I have a home and a baby with my boyfriend, what should I do?

Question

For the past couple of days, I haven't felt like kissing him.
We have been through a lot.
But whenever he wants a kiss or to be really close to me, I'm not feeling it. I am wondering if anyone has gone through this and if it's something that will pass over time, how long I should wait to see if the unnatraction goes away, or what do you think?

Answer 1

It's not unusual to have this reaction. If you're the primary/sole caregiver to your child, plus taking care of the house, plus making dinner, paying bills, running errands.. you're burned out.

Rule number 1 of having a family: don't neglect your relationship with your baby's father. You are a mom now, but that doesn't mean that your relationship is over.
Plan a date night:
Have a grandparent either take the baby for the whole day, or come over and help you out. Then, that evening, plan to have dinner at a nice sit-down restaurant that doesn't have coloring pages on the back of their place mats, and have a dinner that you don't have to share with anyone. Talk, about anything, everything. Go to a movie - one you don't have to check the rating on. Talk about the movie. In general, remind yourselves what you love about each other.
Do this at least once a month. If you have to, get a hotel room and act like you don't have a house and a baby to tend to when you get home. Believe me, your relationship is worth it.

Regularly do sexy/flirtatious things to one another. If he walks past you to get to the bathroom in the morning, lightly slap his rump as it passes by. My bf and I give one another a kiss and "I love you" every time he leaves for work, and we say "I love you" at the end of every phone call, whether we feel like saying it or not. If you're honest with yourself, you know you still love him - you just don't like him very much right now... especially when you argue. Don't let that be the last thing you or he feels or hears when you or he walk out the door.. in this world, it's potentially the last thing you'll say to him.

Answer 2

You can't stay at a certain level of passion, or anything, ALL the time. It ebbs and flows, like the tide. But overall, if you are in love with him and things are going smoothly, it should be mostly good. If it stays bad, maybe you should seek help. You might be going through some depression.

Answer 3

Are you the primary caretaker of your child? It is possible that you are needing a break from the baby...and your boyfriend either refuses to help with taking care of the baby or is a bubble head and doesn't realize that you need a break...leading you to feel some resentment....and not feeling like giving him any affection...

Answer 4

You said that you just had a baby right ,so maybe you're going through post partum deppression . I had it ,if you start to feel worse then maybe you should see a doctor.Or you mentioned that you & your boyfriend have been through alot so maybe you're just stressed and having second thoughts about your relationship . Good Luck

Answer 5

that depends on are you into someone else or how old is the baby sometimes it is from depression of baby's and it may go away and it maybe your just not into him anymore it happens a lot that is why there is so much divorce now of days. talk to someone that can help figure it out on why your not feeling him anymore....good luck

Answer 6

It's hard to know what's going on from your post since you don't really give too many details.

People have ups and downs in relationships. It will probably pass, but it's hard to know since I don't know how long you've been together or what kind of committment you have to each other.

Answer 7

I think it will pass. We all have that time period where everything about our b/f bugs us. Can you picture yourself without this man in your life? Can you imagine never seeing or kissing or holding him ever? If you can't then you'll be fine.

Answer 8

Hormones up and down -it'll pass