Would you take him back?

Question

Teenagers need not reply. I was with this guy for 2 years, he moved to illinois and it got rocky. he ended up marrying another girl. Now he has contacted me that he is leaving his wife and coming home to california and that he still loves me. what should i do? I still love him

ok here is the deal, there is no family, no kids nothing, he is financially stable on his own. where we come from people tend to puch marriage on you. Almost arranged

We come a very strict religion, not the 18th century. We are both wealthy. Yeah your right I am gonna do what I want. Hes coming home. I did leave details out. I left him the first time.

Answer 1

if u still love him go back to him but be sure he's really divorced from her first. don't be a rebound girl, make sure he is really what u want.

Answer 2

Well if you do decide to do anything with him make sure he is really divorced not just separated from his wife, because some couples never go through with the divorce and get back together and you will be left feeling used and stupid. There is a chance he could just be looking for a quick way to get over his wife and that way could be you. Only thing I would be wondering is why he would marry another woman if he still loves you? Sounds like he has a few problems, is it really worth the risk of you getting hurt all over again by the same man? Good luck in what ever you decide!

Answer 3

Look sweet heart did you see a gun pointing to his back forcing him down the isle? NO so dont give us that garbage that marriage is forced onto you like an arranged marriage , he married the other girl because he wanted to you can dissilusion yourself all you want but I am not buying it.

You can never go back when the relationship's end and 9 time's out of 10 that's true , so dont put your whole heart and soul into it , date him have fun , but dont promise your whole soul to him because for the 1st 18 month's he is a destroyed man who's marriage didnt work for what ever reason and there's nothing saying he's coming home to stay and wont go back to the wife.

Watch how you step if your town is so pushy you just may get pushed off the cliff for encouraging the marriage to stay done.

Answer 4

For me, I wouldn't. If he has the heart to marry another girl, but still loves you, means he is capable of doing another round of cheating. I warn you to beware of this man. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Someday somehow, he might have the thought of leaving and moving back to his family. You cannot be sure that he will never leave you for he did not make any promises or did not show any evidence of his loyalty to you.

Leaving his wife does not mean divorce or separating permanently. Even if he claims it, nothing is guaranteed. Be careful of your decision, because it is a tough one to make, and there is no turning back. Making and breaking a relationship frequently is not a good way to continue. It will only bring more setbacks. Think it thoroughly yea =)

Furthermore, it is not for all of us to decide your decision. It is yours to make =)
All the best =)

Answer 5

Hi, I don't think he's leaving his wife!.. I think that he's coming too town, for another reason,maybe to be with someone other then his WIFE.which is you . hey but your the only one who knows him.I've been with the same guy since i was 14 years old and now we been together 33 years "LOVE" can be so wonderful.! But it can also be hurtful too.men are men ,don't get me wrong there are some good guy's out there.( to me i see a pattern with this guy when things got ROCKY WITH YOU/ then he left / he MOVED TO ILLINOIS / AND GOT married/ SO NOW IT'S GETTING ROCKY WITH HIS WIFE/ so now he wants too come back to you. until he gets tired of you. don't go by your heart, or your mind GO BY YOUR GUT INSTANCES.what that is (if you have a pain in the pit of your stomach that means there's something wrong or something is not true or right with his story.Men know how too say the most loving words too girls thats what you SWEET-NOT-THING'S to Girls, to get what they want to get from them. sweetie don't let that happen to you. if he really cares for you he won't rush you in anything.just remember. don't think with your HEART. THINK SMART FOR YOU [e-mail]

Answer 6

Take it very slowly and carefully think it through - wait and see if he moves there and if he files for divorce. There are things you haven't told us like why did he move away? For a job? Why did it get rocky? And why is he leaving her? Is he a bit impulsive? - he moves away, marries another, now divorces her and moves back.

Make sure what he does and what he does match up - if they don't, go by what he does because talk is cheap.

Joy to you.

Answer 7

You could get to know him again and see what happens. Why is he leaving his wife? Both of you are not the same person that you were two years ago. Do not rush things but if you really love him still and you don't try again you might always wonder what might have been.

Answer 8

Sounds like it didnt work out with this girl so hes using you as a back up when he gets back home. Be strong, dont let him walk in and out of your life whenever he wants to. Yeah, you may still love him but you need to think about yourself too. Dont let him live with you when he comes back, let him find his own place and have his own life. You dont want to support him while he saves up for his own place or settles within his job. Let him do it all himself. Live your life as if he were still in Illinois. But of course see him on the side. Good luck

Answer 9

chevy dear, I don't mean to sound rude but please do not be so naive.
I mean why would you even consider getting back with him? He married some other girl and it did not work out and now he wants to come back?!! Before even going through a divorce? In short that would be cheating on his wife! If he could cheat on another woman what makes you think that he won't cheat on you later on?
Do yourself a favor and leave him in the past and get on with your life.

Answer 10

Almost arranged? Its either arrnaged or its not. Where do you come from, the 18th century? If he divorces here fine, but until it goes final keep him on the friend list.

Answer 11

Be friends for a while. Take the time to figure out what exactly you both want. Don't get in a serious relationship until after the divorce.