why do men and women still want to get married when they know the divorce rate is so high,?

Question

when they know men and women are so different? when they know that they will NEVER change a person?

Answer 1

I still got married knowing the divorce rate because I don't care what everyone else's reality is...all that matters is what my husband and I can accomplish.

You don't have a 50% chance of divorce if you carefully choose your spouse, are open and honest, and respect each other. You will succeed if you prepare yourself before the wedding, and then live each day thereafter trying to stengthen that bond.

Some people get married because they are caught up in "love," or don't want to be alone, or any other silly reason. These are the marriages that fail.

I'm sick of having to fight to show that my marriage is stable. I'm tired of everyone assuming that our marriage is a 50/50 shot. It's not. It's the individual couple that matters, not the rate of divorce society as a whole.

Answer 2

It is because there are still people who think positively about marriage and making it successful.If there is no marriage ,there would never have a divorce.Failures are a part of life.But people are free to choose to remain single out of fear or confidently get married for love and take another level and challenge in life.Anyway,if divorce rate is high,there are atill successful marriage.And actually there are still a lot of cases of re-marriages for many times.Beacause whether we like it or not,we need somebody to be with us that may lead to happiness.

Answer 3

I personally want to get married so I can move up to a higher level of my existence. I mean I know how I work as a single person, as a young woman going on 21, but I have never really had anyone want me in their life or would depend on me as their partner. I mean a real loving and caring marriage would provide me with that promotion to a higher level of who I am in this life. Besides I'm a traditionalist and would want someone to love me so much and want me that badly to make me a permanent part of their life's journey. No offense but the reasons that you state about men and women being different that is just old hat I say. Because everyone has known the sexes have been different for ages, its all in how we must learn to communicate with one another, then the difference doesn't even matter. As for the divorce rate being so high as another reason, thats again going back to people not communicating what they really want in a relationship, and putting their expectations out there on the table. I mean a marriage takes time, work, energy and two partners that are willing to be there for one another, through good times and the bad. But see people have to know what they want for themselves first and foremost before getting married. If they don't, of course they will get divorced so quickly and that is why divorce is so high. People just feeling so much and not using their brains and hearts together to say, "I want this or that in a partner, I know I can't do this, and I'm worried or unsure about this or that." I mean people need to take that time out to answer these questions and figure out where their doubts and worries come from, instead of just rushing into things. And again lastly no one should ever wish to change anyone. You just have to accept them for who they are and then ask yourself if you are willing to put up with them being that way. And if not are you smart enough to get out of the relationship and find yourself someone better before you get married and be unhappy. And on a more personal note, I'm really tired of people blaming marriage. Hell there can be a million great relationships if people took the time to really get to know themselves and work damn hard at their marriage. Because once they do, they will see the benefits of being married and would stay married for a very long time.

P.S. Awareness is key in any and all relationships. So use eyes, ears, and the shutting of the mouth, and absorb as much as you can from your partner before taking that walk down the aisle. Don't blame marriage for something you didn't take time out to discover for yourself. Hell we have all the time in the world when we are in relationships, if you don't use your awareness of yourself and of your partner, you have no one to blame when your marriage doesn't work out.

Answer 4

Tricky question: I would say because in this country the majority of us do have morales, and religious beliefs. We prefer to do things in a proper manner, so that we may show by example to our children the benifits of life, and family. If marriage is approached in a wise and meaningful way, you end up in the 50% that make it. If you shack up, play house, then get married once the thrill is gone and you have a herd of basicly illegitimate children, and step children, ect. You end up in the 50% that just dont make it. Remember life is a gamble no matter what the odds.

Answer 5

HOPE! We hope that we will beat the odds, that the commitment we feel is the right combination to last a lifetime. To go into a marriage thinking we can get divorced if it doesn't "work" for us is the killer. Not that it isn't an answer, but it shouldn't be the only answer.
I am divorced, but still believe marriage can work with the right amount of commitment.

Answer 6

Men and women have a lot of things in common too.

That's why you should date a long, long time and ask a lot of questions, observe, don't rush into it. Getting married before you have time to get to know the person causes a lot of problems.

Answer 7

I got married because I love the person I am with, so much, that the idea of growing old with him makes me fall deeper in love! Him asking me to marry him showed me that he wanted to make a commitment to me for all my days and WE wanted to share our joy with the world-that's where the rings come in. Dating is one thing, living 2 gether-okay. But the true test and sacrifice is marriage! My grandparents married at 16 and 17-he died at 89, she died a week later, and she said she had no regrets! My parents have been 2gether for 38 years and they've faught, they've hurt, they've cried, they've seen four kids grow up and get married and start their own families. Me and my husband have been through hell and back this past 9 years, but I think it's all worth it, when your spouse is still there the next morning to make you coffee in the nude and talk things over! :)

Answer 8

That's the risk that couples who are in love take. People who go into a relationship/marriage accepting who their significant other are have better chances of it working out. Marriage is as good or as bad as the couple chooses to make it. **Anytime someone takes a chance, they risk failing. For some people the risk is worth it.

Answer 9

Marriage; was, has, is and will ever continue to be known as an institution; no matter weather people understand its import or not.

Today marriage is more often than not; used and misunder-stood merely as that holy bond; which perhaps by virtue of being entered into in the presence of the holiness of the name, place and word of god ; is automatically expected to help and drive the self to achieve the goals of; both the sensual and material pleasures of life for self; as well as those of fullfillment of the incompleteness of self; as felt and experienced by the self within.

People have become so afraid of getting married these days that they find so many lame excuses; not only for their delayed marriage; but also for trying to ensure its sucess by getting into love affairs prior to getting married; for insuring it prior to getting married; and for live in relationships.

Marriage is supposed to be an institution; where both partners are supposed to be students as well as teachers of the subject of "the true knowledge of true inner self"; and the purity and clarity of the true name and word of god are supposed to be the guides and gaudians of the universal self within both the partners; and both of which are supposed to be known by both the partners for enabling and empowering themselves with true wisdom, true knowledge and true awareness of the true knowledge of the true self for building a relationship of harmony of self with not only the other partner but also with nature of self and the world outside.

Lack of true guidance and gaurdianship to the self; from all concerned is the true reasons of the failure of mankind to know and understand and to realise the import of the nature of the bond and relationship of marriage as that of an institution; instead as either a contract, or love affair or religious bonding of self.

Answer 10

Because no one goes into marriage thinking "This will fail". No one plans to break up, life just deals some rough blows every now and again.