Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2007

I've been married 7 1/2 years and my husband is very verbally abusive and a few times physical and sexual. I feel like he's repeating his last failed marriage to a T. I recently met someone and we had a spiritual connection. I don't open myself to anyone because I'am married and take my vows serious. My mom says I should end my marriage becuz of the abuse, is she right? I find our relationship just going in circles. We have "no children" together but I have raised his kids now 11-13-19-21. The 3 boys (11-13-21) live with us and the younger ones do not listen or respect me because he speaks to me like crap in front of them. Any advice. I have felt cut off emotionally from him since 2001. Any advice? Seperate or divorce? Is it wrong to break free and get the happiness I truely deserve?

2007-11-14 11:46:04 · 16 answers · asked by anabanana 2

2007-11-14 11:41:08 · 20 answers · asked by Daniel T 1

I feel so helpless. They live in Germany and I am currently located in the states. How best can I support her when she is not able to talk about it yet and I cant be there for her? She found out he was having an affair when she was 6 months pregnant and didn't tell anyone even her family. They went to counseling for a 9 months and she just found out he had continued the affair and now its over for good. She is devastated.

2007-11-14 11:33:52 · 17 answers · asked by Dave 1

She uses it in blogs i.e. facebook etc.... we divorced 5 years ago, I don't know if she's got it on her passport....

2007-11-14 11:26:51 · 21 answers · asked by oraziofama 1

And you are happy, but your guy doesn't speak of a future ie. living together marriage.. do you stick with him or do you move on?

2007-11-14 11:08:46 · 27 answers · asked by anonyn55 2

my boyfreind is starting to see his son again and i think he still has feelings for his ex, he was there at the birth, talks alot about her and hides pictures of them kissing

i would never stop him seeing his son but i dont no what to do. i dont want to be bitter towards his son but this is realy upseting me. please help! thank you , jess x

2007-11-14 11:00:05 · 20 answers · asked by hotlips 3

2007-11-14 10:59:37 · 38 answers · asked by froglady972 2

married 2 years, no children together. he was out of work for almost a year and i supported us. he drives a $50,000 truck that he refused to sell bought his daughter a car. he started renovations on my house that he never finished, he has broken/torn up a window, a door facing, put holes in a wall (all of that is still there) in fits of rage. how do i get this stuff paid for if he leaves? wtf?

2007-11-14 10:49:03 · 19 answers · asked by mp3 4

Got married when we were 20, now were 32. This has been going on over a year. At the time my wife met this guy, I guess you can say I wasn’t very appreciative of her. After 12 years you kind of lose sight of what’s in front of you. She told me their relationship never consisted of sex, sometime they would just hang out, and sometimes they would just kiss and have a good time enjoying each others company, that their whole relationship was like a vacation from her reality until this last encounter witch she said that they haven’t even talked to each other for months before this. She said they were just hanging out and started talking and then started kissing and things just got a little over board so he started to try to have sex with her and she thought that’s what she wanted too until he made contact and she realized this isn’t what I want so she pushed him off and started dry heaving, crying, and got physically ill. I believe her about everything because I made her swear on our children about it. I see all the pain and guilt shes going through. Things are good at the moment, we cant keep our hand off each other and our sex has never been better. It’s just painful to get flashes of them together from time to time.

2007-11-14 10:43:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was wondering. This lesbo stated that the reason she left her husband was because their was no foreplay. A woman wants foreplay. Is this a honest statement by her? Yes, I'm happily married and it stil works good.

2007-11-14 10:39:02 · 13 answers · asked by Ace of Spades 5

I am curious. I am not married. Nor have I ever even considered involving myself with a married man. I just want to know if this is more common that what we would expect it to be. Being that this is anonymous we can all benefit.

1 what profession are you both in?
2 your ages at the time of marriage?
3 how long you dated priror to marriage?
4 first marriage?
5 how long married?
6 happily married?

Please answer the title question thoroughly and please answer the 6 questions. I can only see as much as your words allow me to.

Thank you.

Disclaimer: offensive remarks towards ME will not be tolerated. Please be an adult about this. You should not answer this question if it hits a sore spot and causes you to insult me because I will not put up with it.

2007-11-14 10:36:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

The guy im in love with is having issues so were not talking right now..his best friend called me because were all friends from way back..so his friend ask me how me and him are doing and I give him the scoop on it all..me and my guy have been off and on for awhile ..his friend tells me that my guy is just afraid and i said why and he said because i have said all the right things and have done all the right things and that makes my guy scared..so in return my guy wants to let it go and run..wtf?? does anyone understand this..they are best friends for like 25yrs so he knows him more than anyone but still ..if a person did and was everything you wanted..then wouldn't that mean you would want to be with them?

2007-11-14 10:32:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has always been the type that has to have SOMETHING in contact while we're sleeping at night. Just like his hand rested on my arm, or his foot touching my leg, no big deal, I've always thought it was sweet and have started to be the same way. Lately (and I am 8 and a half months pregnant, not that it should have anything to do w/ it) but lately, at night everytime I try to just rest my hand on his arm or something he jerks away or pushes me away. For some odd reason I feel like I'm disturbing his thoughts of another woman...am I being brash? Why all of the sudden does he NOT want to touch me? I don't think these are my pregnancy hormones, because it's just something I've noticed has been happening....could he possibly be thinking about other women because he's turned off by me being HUGE pregnant? We still have a sex life that he seems to be happy w/, so I don't think he would be seeking it elsewhere...any oppinions? Is it his time of the month? ;) ;)....THanks

2007-11-14 10:32:04 · 17 answers · asked by NewMommaStef 1

Well - after a long (and hard - pun intended) dry spell, my wife and I FINALLY seem to be getting back on the same page with the sex frequency thing.

However - after a hot session las night, I half-jokingly refered to her (in a wisper out of ear shot of the kids), as my hot little MILF this morning as I was leaving for work.

Then when I talked to her over my lunch hour today, she brought up the fact that she thought is was rude of me to make such a comment to her ?!?!?

I said I was sorry, but I just want to know....

As a woman, if your husband refered (or refers) to you as a MILF, do you take this as a compliment or an insult ? I just found it odd that it bothered her so much. Afert all she is a mother (to our children) and I definitely like to *-*-*-* her !! So the description fits :)

2007-11-14 10:30:19 · 41 answers · asked by aa889d 5

2007-11-14 10:28:05 · 21 answers · asked by amac 1

just wonderin

2007-11-14 09:59:42 · 23 answers · asked by a91mtl 3

2 weekends ago, my longtime BF went to Austin to help his mom out with a trade show. I talked to him while he was there, and things seemed normal. He mentioned that he had gone out to see a show one night, and that the music was good, etc. etc. I didn't think anything of it. However, I just visited his myspace page, and there was a comment from a girl on there (a new person, who has not posted to his page before) who lives 20 mi. from Austin, saying, "Thanks for the pic comment, glad you liked it" - WTF? Who is this person? Is this some chick he met while he was out of town? I tried to link to her page, but it's private.

What do you think?

I posted this here, because people in this forum tend to be a little more adult than those in singles and dating - I don't need feedback from 13 year olds!

2007-11-14 09:50:53 · 51 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

I want to have my hubby and another man at the same time. Does this make me awful? I am 43 and have been having weird feelings like this for about a year.

2007-11-14 09:48:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a strory to tell. It starts when i broke up with my ex boyfriend and rebounded with my current husband. i met him and less than 3 months got married to him. i was so eager to make this relationship work that i got an apartment and immediately got pregnant. the catch was he and i were from the same country so our families are somewhat close. once pregnant and making a good salary, he became dependent on me and pushed me to buy all the things in the apartment and do his school (masters) level and if i didnt he would stop speaking to me and become violent with me at any excuse. next, he threatened me to get him his greencard because his status was illegal(please dont ask how he was a student...the system is messed up). i denied him at first but sadly he became more violent, i moved out like he wanted and back with my parents. where i am from there is no such thing as calling the cops on your partner---i was too scared to be alone. i moved back with him and he hit me till i passed out and then made the story up to my parents that i took a knife after him. btw, i am 135 pds, 5'3 he is 200 pds and 6'3. i called his family and they made me feel like a liar and his mom defended him vigorously. i cried and cried and by then had lost 2 pregnancies one by miscarriage, other abortion believing i'd never go back. but i did after feeling alone and worthless. i filed his for his greencard...he told me that that was all he married me for)(and sat. i got PREGNANT again and this time convinced myself that with or without him, i needed a child and even if i left him, i wouldnt have the burden of marrying soon again to have children. recently he got his greencard and i felt and dying. i thought they would never give it to him because he lied and got caught by the interviewer. his greencard is a temporary one and i am 8 months pregnant and living alone right now. i have a few options, i can go to ins and tell them what i am telling you. he currently lives in my apartment and when he did get his greencard, he nor his family thank me. its been atleast 3 months since he has kissed me.
we had an argument about him being on eharmony and he told me to SHUT THE **** up! and that i am insecure because of the way he looks. i realized that he has no respect for women period. he has made me feel so ugly, worthless , defenseless and weak.
honestly, my parents too are going through a separation because my father also has made my mothers life hell. she is out of the country now, so you can understand my loneliness.
what will it take for me to be strong and let this animal go? I cant take antideppressant out of the fear hurting my baby. since marriage, i have not been abe to go pursue my law degree. i feel pathetic. he never will change...only for the worse.

2007-11-14 09:38:54 · 11 answers · asked by bluez 1

We have been married for 5 years now. I know there is and expectation of rough riding when first married. I am not a person that needs things. I wait years to buy clothes! I only feel it is fair that I hold up my end of the deal that he hold up his. I was a career mom. I had a great job. But after our second child daycare costs outweighed the money I made. My husband silently has made it were I do everything but work. Finances, Cleaning rearing of kids, dealing with home problems, Like home owners Assoc, Collections, Making sure all bills paid I mean Everything. It was just assumed if I did that, that he would make sure he brought home enough to cover bills, doctor visits, medical that stuff. Clothes for growing boys, food, house payment. Well he cant =(. He does really great for a few months then nothing having to hope they dont take our house. He is in the same job, Dealer Salesman for an Auto Parts Company. So its not because he cant keep a job. AM I WORNG? Please Help

2007-11-14 09:33:24 · 29 answers · asked by Poppy 2

I don't know what is wrong with me. I am in my twenties and married but I don't want to have sex. I know that he does and he doesn't like us not doing anything but I need to know what I can do to get back into sex to where I want it again. Why is this happening? I don' t want to ruin my marriage because of it.

2007-11-14 09:30:27 · 43 answers · asked by bbygrl 2

For the past couple of days, I haven't felt like kissing him.
We have been through a lot.
But whenever he wants a kiss or to be really close to me, I'm not feeling it. I am wondering if anyone has gone through this and if it's something that will pass over time, how long I should wait to see if the unnatraction goes away, or what do you think?

2007-11-14 09:29:45 · 8 answers · asked by O new moon 3

My husband and I were fine and we just got into a huge fight over money! He turned into the meanest person in the whole world! Cussing screaming calling every name you can imagine! He even got in my face and told be he @#$%&# hated my pathetic guts! All this because we don't have as much money as he expected. No fault of mine either I work 2 jobs to his one. My question is this? does someone that turns on you like this really love you? I would like to know. We've been together for 20 years and he has done this in the past but never this bad.

2007-11-14 09:26:51 · 23 answers · asked by TABBY 4

I have been married for nearly seven years. The marriage has had a lot of bad times with us nearly splitting up on more than one occasion.

Through it all I am at the point where I have lost my desire for her sexually and the best we do together is to tolerate each other.

I guess my question is should I level with her and tell her my feelings for her are not as they were and I feel like I'm living a lie staying married to her "happily"? Or, should I keep my mouth shut as telling her these things would make her unhappy and we would most likely divorce (which is no fun) ?

2007-11-14 09:21:31 · 21 answers · asked by cougar_mccxxi 2

Hey Ladies, think it would be fun to cross dress ur husband or boyfried? my husbands likes to sneak up behing me and snap my bra staps so I think it might be a little fun for some pay back. any other girls that have bone this?

2007-11-14 09:19:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

How hard would it be for the following to find a partner?


a. a 33 old skinny guy
b. a 22 year old perfect body female with 4 kids
c. a 40 year old over-weight woman, grown kids
d. a 45 year old bald man
e. a 25 year old man who is very immature

On a scale of 1 to 5 with 5 being the highest chance of finding a partner and 1 being the lowest.

Thanks in advance ,,,,,any and all comments are welcomed.

2007-11-14 09:14:20 · 7 answers · asked by carmeliasue 6

My partner and I have been together on and off for 3years we have a daughter who is 2,and I also have 2 children from a previous marriage.The thing is our relationship has always been volatile and passionate we are always splitting up and getting back together.There are times i've sworn I'd never take him back after things he's said or done,but I do.He has been violent before pushing,etc.But then again so have I although mainly in defence.But this weekend he punched me straight in the face,I have obviously thrown him out,and I don't want him back,but I'm scared I'll weaken again.Please I know I should get tough but I can't,I just want coping strategies when I feel I am weakening.

2007-11-14 09:08:39 · 20 answers · asked by ellie2324 2

I am a guy and have my needs. I am 25 and this is killing me. I am not going to cheat but it is almost like being starved of air. The physical side of the relationship is currently dead in my eyes.

A female just doenst know how hard it is for some guys to go through something like this. I can understand why a man would cheat.

2007-11-14 09:01:48 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a single woman who is in her mid 40s but who is frequently invited on dates by guys who are in their 20s. This is such a compliment as they usually guess that I'm around 30. I have a problem in that I'm often attracted to them too. The only thing is, my judgement tells me that they are only out for the sexual experience and once they ask me my age, I often loose confidence. I have this idea, even though it seems a bit prejudiced, that younger guys will want to meet 'the mother of thier children' in the woman of their life. Men out there, please talk to me and advise me on this one. Are you all (when in your 20's) interested in the sexual experience when you want to date an older woman or can it really be a stable, long term, real love relationship. Because, this is what I want. (I've never been married and have no kids).

2007-11-14 08:50:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-14 08:46:30 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous