He is working alot and seems to be in another world when he is home .This past week he went on a hunting trip.The last two years we haven't been on a vacation because he said we could not afford it.
2007-10-01 19:04:51 · 16 answers · asked by Help Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just have to remember what your husband fell in love with that is in you when you first start dating. And bring it back.. most couples forget what you fall in love with and became complacent and then wonder why their marriage got boring after a while.. people change with time but look back when you were so madly in love, and look at yourself now, has anything changed? If it does, do some homework and bring that hot, sexy mama in you and he will fall in love with you all over again.. good luck!
2007-10-01 19:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by brwnsuga 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Have you tried talking to him? Let him know that you feel like you're very much on the back burner and would like to put the spark back into your marriage. Then, present him with a key to a hotel room or some rendezvous, even if it's just in the same town, to get a night alone together. Remind him that you love him very, very much.
Men think differently than women do. Men assume if we women don't speak up, nothing is bothering us. Kick that assumption out the door and let him know how much he's hurting you!
2007-10-01 19:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him. Have a glass of "liquid confidence" and just pour out your feelings. If he still rejects you, then let him know you mean business. I wouldn't threaten with divorce until you are sure he is totally ready to walk away himself. Give him a chance. Maybe it is just the classic case of "I have been married and got bored". If so, just as the others have mentioned, spice it up with a drive to the country and go "parking". Just because his life has fallen routine, doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Sometimes we tend to take the ones we care about for granted and need to be snapped out of it.
2007-10-01 19:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, you mistake being overwhelmed at work with falling out of love with you. He obviously married you because he loved you. What would change that? Perhaps he needs time alone, to go hunting, in order to deal with the frusttration over the money issues. Why not try talking with him and asking him point blank...do you still love me?
2007-10-01 19:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, talk to him and let him know what your feeling.give your self a sexy little make over,something different to your hair,new lipstick,pretty push up bra with sexy thongs,new perfume,sexy high heel shoes-that you can walk in- change your personality, whatever, surprise him, but just be around him dont say anything and see if he notice. also do the same.find some hobbies of your own, go on little trips by yourself,with friends or family. give him a turn to miss you and wonder.have fun and enjoy life.
2007-10-01 19:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband fell out of love with me and it got so bad he moved out and he was doing what your husband is doing now. Come to find out he was seeing a co-worker for 8 months prier to moving out and for the 2 1/2 years he was gone. I did not find out about his affair until he moved back in with me. He got his own apartment and 1 month into moving out he started coming around more i guess to check up on me and our son who was 15 at the time. He saw i wasn't fallen apart and i was doing things on my own. This was something he never saw in me before and he started to like what he was seeing. I wasn't this dependent upon Little housewife he thought i was. When he saw i could stand on my own two feet without him is when he wanted to come back home. Do you understand what I'm saying to you. Show him you don't need him to survive. Start going out by yourself without telling him where you are going. I'm telling you these are the things that will open his eyes and look at you again and see you not just a house wife but a person. What do you have to lose nothing that's what because if he is going to leave you then that is what he will do anyway. Maybe you can get to him before it gets to that point. Good luck !!!
2007-10-01 19:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First talk to your husband. If he has a lot on his mind he will fall in love with you again if you show him some concern. You will just send him the other way if you try and make him feel guilty.
2007-10-01 19:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, this is normal......when people get old, they still love you, but the affection they show just weakens each year that passes by. I wouldn't do anything drastic unless he is cheating on you (which i will assume he isn't).
Here's the key to start the engine again:
Talk to him. Ask him what's up and why things arent the way you want them to be, and tell him about how you want things to be. He's your husband, dont take a "no" or "idk" answer; squeeze the answer out of him, but in a patient and calm way of course.
2007-10-01 19:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You let him go.Sit him down and ask him if he still loves and cares about you.If yes,tell him how you feel.If no ,let him go and move on yourself.There is a saying " If the river is not there,you can't make one by pooring water in the groove.'I hope i make sence.And good luck.
2007-10-01 19:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
marrage gets booring after a while...you should light a spark with different sexual things...suprises, role playing, talking dirty to him while hes at work so hes excited to go home...that stuff worked for me and my wife...good luck!
2007-10-01 19:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Chris S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋