Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2007

the cse lady tried to tell the judge i wnt my money back and she think i should not get it back. the judge said i have a right to petition the court for my money back.so who do i sue the agent or the mother. first of all this started in 1995 i was served at a address where i had not live in 3 yrs. so i didn't get the papers. then when i called the agency they told me they would give me a test but they never did. so i had to fight for the right to get one.so if the judge said i have the right to get my money back then who do i sue. she knew this was not my child and she and i both know who the father is can i sue him.he didn't have a job back then so she lied on me and she knew i didn't live at that address when she had them to send thoses papers there. and since we got the test in feb 2007 she said if any money came on the card she would send me back my money well she never did so she is in the fraud and child support people are to because when they saw the test they should have stop

2007-11-14 23:39:47 · 14 answers · asked by boston3863 1

Hi, everyone... my boyfriend Clinton, the sweetest man on the face of the Earth, has been a long time user of Y!A Marriage and Divorce.. Today is his birthday... and I was wondering if you all would say "Happy Birthday" to him?

Thanks,

Wildflower

2007-11-14 23:36:17 · 8 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

2007-11-14 23:26:53 · 4 answers · asked by money 1

I've been with my husband for 10 years now and our relationship has been very troubled since the beggining. From lies in the beggining of the relationship, where he told me he had sex with all these girls, and just last year I found out it was just lies, to things like flirting with other women, etc. Until last year I caught him writing love letters to a girl and went out with her a few times. He insists he didn't have sex with her, but saying things like "I love you, you are always in my mind" to "I will never forget you....", I really don't know if that is worse.

He has never shouted at me, hit me, or anything like that, but the other thing I always complained about is that for him his family is always first, I seem to be at the bottom of the list all the time.

A month ago I told him that I didn't love him anymore, and he hasn't stopped crying since, but I just can't be horrible to him, and don't want to give the wrong impression. I care about him, but I don't love him.

2007-11-14 23:06:21 · 24 answers · asked by Sesoid 4

stay married and be miserable for the rest of my life and tough it out? or just leave

2007-11-14 22:59:56 · 15 answers · asked by Mommy2B 2

Tell for Boys and Girls both. try to give the reasons also.

2007-11-14 22:56:49 · 21 answers · asked by Micky 1

Please leave your honest comment esp if you had been unfaithful to your spouse.

2007-11-14 22:56:06 · 11 answers · asked by Rave 2

My husband and I have had a pretty rocky relationship. We have been married for 8 years and have 2 daughters together.
Today, I pretty much reached boiling point and suggested for the first time that we should divorce and I would move back home (5000 miles away).
I expected to hear something like "No, you can't do that. I love you, etc." All I heard was "No, you can't do that to the kids. Just try it, because I'm not going to let you do that (in a threatening manner)". I said "It doesn't make any difference because we don't have a relationship anyways." (we haven't been intimate in 5 months...HIS choice.) He didn't even offer a reply to that.
Now, I am left sitting here wondering if there is anything left to salvage? I still love him a lot but, I know I can't change him and I kind of doubt he loves me. I think he is only in it for the children. I don't want to stick around someplace where someone doesn't really love me. What do you think? Advice please? Thanks!

2007-11-14 22:46:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-14 22:46:49 · 7 answers · asked by basel q 2

2007-11-14 22:44:47 · 4 answers · asked by pravin t 1

have for the last four years been involved with wonderful woman. I used to think "soul mate" was crap. now I believe it.. is it true for you? is there a "second half" perfect fit for each of us?

2007-11-14 22:44:19 · 13 answers · asked by malcolmhiggins 1

I have two women I've been friends with since high school, who were also friends themselves up until 2 years ago when they had a fall out. Friend A confided in someone that friend B's husband had hit on her. Even though friend B's husband has a history of being unfathful, for some reason she refuses to believe the other woman and has wiped her, saying she made it up to cause trouble. I think she knows deep down it is true, and it's easier to cut her friend out, than it is to divorce her husband. In the last few months I've grown closer to the 'wiped' friend and my other girlfriend has become jealous and cranky with me. She will throw a tantrum and refuse to come into my house if the other woman is there, and I feel like I'm in the middle.

I really don't feel like I want to make a choice between them, but I feel I'm being forced. What would you do? If you decided to stay friends with both, how would you justify it to your angry friend? Hope this all made sense :)

2007-11-14 22:32:16 · 7 answers · asked by Kylie M 1

My husband and I are having marital issues and for about two months he hasn't say a word to me, but don't have a legal separation yet and I am expecting a baby, due in March. I know that he re-enlisted and that recently he received orders to possibly go to Iraq very soon. Do I have the right of calling or seeing his command to find out when he is going and for how long???

2007-11-14 22:15:54 · 15 answers · asked by Me 2

2007-11-14 22:07:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I 've always done what I was told. I love to make people happy. But I'm starting to realize that what I thought made me happy never really was there. I'm passionate about things my other half doesn't care about or has know interest in. SO I try really hard to do what makes him and others happy. And push what I want aside. That was working so I thought. But now I ve found somone that turly lights those passions in me . Only I can never speak of it. So that person will never know how happy they make me. I'm to afaid to dissplease or hurt anyone. SO HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS AND MAKE IT ALL GO AWAY? Please help!

2007-11-14 22:06:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are going through a rough time because of the affair he had. His mistress is still living in the apartment that is in his name (he's at home now). We are trying to get through all of this.

He is away on business right now and we talked last night. I asked him what he is planning on doing with his apartment and how he feels about everything. He said that he hasn't had time to think about things because he is so busy at work. How can he not think about things? I wake up every morning and can't stop thinking all day. What does this mean?

2007-11-14 22:06:17 · 11 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

2007-11-14 22:04:37 · 14 answers · asked by LoCo#33 1

What do you wish your partner would do with you, but you won't ask or they've refused? Setting, activity, apparel, whatever! What would spice things up? Thanks! :-)

2007-11-14 21:57:55 · 23 answers · asked by Nata 3

can a relationship, which started out as adulterous, in the end, be blessed?
to explain.... husband and wife have a LOT of problems. both of them know there is no "marriage" left, but they stay together for the sakes of the kids. she ends up having a lesbian relationship, and he ends up with a mistress he ultimately falls in love with. after several months, the mistress walks away, knowing that she cannot be the reason they get divorced.
time passes... after a year and a half, husband and wife get divorced. another year goes by, and the man and mistress reunite and soon marry, even tho they have not spoken to each other since she walked away, and are the happiest and the most in love they have ever been... the (ex)wife has been with her girlfriend straight thru, even to this day.
could their separation be the price the man and mistress had to pay to ultimately be happy and share an amazing love together? is it possible for this marriage to truly be blessed in the eyes of God?

2007-11-14 21:29:20 · 15 answers · asked by tonysdoll815 2

before some months his father was agree for our marrage , his father told me that if your family becomes agree , then we have no problem we will allow u both to marry. now my family is agree but now his father is telling that its not possible now. my boyfriend don't want to go aganst his family........
what shouls i do?????? plz help me......
his uncle has expired, now his uncle's childs also depends on his family.......i am in a big problem........i want to marry with him...how can i make his family agree......

2007-11-14 21:25:39 · 6 answers · asked by neha 1

Your lifestyle is modest nothing like ostentatious and yet would it get attention of wrong type of people who love your money more than you.

2007-11-14 21:05:44 · 12 answers · asked by protege 3

A question I just answered prompted me to ask this. Why don't people blame their spouse when they cheat? Why do they blame the other man/woman? Is it just so they can hold on to their spouse? I'm not saying you shouldn't hate the other person. Of course, you're going to. But isn't it your spouse who wronged you? What if the other person didn't even know about you? The question said something about a woman trying to take your man away by purposely getting pregnant to him. Isn't that just as much his fault? Why do you think people do this?

(I will admit, this makes me angry. I think it's weak and that people do it because they are afraid of losing their spouse; they can't face they've already lost them, at least in the moment.)

2007-11-14 20:56:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-14 20:53:57 · 12 answers · asked by de1159 2

I have prayed for a companion for like 4 years, but nothing...has anyone just prayed and soon got it?

God hasn't been answering barely any of my prayers, I don't understand why....

I did a previous post, someone told me to just ask him and forget about it, and not bring it up anymore....I can't do that, ill ask and if nothing happens for like a couple months, Ill wonder does he not care....

Other people pray for things and it happens right away, and as far as i can see they don't nearly come close to biblical knowledge or understanding who God really is than to me...Or even that Holy for that matter...

Why Do I Need To Do? I just want a companion, not to get married right away? Someone I can take out and buy stuff on, and soon just make a commitment?

It's starting to get under my skin, and hate to admit but is making me angry, and hurts...cause I love God, and wonder why do does he put people through hoops, that care about him...

2007-11-14 20:48:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

An emotional affair with no sexual contact involved, or a sexual affair with no emotions involved?

2007-11-14 20:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by helly 6

2007-11-14 20:36:59 · 9 answers · asked by natali 1

2007-11-14 20:35:37 · 17 answers · asked by natali 1

i have no idea what it is, or where it is, but it goes off everyday and i cant find it...

whats happening...

did one of you do something in here ???

2007-11-14 20:24:09 · 22 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4

My wife's sister was living with us for couple of months as her uni was close by.She has recently moved out and is living in a hostel. Wn she lived with us, I took care of her as my own sis. But I realised tht she didnt value her parents and my wife, hence i felt I didnt need to care for her anymore. She has never been rude to me though. I recently raised my concerns to my wife tht I no longer wanted her sis to come over to our house on the wkends wn i was home cos i no longer wanted to meet or talk to her.as I felt she didnt value anyone.

My wife got quite offended by this and had a nervous breakdown, she told me how she and her family had always appreciated me for wt i had done for her sis. When I looked back I realised how my wife had sacrificed for me at so many levels so if she was asking me to be supportive now, I should listen to her as it was now my turn to do something for her. But wn her sis came to visit us again i just cudnt tolerate it, i tried but i just didnt want to be around, i felt i was being used. i made it clear to my wife tht in marriage u r expected to be helping each other out so she shud stop using her sacrifices as an emotional blackmail tool for me to submit to her wishes. She got annoyed and asked me to leave the house, she hit me and kicked me out of the house infront of her sis.in anger we both started hitting each other. I began to feel tht all of this was being caused cos of her sister, before this we hadnt been fighting like this. i felt our marriage was at risk here cos of her sis.

my wife still insisted to call her sis over esp on the weekend wn i was home, this really annoyed me, i rang up her parents and my parents and informed them how our marriage was being ruined by my wife's stubborness. i told them clearly tht i didnt want to meet her sis anymore. Her parents also began to emotionally blackmail me by saying how they had always appreciated wt i had done for her sis and tht i shudnt behave like this and tht my attitude was wrong.

I felt pressurised at every point. Eventually everyone started seeing me as the bad inconsiderate guy and i had to end up apologising to her family for hurting their feelings everyone knows i hit my wife but no one knows she hit me too. I even had to apologise to her sis for saying tht i hated her and didnt want to see her face. my wife's sis has stopped coming to our house now, my wife has laid another condition now tht my sis will step into our house only wn i call her up myself and invite her to come. I have made it clear to her tht i will not do tht as i have done enough by apologising to her sis and her parents already.I dont know wt she expects and wants from me now. We both equally hit each other, called each other names but she has played the victim now and wants me to go back to inviting her sis and behaving all goody goody again. so in the end she still gets her way. Is this right for her to be choosing her sis over me? she constantly keeps telling me how her sister loves me like her real brother, she tries to make it seem all my fault tht i was rude.

2007-11-14 20:15:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

That were downloaded from your computer by your husband?
I have kept them, and hidden them, crashed and reformatted my PC. Called him a sick f*uck and told him he needed help for his addiction. What would you do ? What should I do next? I am so disgusted, I can't even look at him. I've also told him that he is out of my life. We have two kids and I won't take them and leave.

2007-11-14 20:09:44 · 34 answers · asked by Marla ™ 5