Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2007

i got divorced about 4 years ago. during that time i thought i met a wonderful woman and married again. she was never married and after i married her she turned into a horrible human being. i'm not joking folks.....affairs, insecure, and the worst foul language i can't even repeat. i never even heard a woman talk like that before. she was always the victim in her previous engagements. i tried my best to work with her but she refused to admit she was handed down a very disfunctioinal way of dealing with things (saw it first hand from her parents). now i'm just devastated. i gave her my all after my first marriage failed. everything i had. now i'm broke, lonely and have lost faith in women. some nice ladies please tell me there are more than narcissistic selfish women still out there! i am lonely but right now i don't trust myself as i might end up with someone worse. i think a crazy woman can see my vulnerability right now. i'm broke inside. I thought my second wife was it for me

2007-11-09 08:55:44 · 8 answers · asked by surviving 1

inquiring minds want to know...

2007-11-09 08:52:21 · 29 answers · asked by Lonely Turkey 4

husband was secretly going behind your back for five years?

2007-11-09 08:51:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been engaged for about a year now, we have a 5 month old son, and we seem to be going good at times. However, when ever a really big argument comes up, she either leaves or throws me out, then calls me about 8 hours later and wants to talk about it. The same thing happened today, she woke me up at 630 to yell at me and throw me out for a text message MY OWN BROTHER sent to MY PHONE!!! she read it, didnt like it and said get out. then she called me at 2pm and wanted to talk. she still wants to make this work and so do I, but i cant take that kind of emotional abuse again. What do you guys think i should do?

2007-11-09 08:51:25 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 08:51:23 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

going to be taking care of the house, bills and both our kids also be there when he calls comfort him when he's down because i know it's very depressing to be in war! be at the gym when he comes back..I just feel really bad he did this behind my back! he was wounded and came back I took care of him stood there when he got sugery comforted him in any way because as a wife and spouse I love him & that's my job..after all said and done I asked him why would he do such a thing he said his mom will always come first wich I respect but I am your wife shouldnt I get some kind of acknowlodge? well long story short he wont budge about me being in charge of the will and i feel really hurt, no i dont care if i dont get anything in that will all I want is for him to put me in charge as his wife..so now I want to leave and he says that i'm wrong what do you think??? previous to this he also tried talking to his ex before leaving over seas and said he did it out of anger because he was upset at me!

2007-11-09 08:51:09 · 12 answers · asked by Conteplative 3

suggest?

I also was thinking of cheating on him.I am disease free and I have only had one sexual partner and that is my bad husband.I live in Houston heights.

2007-11-09 08:35:20 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I HAVE just broken up with my boyfriend of 10 months.
At the start he seem charming and together.
After a few months I was hooked on him and he changed dramatically.
He was fired from his lawyer job, blamed his bosses for being 'jerks.
He sucked up alot of my time while looking for new job, he started drinking & overspending. He started saying he had lost his faith and maybe would be mean to people for fun.
He got a new job and said he'd be making great money. Instead 6 months went by and he suddenly announced to me that he now has another NEW law job starting soon. I asked him WHAT happened to the job he just got this year.
He said simply he isn't there anymore. ! He wont tell me if he quit or was fired again.
Besides job changes /drinking/spending he also is consumed with looking good all the time. Well I just figured out that I HAVE changed this year & its not for GOOD.
Before i met him I had a ton more saved in the bank$$$, I was happier, I saved more money, felt more spiritual, i drank and ate less and was satisfied with my looks. He worries about his weight and aging nd now Im under the same affliction.
So I realized holy @#$$% I'm like him NOW!!!

And I WISH I could save him. But I'm sadly wise enough to know he has to help himself and will only resent or drag me down further into his twisted rabbit hole.

So I broke it off now and he was mean to me and said he will be fine because he is getting a fancy new apt and his new job will pay 250k a year and he will buy a new bmw z4 with money.
Eeek he is completely messed up!
Has this happened to anyone else ?
Have you dated someone and their loserisnish messed up behavior rubbed off on you ?

2007-11-09 08:34:31 · 9 answers · asked by Leea 1

1. Do you still find your wife attractive?
2. how long can you last without sex?
3. how many times do you ask your wife if she wants to have sex before you know you are not getting any?
4. If you asked your wife every night for a week to make love how many nights would she say yes?
5. if you have any how many kids do you have?
6. do you think having kids was a mistake or not?
7.do you want a kid or more kids?
8.what is the most annoying thing your wife does?
9. what are 3 things you love about your wife?
10. do you think yuo married up or down

2007-11-09 08:30:52 · 19 answers · asked by Tea Crazed Person. 6

seriously...can men who look at porn on the internet truely love their spouses

2007-11-09 08:29:13 · 3 answers · asked by Suzy 5

The thing that without which the entire structure would fail?

- sex?
- friendship?
- same goals & dreams?
- same beliefs on matters (money, religion..etc) ?

2007-11-09 08:24:19 · 29 answers · asked by Blond&Tall 4

2007-11-09 08:20:41 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2

2007-11-09 08:19:56 · 14 answers · asked by snickers 1

My boyfriend is legally seperated from his wife and we have been together over a year. I am 6 monthes pregnant and I want our baby to have his last name but him and his wife arent even divorced. Is the baby still allowed to have his last name? And is that stupid considering that she still has his last name along with their kids? I hate my last name who wants to grow up with their last name (Starman)?

2007-11-09 08:16:29 · 34 answers · asked by tina s 2

My husband goes out to lunch with women he works with. Last year he was on a bowling team and told me it was a male league only. Then I found out that he had asked a group of women from his work to join the league when he claims he found out it was a co-ed league. He didn't ask me to join. I trust him, but these things make me feel insecure. Should I feel this insecure? Does this sound suspicious. Sincere answers only.

2007-11-09 07:55:44 · 18 answers · asked by J9 3

The family is not horrible but I do not have a single thing in common with them and they're way too clingy with my husband and now new baby daughter!!

2007-11-09 07:25:15 · 26 answers · asked by Pandu 1

I know some of you are not the jealous types, but there are others who are. You're the ones I'm talking to. For some reason you feel like your husband is checking out other women, talking to them behind your back, or something like that. Maybe you trust him, but it's other women you don't trust. Everytime an attractive woman gets within arms reach of him, your skin just crawls. You see her looking at him. You watch her giggle and try to act all flirty. He seems oblivious and says you are overreacting or just being insecure and jealous. But you know she's up to something. You wish he would understand. You wish he wouldn't smile and talk to her. You wish he wouldn't be friends with her at all. I think you get my point.

Can you get yourselves to a point where it doesn't bother you anymore?

2007-11-09 07:19:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 07:18:05 · 22 answers · asked by mystique 5

I'm 30ish, and I have a boyfriend 20ish, we talk on the phone alot, and maybe see each other like twice a week. We don't live together, but lately he's been asking to spend a week at a time with me at my home. he said he wanted to bring a weeks worth of clothes, and doesn't plan to go to his home at all during that time, just to work, and right back to my house. What would be the reason for this ? do you think he is trying to slowly move in, or does he just want to be with me all day everyday . I'm wondering why he doesn't want to spend time with his friends..??

2007-11-09 07:17:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

HE loves the strip dance and lap dance. I have never done either and need to find some good moves. Any good ideas are welcome!

2007-11-09 07:12:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are fighting on a regular basis now. My mother and father are at a constent on asking if eachother are seeing different people (like I would know) right now my mother is trying to leave, but every single time we do leave, My father is at a non-stop calling thing trying to get her back home.

How could I try to get myself out of this?!

2007-11-09 07:10:56 · 29 answers · asked by Aubrey 1

Only other thing is, I would really like to keep my last name going so i would like my kids to have it. I know they are suppose to take the fathers last name but do you think a guy would ever change his last name to the womans instead? is that possible and how many guys do you think would change there name for a girl they loved and wanted to marry?

2007-11-09 07:05:08 · 32 answers · asked by Samantha W 1

My husband and I have been together since 1989. We have two children and are have been separated since 2001. We still have a very active sex life but he has a girlfriend that he lives with now. I love him very much, so much until I know that I must let go but somehow I just don't have the energy to do so. Am I wrong for still loving and sleeping with him? He send me mixed signals he's has always been there for me but when he is with his girlfriend he acts as if I don't exsist. He lies to his girlfriend and tells her that he don't talk to me when he know every free moment he has from her is spent with me. I'm confussed please help me to decided what I need to do to remedy this situation.

2007-11-09 06:52:50 · 19 answers · asked by juicy091 1

This will probably get a lot of negative comments, but why is it that people come on here just to put other people down? Seriously, I don't get it. I see people posting answers calling people names, putting them down...and for what? They aren't doing anything wrong. These people must not be happy with themselves or they must have nothing better to do with their time. Who else agrees?

2007-11-09 06:43:20 · 18 answers · asked by -----------n 2

when stress just gets the best of the passion between two incredible lovers. . .
what things would YOU suggest to spice up the mojo and make things hott again?

2007-11-09 06:17:35 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3

I went out the other night & a guy hit on me. He is a friend whose company I enjoy - from England & I am interested in his culture, religion, politics, etc. Problem is that I am married & he has a little "sex" buddy w/ no strings attached. We were flirting throughout the night. She was there. He walked me to my car and asked if he could kiss me. I told him that would not happen and he should go back inside. He hugged me and I left. We both were drinking throughout the night. He called me the next day and apologized for giving little regard to the Mrs.and putting me in that position. Next day, I went to apologize to her for what took place. She said, "I don't want to talk about it, but I appreciate it though (with sarcasm)." I feel enormous guilt for what took place. I am sorry for disrespecting my husband, two kids, & her. My husband has no clue this occurred & I truly wouldn't cheat, nor purposely hurt another person. We all hang out at the same place, how do I fix this?

2007-11-09 06:14:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anjer 2

2007-11-09 06:10:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

help!

2007-11-09 06:02:36 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

The Bible says the man should be the head of household. My husband strongly desires to be the head of household. The problem is unless it involves sex he does not know how to be a leader or take charge. He misunderstands 90% of whatever I tell him. He always "thinks" I said this or "thought" I meant that. He drops the ball a lot and everytime he justifies it by saying he didn't understand and/or I should have explained or done it this way or that way. Instead of asking in order to get a better understanding, he'd rather sit back and assume or just not deal with it at all.

For instance, bills are one of our biggest problems. We bought a new home seven months ago. We knew when we moved in things were going to be tight for a year or two. I thought we were BOTH on the same page as far as sacrifices, but we weren't. He has done nothing but whine about how we should have stayed in the apartment. About how we never have money to play. He'd rather eat out than buy things for the house.

2007-11-09 06:01:16 · 34 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

Bored, looking for something to do tonight

2007-11-09 05:56:40 · 19 answers · asked by mlove1_1_0 1