I asked my husband again what does he want her or me-- he is living with her... he says again he does not know. it has been a little over 2 months since he has been living with her, they only known each other 3 weeks and they move in together.
my husband says to me you are such a good person, He didnt mean for this to happen, he is confused--- he just dosnt know what he wants-- I just wrote him a very deep letter about marriage and how I feel--- and told him that he wants to rebuild our marriage she has to go.. and this will be the last contact with him from me
2007-11-14 06:16:25 · 15 answers · asked by mm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't like sloppy seconds forget him and move on.
2007-11-14 06:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you, what's wrong with him!
It's amazing how people can say; leave that bum or why would you put up with that but, you did not waste your precious time getting married to a man you thought was going to cheat on you. I understand what every one has said and it' s so easy for us to feel like that because where not in your shoes.
You have to do what you think is right for you. The question is, if he did come back, do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering whether or not he's going to cheat on you again or, live your life knowing that you are worth more that what this man is offering, which is; heart ache, misery and a hole lot of wondering.
Only you can decide what's best for you!
2007-11-14 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like taking you by the shoulders and gently shaking some sense into you! Your husband obviously knows just how much you love him for him to feel he can get away with this. Look, he is having fun, this new girl is providing some excitement in his life, he might love you, but it is hard for him to give up his good time for now, he knows you will take him back any time he wants to, in fact he is sure of it. Men like a challenge, he needs to respect you in order to want you. You are to him like a doormat that lets him wipe his feet on whenever he feels the need to. I do not mean ill intent by what I am saying, I am trying to make you see the whole picture from his eyes. He has a honey and is having fun, why should he give it up when he knows he can have it both ways. Time to let him know that you have been foolish enough to think you could ever forgive him that you are gonna give him his freedom and move on with your life. And your action MUST back up your words. If he ever is to want you back he needs an incentive to do so. But do not do this as another way to pursade him to come back, do it because you need to earn your self respect and stand up for yourself. This man is totally stepping all over you and you are allowing him to do so.
2007-11-14 14:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married?...no man is worth the tears of a woman...how can he be so confused to live with a woman he has only known for 3 weeks....please do your self a favour...let go of the man...your future holds no happiness with someone like this..who wants left "overs" from another woman?
2007-11-14 14:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by wife in South Africa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a bazaar tale!! A husband moves in with a lover and the wife "understands" for 2 months? hmm.
If what you said about the "last contact" thing (and you mean it!) then there is nothing wrong with you!!
2007-11-14 14:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by solo_powered_boatie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap! Honestly i cant believe you let him move in with the other person. I would have not done, or allowed that. Thats my opinion though. If it is meant to be, then he will come. If he cant see the inner beauty in you, than it is more worth your while that he isnt near.
2007-11-14 14:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Guy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, Things just don't work out like you want them to. So don't get down on your self. Just find some strength move on and be happy~!~
2007-11-14 15:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...'he's confused'. Whatta crock 'o sheet. You're not only wasting your time...you're deluding yourself and acting like a fool. And don't think he isn't going to play it to the hilt either.
Try getting some self respect and end this charade once and for all instead of acting like a love-struck fool and making a jerk of yourself over someone who is a moron and hasn't got the aggats to tell you he's staying with the other broad.
Know why? Because when he gets tired of banging her or she starts making demands of him...he'll come back to you. And you my dear...will stupidly welcome with open arms and legs.
2007-11-14 14:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good for you lady! Hell if there was an award then you should win it! It's refreshing to hear one of the smarter Y/A women for a change.
2007-11-14 14:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by huckleberryjoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is living with her he does know what he wants.. Even if it just for now. If you still want him then fight for your marriage however he has to want it too!!
2007-11-14 14:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to ask him who he wants....he has already told you.
HE IS LIVING WITH HER.
That's his answer.
FILE FOR DIVORCE.
Even if he left her, why would you want to be his second choice????? He's a BUM and you need to dump him and find a man who ADORES you, not one who just wants you around "in case" she doesn't work out.
2007-11-14 14:22:04 · answer #11 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋