Why does my husband pull away or push my away after we go to bed at night? (Not sexually)?

Question

My husband has always been the type that has to have SOMETHING in contact while we're sleeping at night. Just like his hand rested on my arm, or his foot touching my leg, no big deal, I've always thought it was sweet and have started to be the same way. Lately (and I am 8 and a half months pregnant, not that it should have anything to do w/ it) but lately, at night everytime I try to just rest my hand on his arm or something he jerks away or pushes me away. For some odd reason I feel like I'm disturbing his thoughts of another woman...am I being brash? Why all of the sudden does he NOT want to touch me? I don't think these are my pregnancy hormones, because it's just something I've noticed has been happening....could he possibly be thinking about other women because he's turned off by me being HUGE pregnant? We still have a sex life that he seems to be happy w/, so I don't think he would be seeking it elsewhere...any oppinions? Is it his time of the month? ;) ;)....THanks

Answer 1

I tool felt uncomfortable touching my wife while she was pg. Dunno why, just parental instinct, I guess, probably because I didn't want to hurt Junior in any way. Kinda like mothers who won't let their boys shoot BB guns.

Answer 2

OH MY GOD!. Why do women in general have to always dramatize everything, read into everything, analyze everything and put a negative spin on everything?
Have you consider the fact that maybe the fact that you are pregnant is actually scary for him that he doesn't;t know how to approach you and maybe thinks he might hurt the baby inside you? Why assume that men are expert in pregnancy. men have no idea what it is like to carry a baby and for them the woman's body turns into this overly protected sensitive zone to be careful with. Just ask him if that is what it is. you might be surprised at the answer. good luck ... and congratulations on the pregnancy.

Answer 3

I really don't know. Maybe he's stressed out and thinking of the new baby stresses him out even more? Men can be so strange sometimes, I really don't understand them...My husband doesn't always like to cuddle with me, sometimes he'll even wedge a pillow between us if he's mad at me. hehe, but I would ask him why he's acting this way. Don't accuse him of thinking of another woman, I think that is the pregnancy hormones talking :)

Answer 4

that's tough. He may well be feeling trapped desirable now - he is going to artwork, talks to you all day, gets residing house, is going to artwork on a house AFTER being at artwork all day. in case you will come across a manner, take a mini-holiday at the same time. it would desire to be so straightforward as dinner out at a stunning eating place, then a nighttime spent in a inn room with a bottle of inexpensive champagne. The trick is to make it something that's out of the conventional and not annoying. You cope with all the foremost factors (inclusive of determining the place the money will come from) so he can loosen up and revel in.

Answer 5

Never been preg before but could he be afraid of hurting you
while he sleeps? Or that he may roll over on you or roll you
off the bed? When I came home from having surgery once
my husb got that way and was terrified he would hurt me.
Or he may be worried he will want to keep on touching and
then having sex and wants to take it easy on you?
With that said, no of us can pretend to know his mind
so just ask him when you are comfortable and not
too upset he just may surprise you or not even realize
this. Take care of yourself 8 1/2 months you are almost
there!!! Congrats to you both. Wishing you an easy
delivery.

Answer 6

It could be a number of things. But you'll only keep guessing until you ask him to talk to you. Who knows, maybe he's consumed with worry/stress over baby coming. Some guys worry over finances, and ability to support the family after baby comes. Or maybe he's scared to tell you that he's anxious about the stresses of raising a child, or is thinking about his childhood and worried about messing up things if his own father messed up in some ways. Maybe it has nothing to do with baby, maybe he's just stressed out at his work and chooses to just say nothing-keeping negative thoughts to himself about anything and everything to avoid upsetting you/or getting into serious long discussion/argument. When he's in a good mood, maybe then is a good time to ask him what's going through his mind at night - if he wants to share with you. Let him know you care about what he's going through.

Answer 7

May be he's just careful not to harm the baby and that's why he sleep's in a defense manner, or maybe the hormones works on him it happen to me when my wife was pregnant from our first child i had all the bad time and habit, hopefully he is not having an other one out there;-)

Answer 8

I thinks it's time we had

THE TALK

you see, there's a time in every man's life where he gets extremely emotional, especially around the prospect of pregnancy, marriage, or a recent death in the family.

They're just not in the mood for contact of any kind, nix the sexual kind.

Answer 9

Non of us here are able to read his thoughts. You need to ask him gently what's going on. You seen to have put the issue very well in your question here, do they same with your husband. See how he is, and pay attention to what he does. If there is someone else in his life, it will become evident soon enough, but there is no need to get over excited, you need to take care of your health and they health of your baby right now.

Answer 10

He's just giving you space because this is such an emotional point in your pregnancy that he doesn't want to be uncomfortable. Tell him that you want him to still hold you and do those things, because he's not the one pregnant.

Answer 11

you should just ask him why hes doing it. maybe hes just stressed out thinking about the thought of having a new baby in the house soon. men tend to handle stress a lot different than we do