blessed adultery?

Question

can a relationship, which started out as adulterous, in the end, be blessed?
to explain.... husband and wife have a LOT of problems. both of them know there is no "marriage" left, but they stay together for the sakes of the kids. she ends up having a lesbian relationship, and he ends up with a mistress he ultimately falls in love with. after several months, the mistress walks away, knowing that she cannot be the reason they get divorced.
time passes... after a year and a half, husband and wife get divorced. another year goes by, and the man and mistress reunite and soon marry, even tho they have not spoken to each other since she walked away, and are the happiest and the most in love they have ever been... the (ex)wife has been with her girlfriend straight thru, even to this day.
could their separation be the price the man and mistress had to pay to ultimately be happy and share an amazing love together? is it possible for this marriage to truly be blessed in the eyes of God?

Answer 1

In the eyes of God? That I don't know. I'm not God and I would NEVER even venture to say what He would think about it. I do know this: obviously, they were never meant to be together and you didn't break up their marriage because she is obviously gay. There's nothing wrong with that; it is who she is. I'd have to say that I don't feel you did anything wrong. He was in a marriage he never should have been in. So go ahead. Be happy with your man. I believe that God will forgive your sins if you are TRULY sorry. If you are TRULY sorry that you were with a married man, whether you love him or not and God knows this, he will forgive you. I believe that God believes in redemption for almost all sins. At least, I really hope so. If not, I am most sincerely f_cked.

Answer 2

All circumstances vary and there is always so much more to this than what you could write.

That said, the mistress seemed to have made the right decision when she walked away. She realized he was not willing to commit (couldn't leave wife for her nor could he keep marriage vows) and, hopefully, her own mistake in looking for love in places that it was not to be found.

Wife seemed to do ok, too, in letting go of a relationship that was not to be fulfilling for either partner.

The possibility for a happy union between the former mistress and the adulterer would entirely depend on the (for the sake of not being insulting) man's ability to learn and grow. If he (and/or you) is able to realize what it truly means to commit and is actually capable of doing that then, so long as this love is true and both parties are willing to work and fight for it, it should work out just fine.

If he is just hoping that it'll be easier this time, that he won't have to put up with expectations and such, then it will fail.

And just so you know where this is coming from: I'm agnostic and I believe in open relationships over traditional marriages. I would happily, however, commit to a traditional relationship if I loved another who did not want an open relationship and I will always place trust and honesty above any other quality in a relationship.

If he wants a closed relationship then cheats on me it would be a breach of both trust and honesty. If I were "the other woman" I would have to take in his willingness to lie to the one he claimed to love above all into some very serious consideration.

If you can betray that person it really takes so very much to prove your ability to be trusted.

Answer 3

It is this simple, God forbids adultery and sexual immorality. The fact that people seem happy on the outside cannot be a basis to obtain a blessing. The Bible says that adulterers shall not inherit the Kingdom of God. Both relationships are certainly not right in the eyes of God. But He is a God who forgives those who repent with a sincere heart. One cannot justify their actions on what King David did, we have the new testament of Jesus Christ who came after King David lived. Therefore biblically no blessing will rectify the mistakes already made, the persons involved need to go before God and repent - that means to forsake their actions, to turn away completely. It does not matter which church they go to, certainly a blessing will just make them feel better but deep down they'll be a conviction or guilt.

Answer 4

Both parties were unfaithful, not just the husband. Both parties broke the marriage vow, the marriage was over and the vows became dead. I do believe that people have a right to be happy, and I do not feel the husband and mistress should take all the blame and shoulder all the guilt, the wife had an affair as well. The bible says that if there is adultery the couple are free to marry again after that.

Answer 5

Many of us have made mistakes in marriage including adultery. I was with a man that was married, but said he was estranged and fell in love with each other over 7 years ago. I couldn't deal with messing up a marriage even though to this day............they have no relationship. This man loved me very much and this I know but was torn by his responsibilties. Ultimately, we both had a roller coaster ride with a long distance relationship. I ended it because I wanted him to choose and I lost. That's what usually happens. In this case, where the wife is lesbian, that's totally different. You can't change her sexuality and this doesn't make for a good relationship at all. It is possible to have an affair and fall in love and ultimately end up back together because there had to be strong ties and bonding there to begin with as well as love. My ex-boyfriend still sends me cards for my birthday and holidays and even money to help me out because I am poor.........not for any other reason. He wants to help me. We email occasionally but keep it light and I was the one who broke it off and refuse to see him even for lunch because I don't want that kind of pain anymore. If he ever got divorced, I would take him back as we are so good for each other..but I, too, don't want to be the reason. I am a born-again Christian now and the Lord is forgiving and loves us for all our faults. He knows that we all are sinners and fall short of the glory of God. We must learn from our mistakes though and ask sincerely for forgiveness and He will.
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I don't think it does. It's the cherished memories with that person that ultimately will bring us back to the one we love so much. God will forgive them and Bless the marriage, but they must learn from their mistakes. He wants our happiness. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Run away from this scenario my girl and look for unmarried men. Married men have heaps of baggage and undealt with will end up doing exactly what they have done to their wives. You are never rid of the ex wife since if children are involved she will be standing and threatening if she receives no maintenance, so if you marry him, you marry her too, because she will forever be looming in the background. Dont ever kid yourself and think you are going to be a better wife. He still has all that trash on his shoulders and you will bear the brunt of it. Turn around and run for your life and leave married men alone. Its not worth it! Wheels turn. What you sow, you will reap! THINK!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It could be that you met and hooked up to soon. God is a forgiving God and will forgive adulterers. The mistress walking away was probably the best thing that ever happened. You can't start a new relationship, when the old is not finished.

Answer 9

The Scriptures are very clear about the things you have mentioned. Jesus tells about how God hates divorce, and only allows for it in the case of unfaithfulness. Romans 1 and the Law in Leviticus makes it clear that homosexuality (which includes lesbianism) is sinful (Remember Sodom and Gomorrah). Even though we see in the scriptures where God brought honor to himself even through some body's disobedience, he never blessed the act that they were doing.

Answer 10

you would probably have to ask God because no one here on earth really knows of course some will try to know but there is no way to know.