I called her and she says it is true. I am so confused I do not know who to believe. He was really hurt by his brothers accusations. I had faith in him, but after talking to her I am not sure anymore. She was reluctant to even say anything at first she did not want to hurt anybody but she confirmed the accusations. To my knowledge he has never cheated on me before. When I confronted him about it he was sort of neutral in his response (neutral - meaning he was not angry or hurt, just sort of calm) . He of course denied it, but I don't know who I should believe. She stated she did have feelings for him. Also, they were in a relationship together before he was involved with me. Which was about 14 yrs ago.
2007-10-01 19:44:50 · 12 answers · asked by alegna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband was confronted first by his mother and he was upset at the time. None of his family believes her because she accused him before,years ago when we were dating.
2007-10-09 12:09:46 · update #1
Maybe it was the other way around....She could have been rejected by your husband. Now she feels angry and wants revenge for her own stupidity and self pity. (You are the other women in her minds eye-her adversary) She has a need to hurt and punish, while remaining the victim. That's my opinion.
Nothing happened, and nothing can be proved, this is clearly a case of "She-said, He-said." For now, I would be believe your husband, and the both of you should stay away from both of them, and let the shock and anger cool off.
Move on, but keep your Eyes wide open!
PS. There is the possibly she (sexually) led him on, for old time sake, only to reject him, or be rejected by him and caused this mess. Revenge is a good enough motive.
2007-10-06 14:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First I would consider the source or sources - is your brother in law a habitual liar? Is your sister in law?
You said to your knowledge your husband has never been unfaithful - but when people cheat they usually dont do it in the open and advertise the fact.
The fact that your husband remains so calm about the topic is another red flag. His own brother is accusing him of trying to sleep with his wife - if that doesn't get him fired up, I don't know what will.
I would arrange a sit down with the four of you and get to the bottom of it. The truth is there somewhere.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-09 18:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have several scenarios running through my head. One says they never got over each other and you and your brother-in-law should be concerned. One says she's made a play for your husband and he turned her down, so to save face she's said he made a play for her. One is that it is what she said happened.
You and your husband need to have a serious talk and get to the bottom of this. Someone is not telling the truth. Tell him you need to hear his side of the story and not just a denial of it. You need to know what did happen. Until then you can't make a rational decision about this.
I would also want to know how your brother-in-law found out.
2007-10-08 10:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said, "Also, they were in a relationship together before he was involved with me. Which was about 14 yrs ago." Big red flag! There is something going on. The truth lies somewhere between her version and his.
2007-10-02 02:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know your brother in laws wife and your own husband. Is she happy in her life? Is she jealous of your life and the way your husband treats you? maybe she wants to ruin your life. The same thing happened to me. There was a Friend of my husband and his wife. They always invited us and his wife was acting so kind. Once I realized that she wants to inter fer with my life and decide about where to go on weekend together, for trips... and they would never let us be alone. So we decided to break off with them. As she learnt this, she accused my husband of saying that he loved her. I knew her and I realized that it was she who all the time called and wanted us all to go out for dinner, weekends ....... and not my husband . So I gave her a good lesson.
2007-10-02 04:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by lost-in-love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wouldn't lie such thing because then she would put her own marriage in danger for nothing. Unless she wants the brothers get in fight and stop speaking to each other.
Maybe she wants your husband out of her husband's life? Family dispute? That's big.
2007-10-02 03:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is anything like my sister in-law she is lying threw her teeth. I went through something similar, but I know my sister in-law is a lying skank. And is now medicated, and has tried to apologize for lying and got told if I see her I'm smashing her face in. Go with your gut, talk to your husband. And if she says she has feelings for your husband make sure she isn't out to destroy your marriage and her own. Or just a nut case like mine.
2007-10-02 03:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do they have a reason to make this up? Are they the kind of people who like to upset others? Consider the source and possible reasons. If you believe them I suggest marriage counseling.
2007-10-02 03:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my husband accused me of this I would be pissed!!!! He didn't react right. It just seems funny. I think she is telling you the truth because she feels guilty.
2007-10-08 15:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds suspicious. Get the three of you in a room bring up the subject then see what happens....
2007-10-02 03:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋