Marriage & Divorce - 12 November 2007

he is 12yrs married and still living with his family..

2007-11-12 23:50:52 · 26 answers · asked by blog c 1

male or female, straight or gay, do you enjoy occasionally flinging a bit of porn into the bedroom situation.

If so why? and if not, why not?

2007-11-12 23:15:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is 65, his mother eventually died last year. She was held up as some kind of domestic ideal, I can't think why, she was a slovenly old bat.

But now that she's gone, my aged husband wants me to be more like her. Much more like her: he wants me to revert to her type.

He was an only child, but that still doesn't excuse or solve the situation. She didn't even seem to like him all that much, which is why I wonder: why he is obsessing about her and trying to resurrect her?

I am 58. I have my own business that I am very mellow with. I do not want this persona thrust on me.

2007-11-12 22:58:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am feeling very sad and pretty low about my ex-boyfriend (relationship of 3 years, both in our late twenties). He broke up with me a few months ago but the break up was pretty hard. He didn't want to let go, he felt always very upset if I told him I should stop all contact with him as it was the only choice for me of how to deal with this. I really loved him and I still do very much. I miss him terribly. I saw him about a month ago, he came to visit me and when he was leaving I was distraught. I felt pain in my stomach as I knew once he leaves, we are not in a relationship anyway and I could not deal with this situation, I told him that we need to go our separate ways. He said he will respect it. And I haven't heard from him since. He used to fight for me, for us to stay in contact but now he is silent. I keep thinking of him, I miss him and I am not interested in anyone else. I worry he met someone else and forgot all about me. Please help me? What should I do?

2007-11-12 22:17:22 · 11 answers · asked by Elisa N 1

I have had no contact with either her or my child in 9 years, the child is turning 10 next month. Now I am being charged with a child support order that is also charging me with retroactive support as well as future payments. I am on the birth certificate as the father, but now I question that considering her actions. Do I have a legal right to end this order?

2007-11-12 21:32:08 · 26 answers · asked by J.R. 1

My huband of 15 years decided a couple of days ago to leave me and our 5 children,this is not the first time he has done this,it seemed right through the marraige whenever somthing serious happened he would walk,I kept forgiving him as you do. his behavior got worse and worse.I suggested marraige councelling and he told me it would not work yet he stayed and got more and more controlling.You know the type,you should do this and that and you dont know what you are talking about, all the typical controlling behaviors,including put downs and in the end threats ,Honestly guys I tried everything on this plannet to get through to this man .This time when he left I felt numb and exhausted and used and I do not wish to have him back in my life any longer ,even my teenagers are happy that he has left.I feel that he is a coward and only stayed in this marraige for his own selfish motives.I am ok ,just angry that a man could desert his family and wash his hands clean like he did not do anything

2007-11-12 21:24:59 · 23 answers · asked by Lightworker 3

i recently got married to a man who has a 21 year old daughter. shes a spoiled brat from hell. she lives alone no rent, no car payment , and he wants to help pay her bills. i don't agree. she has pictures of him and his ex [not her mother] that she just now put in her house that my husband is allowing her to live in for FREE and thinks im gonna walk in that house NO. i have NO use for this girl ,i cant stand her. she can come here all she wants but that doesn't mean i have to like her. her father knows how i feel,but he don't like it.and i really dont care. am i being selfish?

2007-11-12 21:07:54 · 16 answers · asked by babyblues 2

When my wife and i first got together we spoke about threesomes. she said she was open to that idea. when the opportunity presented itself i made it happen for her with a friend that i've known for over 20 years. now almost a year later the same opportunity presented itself with her half sister whom she just met 5 years ago but have been very close , she (my wife) first accepted then then changed her mind in mid proposition. her sister was willing to go along but my wife didn't want to. Her sister first told my wife that she didn't want to cause she was ashamed of her own body. But while on the bed she let me touch her face and play with her hair. My wife told me was she was afraid that her sister was going to fall in love with me. a woman which i will probably never see again for years to come, you see this was in a different country and just before we came back. so i ask is this fair, am i being too demanding, or did i just end up on the short end of the stick please help

2007-11-12 20:22:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Teenagers need not reply. I was with this guy for 2 years, he moved to illinois and it got rocky. he ended up marrying another girl. Now he has contacted me that he is leaving his wife and coming home to california and that he still loves me. what should i do? I still love him

2007-11-12 19:38:54 · 24 answers · asked by chevy_lovin_girl18 1

2007-11-12 19:29:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my boyfriend isn't on good terms. Majority my fault. I need to find a way to have a wonderful bday for him. He never really celebrates it, he's never really been in a real relationship and i need to show some appreciation cause i love him and i have been acting non chalant towards him and our relationship. Thing is it's on a friday nov.30, He works driving trucks and i'm riding with him. Hours are 6am-7pm. what creative day can we come up with fellas and creative ladies?

2007-11-12 19:25:24 · 9 answers · asked by Dark Angel 1

Well to start off with,i don't live in an expensive place.Its a small crappy unit and im too young to have a proper job and my dad has a low paying job.We are about 2 months behind in rent,my landlord had been really nice to us saying he'd give us a couple of months to pay.We've been living very basic and we don't ever buy anything useless.I even say to my dad 'oh,im not hungry' when its dinner time in order to conserve food.I haven't always been this poor,its only ever since my mother abandoned us.Please help i need a lot of advice !
I dont know what to do and neither does my dad.

2007-11-12 19:18:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can any one can tell whether an Non Resident Indian can marry a Indian living girl without meeting each other with mutual consent of girl & boy and their famiies. I want to marry a girl living in India but I am working in abroad. I want to finish my marriage from abroad itself so that i will have a legal marriage certificate which is mandatory to bring wife to stay in the foreign country. Is our Indian consitution permits this to marry with mutual consent but without physical presence

2007-11-12 19:17:28 · 4 answers · asked by sweetguy 1

I am 35 years old. No children. Before my husband and I started going to counseling, he would constantly put our marriage on the back burner... always pushing me away, working like crazy and basically ignoring our marriage. He has gotten much better over the course of our counseling. He is more communicative than ever and more sensitive, but we still are not physically involved. I know I am partly to blame for this because I still harbor some ill feelings toward him and he senses this. The fact that we are much better than we were 6 years ago is great, but the fact that I am getting older and still we have no intimacy let alone children, makes me angry and very resentful. Our counselor says that physical intimacy is the last thing to try and build once the emotional intimacy has improved. I believe this to be true, but lately I am not sure if I want to be with him the rest of my life. When does a person know for sure when the cutt-off point in a marriage is?

2007-11-12 19:01:15 · 10 answers · asked by lisa s 1

Ive been married for 7 years with 2 great kids, 1 from a previous marriage and the other w/ my husband. We dont have much but enough to get by and keep the kids in sports. But . . . I aways feet something is missing. We never really spend any quality time together, we are both workers and taking care of kids. We dont usually talk about us, just whats going on in our own little worlds. I want that happy excited feeling again. I guess I just don't know how to get close again.

2007-11-12 18:26:49 · 10 answers · asked by there4u 1

He claims it's painful if he doesn't?

2007-11-12 18:23:34 · 34 answers · asked by cowabunga 3

I tryed convincing her that it is wrong and that she is setting up her self and investing up her time to only get hurt and used in the end , but she has been seeing him for two years now and will not end it.

2007-11-12 18:17:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

it ruins a healthy marriage. temptations for my husband have almost ruined our marriage. sex should be a personal, intimate thing between two people behind closed doors. when did it become so public? i hate how raunchy this world has become. it sickens me and its pathetic. i wish we could all ban together and make porn illegal. get a sex life in real life not cyber life, tv life, anywhere else. it really ruins a woman, such as myself currently im trying to get over this and tell myself that my husband loves me and finds me attractive but its hard when even a freaking girls gone wild commercial shows so much nudity you dont even have to buy it. am i the only one sickened by this sin?

2007-11-12 18:16:59 · 20 answers · asked by <3 2

when they know men and women are so different? when they know that they will NEVER change a person?

2007-11-12 18:13:17 · 13 answers · asked by Top Contributor 2

2007-11-12 18:05:42 · 2 answers · asked by holyone11 2

2007-11-12 17:41:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has picked up drinking every night this past year and I'm tired of it... We have sex about 1-2 times a month and have 2 kids... Anytime i mention alcohol, he doesn't want to talk about it, I hate it and for that reason don't want sex with him, how do i get him to stop?

2007-11-12 17:41:07 · 14 answers · asked by Maxy 4

I am wondering if I am getting sucker punched in child support. Can you give me an idea of the above? If you can tell me how much you make, that would be good too, but I understand if you are not comfortable disclosing that.
Thanks.

2007-11-12 17:37:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

how long does it take a good person to forgive someone about something that really hurt them and took advantage of their trust?

2007-11-12 17:35:11 · 7 answers · asked by joshuclark 2

My ex and I have been split for more than 7 years now. We split because I found him cheating on me. He married the woman I caught him with, incidentially he's cheating on her too (Karma). Obviously there's no love loss between me and this woman. We've had words for a while at the beginning until I realized that only boosted my ex's ego. It's been more than 5 years that I have not even spoken one word to her and today I recieved an e mail from Reunion.com that a woman her age from her town, incidentially the only people I from her town, had checked my profile. I can't stand being in the same room with my ex let alone talk to him about his wife's activities. He's pissed because I won't play his games. They're both PYSCHO and I want nothing to do with either one. What should I do? She used to do this a few years ago and it's just creepy.

2007-11-12 17:31:20 · 12 answers · asked by kimberleyelizabeth 3

My hubby is cheating on me with a lot of girls. He has agreed to go to a shrink and he wants to change. He said that is family is all he has and he don't want to lose us. He had told me that he has not been with no one sine i had got pregnant. are baby is now 8 weeks old and he had told me hes been with no one. Do i beleave him and give him a another changes. I don't love him and i dont want to lose him but yet i cant deal with his cheating what should i do., and do i be leave him or not

2007-11-12 17:30:31 · 19 answers · asked by chainznwife69x2 1

My wife of 8 years has pretty much been fed up with my crap. I have not been a great husband for a while now. I haven't done anything to help. I emotionally cheated, so nothing physical. I've just been an ***. Over the past couple of months, after she told me she was on the verge of leaving, I have completely changed the way I do things, my priorities have changed, I'm motivated to make it work (maybe too much). It's sad that it took this, but I've realized she's the one I want forever. She's the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. I truly have changed in more ways than one. I tend to get over anxious to make things right. It's hard to love so much and get little in return. I know how she felt.

2007-11-12 17:29:27 · 21 answers · asked by friendofcheeba 1

Mann, I'm 19 years old. Althought I feel 50. I'm hurting been hurting for the longest. It's my feeling, my heart. I cry every nite and I'm tired. Advice on how to mend your own heart. How to become happy with life and not hope every second of a minute that you would die.

2007-11-12 17:28:44 · 7 answers · asked by quita b 2

I would probably end up downtown in a jell cell for trying to kill both of them. I am serious and I hope I never have to experience that. What about you?

2007-11-12 17:28:22 · 21 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

what can i do to make him understand my feeling?

2007-11-12 17:20:10 · 6 answers · asked by magict18 1