Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2007

My wife and her girlfriend were at home talking on the couch. And my wife tells her friend how I give great foot rubs. My wifes friend hints around how she needs a good foot rub and my wife asks me to do it for her friend. I don't mind. I like ladies feet. My wifes friend has pretty feet and I would not dare share my feelings about that with my wife.

I can tell my wifes friend is enjoying the message. I could not help myself, but as I message I start to slowly suck on her toes. At first my wifes friend laughs but becomes more eager for me to continue. My wife laughs, and says, "Oh, he does that to me sometimes."

After a couple of minutes my wife starts yelling calling me a cheater and her friend a whore. Her friend admitted to enjoying it and felt that it was kind of erotic. I just said I thought she had pretty toes and wanted to suck on them. I claimed it wasn't sexual! Is my wife nuts???

2007-11-14 07:05:44 · 57 answers · asked by Snappy Answers 2

I have always gone to my inlaws(they are great) for the holidays. Because I am an only child my parents were invited too, and did come on occasion. However, my parents recently moved 8 hours away. I want to go there for Thanksgiving. My mom is begging me to come. My husband thinks it is unfair to his mom who is a single parent for us to leave for the holiday. (She has 2 other children and her sisters family who will be there.) I think it is selfish and unfair that he does not want to see my parents who I haven't seen in 2 months. He says he will go after we eat with his family on thursday, but that would mean we wouldn't get to my folks until after midnight. I would only have Friday and Sat. with them. I miss them terribly. Am I wrong for expecting him to give a little in this area?

2007-11-14 06:41:28 · 29 answers · asked by Sparky 2

What advice would you give to someone who is in the dating scene? What to look for when one is dating?

I am currently dating two great guys, both with amazing qualities, but I don't think I am in love with either of them...#1 I have been with for almost 7 yrs. We have good conversation, but he treats me more like a friend now & there isn't much chemistry. He is very respectful & is always there for me, but he's a little boring. #2 I met about 6months ago. We get along great, have amazing conversation, he is more adventerous, but I am not 100% attracted to him all the time.
Many people have told me to look at who is more husband material, because in the long run, the butterflies & "love" fade & reality sets in.

Is this true? I am so confused right now. I don't even know what I need anymore or what I should be looking at for the long run!! Any advice???

2007-11-14 06:41:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband has been gone 4 months in military i think he has called me 4 or 5 times. This is os weird because we had sleep together a week before he left. I really don't want to talk to him because he is a jerk . I kinda think he has alot going on up there or i wonder if he just hates me . what do you think do you think when he gets back to our boring town he will try to contact me should i be a btch or have one converse before we divorce as i think he used me for a greencard and he has rented room and went to strip clubs. I see this on the bank statement. I have a 7 yr old that this really hurt i had to explain to her why he never answered and never called. She has to sleep at nite with the stuff animals he won out of machines she never slept with animals before and why only the ones he got her? i hate him for this and we have a child that will be 2 at christmas. He is 35 me 30 any suggestions how 2 deal all this he is bk in town next wk i moved out of our apt

2007-11-14 06:34:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you think the only thing that interests men is sex?

i want to be like a normal person who keeps his man happy on bed and as well as being a soulmate. If you don't perform they will leave you to look for new flavours to practise their fantasies, right? that's why so many people are having affairs outside their marriage.

why men are like that?

2007-11-14 06:33:15 · 13 answers · asked by jessica 2

2007-11-14 06:31:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are going on a cruise and I do not want to stop at the island that he got married in to his last wife. Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about going there? We have not booked it yet but he is mad that I don't want to go there.

2007-11-14 06:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by emmablue32 1

So, we finally got married, over a year ago, and now she has the starter green card, 6 months ago, and she still wont change her name. She says she isnt ready to. What the heck does that mean? And why does it bother me so much?

2007-11-14 06:24:27 · 20 answers · asked by Guy P 1

My ex husband and I have been separated for 5 months now. We have not filed for divorce, we're in no rush. During this time I've dated and so has he. We haven't remained amiacable except for when it comes to having sex. We've hooked up a couple of times. But last time, two weeks ago, the sex was horrible and I didn't feel anything for him. He kept telling me that he missed me and loved me, but I'm not sure if I believe him (can't believe anything they say while inside of you really). He just texted me and asked if I was coming to visit him this weekend and wants to hook up again. I'm not sure if I want to. I mean, I want to know that he still misses me and part of me wants to go back with him and always will, but should I do this if I know it's not going anywhere?

2007-11-14 06:22:47 · 20 answers · asked by Rhyann 3

Son loves both women
went to mom for advice
What should she tell jher son
He loves his mom and values her opinion. He said she has never led him wrong in all the years hes known her
He knows she can tell him right again
mom is in a delimma. She doesnt want to lose her sons respect.

2007-11-14 06:22:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

So how can i confront her? Ive tried, but just get the 'ill take care of it' response. She took care of the last guy by locking me out of our cell phone records. Now it seems it may be happening again already. its only been 2 weeks. She says its just being friends, but i am not so sure. I am on the road, and cant tell whats going on. i am on the road because she told me i needed to be, to make more money.... im just so torn inside, and hate that i cant focus on what is going on...

2007-11-14 06:18:43 · 15 answers · asked by Guy P 1

when a guy says i don't know im not sure what i want or can't say idk...when asked what he wants with regard to starting up again the once broken relationship...what is he trying to say?

2007-11-14 06:16:27 · 14 answers · asked by ladybug 2

I asked my husband again what does he want her or me-- he is living with her... he says again he does not know. it has been a little over 2 months since he has been living with her, they only known each other 3 weeks and they move in together.
my husband says to me you are such a good person, He didnt mean for this to happen, he is confused--- he just dosnt know what he wants-- I just wrote him a very deep letter about marriage and how I feel--- and told him that he wants to rebuild our marriage she has to go.. and this will be the last contact with him from me

2007-11-14 06:16:25 · 15 answers · asked by mm 1

This is odd i know. My wife is very religous and faithful, and just a very good person. I am in no way religous, and we have many differences on raising a child (home school which she wants and i dont, etc) Things like that

I guess my issue is this.....im feeling like im not right for her. I feel like my not being religous takes something away from her life and that she really wants to be a stay at home mom...which i also dont want.

I love her very much...and she loves me. Just not sure where to go from here.

And dont say go to church. Im a good person and live my life right, but its just not me...im not comfortable there and its just not who i am. So part of me feels like im taking that from her becasue she wont go without me.

The stay at home thing is similar. She wants to be near the child (we have none btw) and i dont want that.

So nothing is really wrong, we get a long great.....but at what point knowing all that...do you still say you are not right for each other?

2007-11-14 06:11:48 · 15 answers · asked by Matt C 1

I've been married 10 years and the passion is still hot and the sex great, how about you ,

2007-11-14 06:08:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I text my ex 2 days ago telling him that I was laid off. He hasn't called me back, emailed me, or text me back. I know he isn't that busy.......and I know he has his cell phone on him and that it is working! When he lost her job, I was there for him and made it known. Hell, I even bought him a resume builder and a couple of new outfits for interviewing.

Finding a new job will be easy for me, so I'm really not sweating it. But damn, I am finding out who my true friends are!!

2007-11-14 06:00:15 · 14 answers · asked by sephia 1

2007-11-14 06:00:05 · 45 answers · asked by ? 1

Hi there, i have been married for three years . First of all everything was so perfect but now it feels like i had made the biggest mistake of my life. He's so different and though i had been to counselling so many times, he does not care. It will work for at least a week but then , the old story. He's ok in his own world and it's only me asking for love all the times. He can live without sex forever. He does not care at all.

The good things about him is he does all the household chores. but i need a real man. I don't know what to expect , well i don't expect anything because three years was enough . I need help because i can't go on like that.
I went away for 2 or 3 times, then he will beg me to come promising me that he'll change but he's such a boring person.

2007-11-14 05:59:15 · 8 answers · asked by jessica 2

Me and my husband are newly weds.... but we have been friends FOREVER before we got married and dated for a while... some weeks will be amazing and he will be so nice .. then the next week we are annoying eachother and getting at eachothers throats... sometimes we get in REALLY big fights then everything will be okay for a while.. then we will get annoyed with eachother agian... please let me know if this is normal or if we should do something about it.

2007-11-14 05:56:18 · 18 answers · asked by anna 2

I have been divorced for 11 yrs and my ex wife still carries my last name which has caused alot of trouble for my current wife {of 10 yrs } is there any way i can make her drop my last name ?

2007-11-14 05:53:39 · 20 answers · asked by coby m 2

For those of you who are married I have been cooking dinner for my husband almost every night. (We are newlyweds so maybe this will get old after a while lol!) Anyways we are in our 20s and we don't have any kids.
Well i made fajitas one night, this was near the beginning... I used stew beef instead of slicing up steak... I thought it would work fine but of course it was a little tough... When he came home I told him it was not going to be a perfect meal and I told him what was wrong with it. Well practically from the time he sat down he started complaining (while eating by the way). Of course after 15 minutes of this I got upset and told him I was done eating and I was going to study. Well as I walk away he says "...and you didn't cook it right that's why it is tough!" Well I just walked over, calmly and picked up all of the plates off of the table and put them in the refrigerator. He just looked totally stunned and sat there chewing the last horrible bite...

2007-11-14 05:53:16 · 21 answers · asked by MorningStar 2

Am I the only one who thinks it is wrong to have a divorce party? I don't mean a few friends - I mean a huge bash like a bachelorette party - sometimes even with strippers and hooking up with strange guys. It seems (I could be wrong) to be only women who have these.

I understand the sense of relief when the process is finally finished, but the fact is - they are celebrating a DIVORCE. A divorce is the failure of people's love, hopes, and dreams. A failure to make it work. A failure to keep the vows and a failure of your promises of "till death do us part".

It would hurt me terribly if, heaven forbid, my husband and I divorced and he "celebrated" it - celebrated his permanent separation from the woman he held, loved and cherished all those years. I would never do that to him, even if he did awful things to me that caused me to divorce him.

When you are divorcing, yes - you move on. But you do so with wisdom and maturity, I hope, and not spite and resentment.

Agree?

2007-11-14 05:51:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-14 05:49:23 · 32 answers · asked by ? 1

There are a few things that bug me daily, i wake up thinking about them, and during the day on and off, and then at night before bed. How can i get this stuff out of my head, and everytime it comes up I tell myself No, everything will be okay. Don't worry or stress over it but it's still in my head and wont go away. Have you ever thought like this to? What do you do to help yourself get over it and move on with your life so it doesn't drag you down or make your day worse...?

2007-11-14 05:47:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

H
e beleives in sickness and in health
She beleives in serve him until death.

2007-11-14 05:40:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-14 05:36:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I realize the world has their own problems that are greater than this but I need to get other perspectives. I've been married a few years--my mate has never been able to keep a job. He chooses labor jobs where he won't have to drug test. He smokes pot--since the age of 16 or so. We are in our mid 30's. I've worked at the same job for 10 yrs and don't party. He's depressed over being unemployed but doesn't look hard for a job--he had a few job offers but failed their drug tests. So he's mad at the companies. He won't clean up much or cook--and I don't know how to help him because he's too preoccupied with his habit. Getting pot, smoking it, running out--when he's sober he's very rude and thoughtless and I hate being around him. He also has taken to getting into my pain meds and sedatives--I'm legitimately ill but I think it's really me falling apart after years of this life. I'm loyal but need to look out for myself and my child. How do I extricate myself without hurting him? or help?

2007-11-14 05:35:46 · 14 answers · asked by javagirl 1

Is ther a legal process to force her to sell?

2007-11-14 05:31:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am really not in love with my wife anymore. She is very selfish and overall we have nothing in common. Now I will not divorce her so please dont give me that answer. We have a baby due very soon and I will not divorce her and have him living in 2 houses. I will not cheat on her regardless as to what my feelings are. I am looking for advice on how i can make this work and at least make it work for my son

2007-11-14 05:31:20 · 53 answers · asked by John D 2

I am pregnant and about to quit my job(I had my own account), but I feel like now I should have access to his/OUR money now. He does't understand saying that he will put money in my account when I need it!!! Meanwhile, he goes off and spends money on pretty much anything he wants and lies to me about how much he spent. I have to look for the reciept to expose his lie. I've tried explaining to hime why I need this( to feel secure, to be felt like an equal, to feel like a part of the marriage but he dismisses everthing and says to leave him in charge of the finances. I think he just wants to be able to continue spending money when and where he pleases and not have to answer to nobody. I did not sign up for that when I married his sorry butt. I wonder, in this day and age is it now appropriate for men to treat there wives this way!!! Should I just sit there barefoot and pregnant just hoping that he will spare some change for me to go grocery shopping!!!!! I don't think so!!

2007-11-14 05:29:18 · 11 answers · asked by Steph72 1