What do you do when you KNOW your husband is having an affair?

Answer 1

confrontation. thats the next step. of course, be ready for the answer. figure out what u want to do before you do confront him. do u want a divorce? or do u want to go to a counselor to try to fix ur marriage. if he doesnt want to fix ur marriage, well he is definitely not worth it. divorce him. he obviously lost a good thing. u deserve better than that.

Answer 2

I guess the first thing is to confirm that you KNOW he is having an affair. If the information is 100% ccorrect and you have seen with your own eyes, then you have nothing left to do but confront him. Before you do though, write down the questions you want answered. Stay as calm as you can. After that the decision is yours. You can stay and give it another shot if that is what you both want. Or you end the marriage.
Being confronted with something like this is not easy. Your emotions go through the roof. It is easy to shout, scream, and maybe even throw things. Trouble is that in behaving like that, you only hurt yourself more. Only you know your relationship and how you generally would communicate with one another.
Sadly some people think it is easier to take up with someone else than to face the problem. Talk to him. You have the right to get answers. Take care :-)

Answer 3

It's just me, but if I knew my husband was having an affair I'd take all of his stuff and put it in his car while he's at work. Then I'd leave a nice little note to tell his fling that she could have my husband and his laundry too!

Answer 4

First this is what I would do before I say anything to him that your suspecting him of cheating on you. Make sure, you either go spy on him and get all the information that you can about this other woman. Or you hire a private detective. First I would hire a lawyer and ask him what to do and who he can refer as a detective. Now I'm thinkin that if your going to go through all that its because you've decided to leave him in the event that he truly is cheating on you....right?
If not, then still get all the information you can about the other woman.........DO NOT TELL HIM WHAT YOU KNOW!!!
And you have to find out for example were she lives, were she's employed. Borrow someones car that he won't recognize and follow him some night when you think he might be with her. Get as much as you can because once you say anything to him about what your suspicious about he's probably gonna very paranoid. So when you do mention this to him about you think he's cheating on you and he says he's not then you know he's lying. But if he tells you the truth and says he's broken it off.....blah, blah, blah, but you don't trust him.........you have all this information regarding this other woman and you can then see for yourself wether or not he actually broke it off or if he's still being a no good sob.

I wish you strength and courage through this and I hope your strong enough to leave him, or strong enough to lay it on the line to him that if he ever ever does this to you again that's the end. Then take him to the friggin cleaners!

Answer 5

You never really know for sure until he has told you. However, here's some clear signs/evidence you can check:

1. Cell phone records.
2. Secretively staying behind computer, perhaps has another email account you are unaware of.
3. He's distracted, nervous, antsy at home.
4. Avoids contact with you/family.
5. May be telling small lies, these can and do grow into bigger lies to cover/conceal his truth
6. Unaccounted for time, refuses to account for time if asked (don't ask!! can lead to argument)
7. Unaccounted for expenses, sometimes large gaps in bank records, pattern of transactions to debit cards/credit cards that are questionable
8. Maybe more argumentative, pushing your buttons in order to claim "hostility" or "incompatability" in your relationship

All of these add up. However, they can be indicative of any covert activity in reality. Can also be indicative of substance abuse or any other activity he/she wants to cover up. If the behavior continues...be like me...dump his sorry butt!!

Answer 6

everybody is SO QUICK to say divorce ..

but if you still love him .. I would think long and hard about your reaction...me personally I like to be informed and think of all the options ..

If you still love him and are just devasted .. the after you've grieved and can talk without crying .. sit him down .. preferrably in a public place .. deli, restaurant .. and talk real ..

If he deny's it, show him the proof .. you've got your answer .. if he breaks down .. then that shows he knows he did wrong and may still be hope ..

Honestly it comes down to love .. it's easy to do what everyone says and divorce .. but then what rewards are you shorting yourself IF you did stick it out ..

Not saying you will .. just helping you see all the options ..

Good Luck!

Answer 7

what he is saying is he no longer values u, and doesn't want u anymore. i would begin making plans to leave, because your marriage is already damaged, nothing can save it short of him acknowledging it, and being truly remorseful and than maybe not. its much easier to leave it than try to restore it and have the same thing happen again down the road, personally i would rather get hurt once than over and over again. if he has gone so far as to cheat there probably isn't the same feelings he once had for u. save your money and contact an attorney to find out your rights.

Answer 8

If I knew for a fact that he has cheated on me then its easy, I would leave him. I would not want to be with him after his affair, and if he begs and promises to change I will still leave him No matter what!

Answer 9

Get him and the person you suspect he is having an affair with together

Confront them with the evidence, (you DO have evidence don't you? feelings are not evidence)

See if they have an explanation.

Try to work together to find a solution. (e.g. tell the skanky ***** to hit the road)

Answer 10

well i got a loud mouth. i would tell him I know you cheating on me and I am going to leave you. I tell my husband that all the time but I have clue if he is cheating on me or not.