my hubby is cheating on me with more than one girl. Am i right to give him a nother changs?

Question

My hubby is cheating on me with a lot of girls. He has agreed to go to a shrink and he wants to change. He said that is family is all he has and he don't want to lose us. He had told me that he has not been with no one sine i had got pregnant. are baby is now 8 weeks old and he had told me hes been with no one. Do i beleave him and give him a another changes. I don't love him and i dont want to lose him but yet i cant deal with his cheating what should i do., and do i be leave him or not

i meant to say i do love him sorry

Answer 1

Well hes a cheater and most of the time lair goes with that but what about you and baby I mean what if he had caught something and given it to you and baby... there are so many things that can go wrong when you are with a cheater

And then there is the trust long nights ahead of you and it wont help if hes out all night and baby's unsettled those nights do take there toll

But in the end it comes down to can you trust him do you want to trust him . In the back of your mined it will always be there that he did cheat

Answer 2

It makes me sick when men use the I dont want to lose my family and I love you excuse. A real man will walk away from a tempting situation expecially if he has a wife and a child. I know people make mistakes but when a person cheats they cheat becouse they are not happy or sexually satisfed. I would rather catch my man watching porn than to have to catch another women in my bed and I am raising a child. If you take him back you will be putting your health in danger and what moral do you want your 8 month old child to grow up with. Do you want him or her to think it is ok for a man to disrespect a holy marrage arrangement and sleep around with lose freaks long as the family can stay together. If you want your marriage to work you need to see if he has really stop cheating and that means no female friends and no staying out late. If he is not willing to make the changes than you know what you have to do.

Answer 3

If he'd done it one time, I'd give it a chance.
But more than once?
He's had a second chance.
I'd leave him, at least for now.
Maybe a few months or a year down the track he'll realise what he's lost.
But right now he clearly isn't ready for a commitment like a family, and let's face it, if you two never did get back together, it's better you were apart now rather than an unhappy marriage infront of a young child five years from now, as opposed to now when the kid won't notice it as much.
I've been in this position, with my parents.

Answer 4

Exactly how many women are we talken here that he's been bangen behind ya back? 2 ? 4 ? 8 ? 25? more?

Seriously if they do it once and then you forgive fine , twice , maybe if your stayen for the financial to drain his cheating @zz , but anymore then that and honey your nothing but a mat to scrape the dirt these wh*re's leave behind off him.

Any other kid's before this baby? wow what an example your setting telling your son's it's ok to cheat on their women and treat them like they are worthless pieces of trash , your daughter's that it's ok for their men to go out f*ck around and bring home STD's and other kid's that are only half sibling's that your kid's will be responsible for financially .WOW well done.

GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!

Pack his crap and kick his @zz to the curb if this post is a serious question he know's you'll keep forgiving him and he know's you wont leave , will you finally open your eyes to his abuse when your in a hospital bed dying from A.I.D.S ?

Answer 5

Only you can answer this question. I just wish you would ask yourself the following as well.
What is the difference between being in love and loving someone?
What is in this marriage for me?
How is going to improve the quality of my life?
If you ask yourself these questions and it take you more than 3 seconds to answer them then you may need some help.
Please remember you have the right to screw up your life however you loose that right once you have children. You are the mother of his child. If he can treat you without regard how will he treat that baby as he/she gets older?

Answer 6

Please, get tested for STD's!
He may be feeling all warm and emotional because you have this new baby to draw you together. Only you can know what your gut is telling you! I would not have more children with him until I felt confident that he was in the relationship for the long haul. Birth control is easy to get, and it would take me a loooooonnnnnnnggggggg time to be able to trust him again, if ever.
Me, I'd kick him out. But you have to do what is right for you.

Answer 7

Hopefully he isn't lieing to you. Your children are very important here but so are you. Forgiving someone for doing this is a big step. I'm not sure I could do it but if you really want to save your marriage why don't you both attend couples thereapy as well as him going to personal sessions?

I hope everything works out for you in the best way!

Answer 8

One woman, yes, you could possibly work through that if he is remorseful and if you can agree to forgive him. Multiple women, no. He doesn't need to see a shrink about that. He knows exactly what he's doing.

Answer 9

if he knows he has a problem that means alot. if he wants change that's a good thing. if u love him give him that one last chance, but be ready to say good by if he continues t cheat.

Answer 10

you need to wake up and SMELL the coffee. he is lying to you now just like he was when he was cheating with all the other women. sweetie if he wants his family back than he needs to prove it to you and himself. he need counseling and so do you individually and together. he is not going to just stop cheating cold turkey. he needs help to do so. he has to get to the bottom of the cheating and you keep accepting his lying and this behavior is not helping him nor the marriage. GodBless