don't - under any circumstances - hold your hen night or go out the night before your wedding.
Having a hangover the next day will ruin your special day and you need to be in control
2007-10-02 07:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you husband to be is more worried about you partying the night before....I'd seriously consider doing a runaway bride thing here!! No way would I do it and he's an inconsiderate goofball to even THINK that you'd want to. He's got some serious priority problems here and you'll end up regretting this later down the line. It sounds like he's more worried about looking bad in front of his mates, RUN GIRL RUN!!!!
2007-10-02 06:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why are your partners work colleagues organisng this for you in the first place??
i'd stay at your mums otherwise you'll be tired and look rough on your wedding day. plus its bad luck to see your other half the day before the wedding
2007-10-03 11:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by sassychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never go out the night before the wedding, that's just asking for a killer hang over.
2007-10-02 06:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I say go out and have fun- you only have one wedding (or at least one would hope) so have fun with your mates-you wouldnt want to look back and wish that youd gone- and dont worry about your mum fussing too much= its your special day and you should do with it what you like...Good Luck and Congrats!!
2007-10-02 06:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lacey A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋