Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2007

2007-11-09 22:58:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Taking the child away on a trip saying its a holiday and then never returning... and no contact after that

2007-11-09 20:53:28 · 14 answers · asked by Renuka G 1

how could they explain to their future husband that they lost it and how the future husband will handle it?

2007-11-09 19:47:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm 21 years old and i'm in love with a boy of 20( exactly one year younger than me)we love each other so much...we are perfectly matching in thoughts.He doesn't mind this at all and we are willing to get married in 6 years after finishing our university period...so will this age gap be a problem to a successfull marriage life?
i mean physicall,and socaially..because many guys marry girls younger than them...so what do you think of this?

2007-11-09 19:09:07 · 16 answers · asked by Natasha 2

What are grounds for divorce? I love my husband. He has been on dating sites, gay, straight, and only admitted to it because I caught him. He said he chats about sex, but I don't think he cheats!! Since I have been searching he has been on 20 plus dating sites-- most before we were married and some I cannot prove if they were while, but he says he has done it since our marriage. (That was after I caught him.) I asked him why and he said he wanted to talk to someone. But I told him that he could do that on myspace or chat or something, but not on dating sites! (He wouldn't have told me the truth if I hadn't found it out in the first place.)
Need a lot of advice pls! I am going to marriage counseling, but I think it is worthless. I don't know if I will ever trust him again!! I am angry that he would do this to me and my daughter!!
On top of it all -- he says that I am somewhat to blame that he asked for oral sex with a man (dating site)!! Talking? That is cheating, right?

2007-11-09 18:44:58 · 21 answers · asked by Becca 2

So heres the deal. Straight up. In our culture we marry early. I was born and raised in America, but somehow I became a victim of the old world ways and got married at the age of 16. Fast forward now to ten years later, I wished I would have had enough strength to tell my family that I did'nt want to get married. Now I feel like I want to rebel cuz I missed out on alot of things in my life. I wished I would have waited and married the person I knew was the one for me. Let me add that the main reason I've stayed married for so long is because if I wanted out, it would disappoint alot of people. (parents, in-laws) so there's definitely alot of pressure to accept your life the way it is because of tradition, religion, and culture. I really need some help on this. I'm sooooo depressed. I don't want to live like this. Wishing and wondering what if.

2007-11-09 18:42:37 · 7 answers · asked by What What 2

Doing the right thing, sometimes involves conditions. For instance, a step father returns to a family because of his love for his step children more than anything else. He pays for it by having to shut down unrequieted affection for someone 700 miles away. Is it doing the right thing? Is it selfish to consider the alternative? Happiness is a very hard thing to conquer.

2007-11-09 18:12:45 · 7 answers · asked by Chazman1347 4

Are you male/female?

How old are you?

If you were about to get married, would you insist on a prenupt? I would myself, I've worked too hard for the things I have in life to lose it in a divorce settlement. Now I do agree that anything accumulated after the marriage should be community property.

2007-11-09 17:56:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

We love each other very much and want to live together. But the strong opposition from our parents is forcing us to sacrifice. How is it possible that we stay together. We dont want to elop and marry as these would bring a bad name. Please provide us help so that we can stay together.

2007-11-09 17:46:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

All I said was a little joke about having 5 more kids. She goes off on me because "I'm so selfish and I have no regards for my spouces feelings about it". Some mumbo-jumbo

2007-11-09 17:45:59 · 21 answers · asked by chromer_05 1

I know its an immature question but it feels like it! My parents have been divorced since I was 3( 35 now) and my dad has never really been part of our lives. When we were kids we would spend 1 month every summer with him but that stopped when Iwas 17. Most recently he has been Emailing and calling my brother and not me. He lives in another state and has never come here to visit he told my sisterin law that he is afraid my mom will have him arrested for back child support. I want a relationship with him but why wont he visit or send me a stupid bday card.

2007-11-09 17:16:38 · 9 answers · asked by carmen 2

I've been married for 4 months. (2nd marriage) My husband is very hot tempered and everytime we argue over things he gets in my face and yells at me. He has publicly humiliated me before. Says things like, "you don't know how to be a wife...you're miss perfect and never do anything wrong". I can never tell him my feelings and discuss things rationally. When I break down and cry in front of him it just seems to make his temper worse. I am at a loss. I am starting to think I made a bad choice in a second husband. How can he say he loves me and make me feel like such a piece of trash?

2007-11-09 17:15:34 · 25 answers · asked by LLC72267 1

I have been married for about a year and a half now. I really do love my wife and we have a beautiful daughter that reminds me of that everyday. For some reason, I constantly feel drawn to other women, kind of like I am missing something. I always use the 80/20 rule( Dont give up 80% for a 20% person) but I cant help feeling like there could be someone better. I dont want to get a divorce but I need help in finding a way to get back the feelings I have lost. She did gain a little weight after the baby and I am not an asshole who only cares about the physical, I encourage her to work out or create a diet plan but it seems she would rather just complain about the wieght instead of help herself lose it. I guess I am a little unattracted to her attitude. If someone has a valid way,(intelligent , thoughtful) solution to assist me, I would appreciate it.

2007-11-09 17:15:02 · 7 answers · asked by ryhmer06 2

Everytime i mix around wif my friends most of them are married-men(MM), 3 out of 5 of these MM keep a mistress. Most of their wives simply pretend nothing happen, i simply dont understand. Ofcoz some of them have 3-4 kids at home, i guess their wives just wana go wif the flow. But i dont understnd why MM still wana keep a mistress for themselves, a wife at home isnt that enough for their entire life?
I think MM should NOT get married in the first plc and stay as a single/bachelor all the way just to fling wif so many girls out there...yeah!...As a reslult of this, women now stay single...my colleagues most of them are in their 40s refused to settle down, well they are pretty ladies all right, i guess they donwana endup wif problems after married...heemmmm..

2007-11-09 17:04:05 · 4 answers · asked by Layla 2

Ok if you havent read the first part please do, so you understand this. Ok I wasnt 100% truthful. The reason I found out about all the other girls is because when we were dating we had each others passwords to our emails. I changed mine after we broke up, but he didnt. When I found out all this stuff, I checked it out and confirmed that hes messing around on his fiance. She knows about me, so if I tell her she will NEVER believe me. They are getting married tomorrow! I really feel that if I dont tell her, karma will kick my butt. However I feel like if I do she wont beleive a word. Im so confused!

2007-11-09 17:02:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of four years and I have been doing really well lately. But for the past little while, we've been bickering. Last night he was so frustrated he left for an hour to cool down, and tonight he left. He says I'm being controlling, I say I need certain things from our relationship (ie. equality in household chores, affection, support). So how do I communicate what I need without being a nagging b!t(h? I love him and he loves me, we just can't seem to get a few things straight, which is what I think is holding us up. When I try to talk he doesn't want to hear it. He just doesn't really talk, unless he's already upset, then it doesn't make a ton of sense. He is a wonderful person, and I think we make a good team - I just want to get some of the kinks ironed out before it becomes too much bickering and we lose each other.

2007-11-09 16:57:18 · 17 answers · asked by oj 5

I love my family and see them very little through the year because I live in another state. I'm dreading the same family get togethers and want to do a vacation instead during the holidays but since I love them I don't want them to be hurt . I get maybe 1 week vacation every 3 yrs and feel I need more. Any ideas on how to break it to them? I'm not religious if that helps. The whole christmas shopping thing takes me days and days because of a large family and I'm very selective about what to get them.

2007-11-09 16:52:19 · 4 answers · asked by greenwood 5

My boyfriend and l love each other very much. We had been dating for over a year now, but there is a big issue about having a child someday. He doesn't want to have children, and I do. I have spent over a month in his house. Next week I'm moving out of state, and I have been trying to keep it together, but as the day I have to leave gets closer, I feel that emotionally I am falling apart. All this time I have been holding my tears, I have been trying to be strong, I just can take it anymore, the sadness and the pain are getting stronger and I'm getting weaker and weaker.

I feel anger, sadness, frustation. I have these kinds of mix feelings. He has to fly down to FL for a job interview this coming Monday. I told him that it would be best for both us to just say a quick goodbye as we both leave. I just don't want to cry and feel miserable at the time we have to say goodbye, I just want to avoid that painful moment. He wants me to stay until he comes back from FL.

2007-11-09 16:46:13 · 6 answers · asked by Luna 1

Though he is affected in a way he always ends up just sulking, while i look for solutions. what should i do to make him help?

2007-11-09 16:45:23 · 19 answers · asked by mix32 1

my husband of 12 yrs up and walked out on me and our 4 kids almost 3-months ago and he has been a total asshole to us! Now he is playing mind games by saying he loves me then he's not sure he says he wants to come home then he don't he wants freedom so he says but i believe its another/several females to claim as the reason! On the 3rd nite of his leaving i caught him at womans home that i have had suspisions about before! When i busted him there he stumbled over his tongue and came up with the excuse he was "just there taking a shower" ok he was suppose to be staying with his mom who lives 5 min away from this woman makes no sense! I pushed my way inside and went into a bedroom where a light was on and found his clothes and belongings in there! He became pissed and grabbed me threw me against the wall cursing me and name calln! He proceeded to grab my arm and yanked /pulled me to the front door telln me it wasn't my f***kn house and to get the F*** out! He said he didnt like her 4yrs?

2007-11-09 16:37:38 · 9 answers · asked by dianne n 1

I am a single mom of two small boys. Recently, single and was married when I had my kids. It hasn't been very long since my husband left. Is there a time period I should wait before hopping back in?

I'm not looking for a relationship - just want someone to spend some time with casually and we'll see how it goes. No promises just mom needs some adult male company. Wouldn't necessarily expose the kids to it either - would have them at my parents or a sitters when together.

Is it bad for me to feel this way? Or, is it normal?

2007-11-09 16:34:49 · 19 answers · asked by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6

I've been married for 14 years. I got bored one night and went to a chat room on yahoo IM. The room I chose was "married but looking." I know I sound like a bad, bad wife, but I was just so bored and feeling more like a piece of furniture than a woman or wife. My husband and I have been having alot of problems due to moving from L.A. to Las Vegas, money, our house, and just about everything in our life. I went in the chat room and all these guys wanted to talk to me. I know, it is looserville USA, but it felt good. It did cause a fight later that night. Am I unusual or has anyone else gone to such obvious wrongs for attention. I know I was selfish....

2007-11-09 16:32:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wifes filed for divorce over a woman who didnt know her place. my wife got in contact with this woman.s now .x. husband and went to met him she is . my wife age. is .22. now. she found out about this woman who is. in her.40.s and was always comming on to me like the whore she is. this . so called woman was always doining this and yes it. happned . right in this trailer park trash.s trailer. but that was .5. years ago and no reason for my wife to meet him and divorce me over that trash in .w.va that.s all she is trash . i was only19. at that time and was only married for a short time before i went to that state . here we can marry with concent at age for girls is.14. males.16. no reason to ruin my marrage over that cheap trash where she ruined her.s

2007-11-09 16:26:34 · 8 answers · asked by matthew v 3

My girlfreind hit's me all the time but yesterday she had me in corner and was hitting me with a chair (i was in a fetal position) and after she was done banging the chair on my back she kicked me in the stomach as hard as she could and then walked away..? Is this normal in most relationships?She does this sort thing to me all the time? your opinion?

2007-11-09 16:17:23 · 23 answers · asked by Emo Man 1

Ok. I have asked friends and even my husband, who all give me different answers, so here I am. I have an ex that would still call me and text me, and it wasnt just a hello. It was "send me pics" "I miss you" and other sexual things. I thought about replying honestly and then I found out he is getting married! Just happen to be that some girlfriends that I work with are talking to him and sending him nude pics and emailing him and texting him, and all this time he is getting married. I dont know his fiance, but I know who she is. I know he is a player (when I was dating him I had no idea that he had a girlfriend) He actually just text me 3 days ago and hes getting married tomorrow! Some of my friends (that arent sleeping with him) tell me to tell his fiance. Others tell me its none of my business. What would you do?

2007-11-09 16:16:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married two years, and they have been divorced 18 years. He has had another failed marriage in between these two. His first ex and he call each other on their anniversary. He's continued to do this even though he knows it annoys me. One time I picked up the phone and she said, " I was thinking of you this morning when I was..." He said, "Good girl." When she calls and leaves messages, she says things like, "Hello, this if the first Mrs. (last name)," or "Hello, this is the mother of your children." Their children are grown and have left home. Once she called to borrow $1500 to cover a gambling debt and the two of them kept it from me. When I found out he said, "what I do with my money is my buisness and if you don't like it, I'll get a lawyer." It wasn't about the money; it was about the secrecy. We've also had problems with him calling ex-girlfriends. He says there is something wrong with me and I'm just too jealous. I don't want to divorce, but what else can I do?

2007-11-09 16:12:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a 25 year old american, I'm married and I have 1 17 month old child. My wife and I agreed on having one child and afterwards I had a vasectomy done with her written consent. Ever since she has regretted it saying she wants more kids. 4 in fact. We have talked about this extensively and it looks like we might be getting a divorce. We are going to wait a few years and see how things work out but I'm almost certain I'm not going to change my mind.

Now the problem is I want to live abroad and my wife does not. We talked about it before but now she doesn't want to unless I give her more kids. If we do divorce she will be completely taken care of. She will have a college education and a very good paying job. She will also have a new car!

I want to move overseas if/when we divorce. However, I would be leaving my son with my wife. I don't want to leave my son but I really want to live abroad. I know this sounds selfish but I don't like living here. What would you do?

2007-11-09 15:54:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm NOT divorced......although I've been thinking about it for the past year. My husband & I got married at 19 and we've changed so much over the past 5 years that we've been married. We don't have that much in common anymore. I even have a hard time being intimate with him lately.
The problem is we have a 21month old child together. My baby is my LIFE!!!! I cannot imagine living one day without my child!! I don't think I could share coustody. It sounds terrible I know! I haven't left my husband so far, only because I don't want to have to share custody & disrupt my childs life. But what about my life?? Should I stay with a man I really not in love with for the sake of my child?
Divorced people..how do you deal when you share custody? How does it feel not to have your children 24/7?? Thanks for your stories & advise!

2007-11-09 15:53:27 · 24 answers · asked by QTpie 4

the man doesnt cheat, no drugs, good job but recently called his good old boy cop friends and had me in jail for 2 days on domestic violence. i was trying to get my car keys, i have never been arrested before and felt for paris hilton for the first time! I feel like i could never forgive this. we havent had sex in at least a year, but have a 4 yr old and six year old...any obvious answers out there?

2007-11-09 15:46:33 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my gurl hve known each other 4 2 years ad just started goin out for 5 months but den she made alot of mistakez wit me yet i took her back time and time again and i realy love her i never wanna lose her but den i got drunk and layed on her friend nd her friend made up lies saying i ate her out

now we are brokin up and i really need her back cuzz i alwayz made her feel lik a wife and feel like a ****** angel...i kno i messed up but y cant she 4 give me after i forgave her??

2007-11-09 15:41:58 · 6 answers · asked by birdman 23 1