I want to have my hubby and another man at the same time. Does this make me awful? I am 43 and have been having weird feelings like this for about a year.
2007-11-14 09:48:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
theres nothing wrong with it at all ..... my wife and i have a nother couple that we like to swap or group sex with , we try to do it atleast once a month or so ........we havehad many of many of good times with these other people however this is not for all couples..... you need to be a strong couple with an open and trusting relationship as well as being able to trust this other person or persons that this may hapen with ...... you need to sit and talk over what you would like to hapen and not to hapen ,what rules you have and dont have and you all stress all agree on these rules before it hapens ...... you need to have the mind set with this other person as well that this is not love it is just sexual experinces that you want to have for your enjoyment ......... if you so do choose to as a couple to go thru with this if theres a time when fighting or arguing in the future that this is not brought up in the face of one another just for the sake of doing it to make one another mad or what not ....... can be a great thing and be very arousing to one another as it is to us thru our continuing relationship with this other couple ......have your self some fun and fulfill that fantasy.... hope all goes well and ya get what ya want ........:)
or you can live the boring lives of the ones above and not ever fullfill some great experinces with your husband together that can be enjoying to both of you at the same time .........;)
2007-11-14 10:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal feeling. Have you shared it with your husband? What does he think? Believe it or not, it's a common fantasy with husbands too (having his wife pleasured by another man at the same time). Maybe simply talking about it with your husband along with maybe reading stories or watching an adult movie with those situations in it (with him) would be enough for you (if not, it would be a gentle start). With toys, there are ways to act out a fantasy without actually having to have another person present.
Many people are able to do this without any stress on the marriage. They just consider it an adult recreational activity that they can enjoy together (and they are quick to make the distinction that they only do it together -- not apart). It probably helps to make some "rules" to prevent any misunderstandings and jealousy. I'm sure there are some swinger website forums to help you get you started through the thought process to see if it's really right for you. The important thing is to always do stuff like that together and keep the communication between you strong at all times.
2007-11-14 18:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by agrocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all are you awful! You are perfectly normal in every way! If people would admit their feelings and fantasies there would be a whole lot less problems in this world.
I suggest talk to your husband. Tell him what you would like to do and whom you would like to have as the other partner. Pick someone you know your husband would trust. Also tell him you are more than willing to let him have you and another woman together. Ask him to give you several names of men he would trust besides the one you have in mind. Same for the other woman as well.
If you can both do this without jealousy it can work out very well. Jealousy will be your big factor. Read over the information posted below it will help you a lot.
Good luck and I hope both you and your husband will be agreeable on this and enjoy yourselves. It is not bad and you are not bad either...ENJOY!
Should you decide to choose my answer is best, I hope you will email me and tell me how things went...either way....
2007-11-14 22:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong and it does not make you awful. What is does mean is that you are willing to try to spice things up in your marriage. Try approaching your husband and have an open and honest discussion about it. You just might be suprised with his reaction. He may geet very upset or he may approve and get excited by the idea. What you both have to remember is that you both love each other and that there is no emtional connections between you and the other guy. This is just for pure sexual gratification.
2007-11-15 08:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by willie_mosconi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG. It will ruin your marriage. Think about your hubby penetrating another womans rosebud. Well, that's how he will feel with another guy rockin' on top of his beloved wife. Odds are, if you have expressed this interest to him, you've already crushed his self esteem. Poor hubby probably feels a sense of inadequacy knowing that he can't fully satisfy your sexual desires. What makes being with two guys so appealing to you. Why not just try and spice up what you've got instead of destroyin it. Trust me, there is no good outcome for this situation.
2007-11-14 17:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by chuckachoo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like something is missing in your marriage for you to even consider doing something like that. Remember your vows does "forsaking all others" ring a bell. There are more than just religious reasons for not doing something like that. What do you think it would do to the emotional intimacy level of your marriage to allow another man in your marriage bed?
How much pain do you think your husband would be in? How much pain would you be in if things were reversed. Marriage is not Burger King you don't get to "have it your way". This is someone Else's heart and soul you are messing around with. Yes. It's wrong.
2007-11-14 18:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong to fantasize about things but you could ruin your marriage if you go through with it.There is not a lot of men who want to share their wives with anyone male or female and sometimes when they say they are OK with the idea after its over they end up feeling different about you even if they wont admit it.If me and my wife had a three way I would feel like it cheapened our relationship and her and myself.Fantasies are fantasies because in real life they are not practical because of human emotion.
2007-11-14 20:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that is what you want and your husband is ok with it then go for it . You are an adult and old enough to make these choices , just be safe . I would not do it in my own house . It would feel weird . Good luck .
2007-11-14 17:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ana C pisces1976 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not weird,but make sure hubby is as game as you are and maybe the other guy a bit smaller than hubby if you get my meaning no jealousy
2007-11-14 17:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by cmdogg38 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple. No, there is nothing wrong with you to be having sexual fantasies like that one......Fantasies......How are you gonna feel after you fulfill that fantasy? Are you going to go into a "depression" or some "self-inflicted" pain stage and self pitty because you slept with another man? Fantasies are better when they are kept fantasies......you enjoy them more.....because, we will always lust for that thing or someone that we shouldn't have, ever...and besides, your sexual fantasy life will be empty, and then, what are you going to desire next?.......that's how it starts.........
2007-11-14 18:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Musiklova 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋