Marriage & Divorce - 6 November 2007

2007-11-06 23:54:03 · 17 answers · asked by Larry 4

Especially if you were used by her to get pregnant ( I have proof).
I have nothing to do with her or her kid

2007-11-06 23:45:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

And the csa are asking me to claim child maintenance ive sent back the forms opting out to claim as im scared of my ex finding out my where abouts but that doesnt seem good enough as now ive got an interview with them asking why im want to opt out claiming I havent slept since and am starting to have panic attacks when i was in a refuge income support excepted my reasons and now im in a council flat with my daughter it seems my answers and worries arent good enough!

2007-11-06 23:19:15 · 8 answers · asked by angel***** 1

I've always had a high sex drive. Before we were married, my wife convinced me that we had to wait until we're married to have sex. So I waited (for 4 years) while she was finishing college. Then we got married and at first we had sex somewhat regularly. But lately, she's been coming up with one excuse after another to avoid sex. For one thing, she seems to be on her period for at least two weeks out of the month. If she's not on her period, she complains that she doesn't feel well enough for sex. I've been getting more and more frustrated with the lack of sex in our marriage. I've always thought that cheating is selfish and wrong, but now I'm starting to think it might be a necessary evil. To me, sex is like a fundamental human need like eating or sleeping. I waited for years because I thought this need would be fulfilled after marriage, but now I feel just as frustrated as I was before getting married. Am I wrong for having these feelings? What am I supposed to do in this situation?

2007-11-06 23:12:09 · 40 answers · asked by Byakuya 7

am in a marriage of 6years and got a 3yr old daughter, last week but one i met this guy from the net n till now we keep in touch. My husband has no idea about this guy and i think am falling in love with this guy, he is ready to marry me and also ready to look after my daughter as his own, now the problem is i dnt knw wat to do as am already married???? Pliz advise if u were in my position wat wud u do? My husband is a nice guy but i fear he'll be like his father (4 wives) so am confused? as the other guy from the net is willing to speak to my mom about us and is ready to do anything to have me in his life but he is from egypt, pliz help.

2007-11-06 23:11:07 · 17 answers · asked by angeleyes 1

The cat died of a broken heart.,that's what curiosity got this cat. He finally brought his cell phone home and I really wasn't going to check the message just delete the mean ones that I had sent the day he disappeared(b/c we got along so well yesterday) but there was one from her and I couldn't help myself. Hers said I just wish you could hold me and tell me things are going to be OK. His response was The holding I can do. These were sent on the 4th, he vanished Monday the 5th.

I didn't say anything to him I stuck a note in his cell phone and cried myself to sleep again last night.The note wasn't hateful or accusing I just said that there is no reason for a married man to be saying this to another woman.And that I was hurt again.
Should I email this whore? And not get nasty just ask straight up if there was something going on or if something was about to happen. I'm pregnant and I have a right to know if I need to be retested for any kind of disease.

2007-11-06 22:55:15 · 23 answers · asked by his wife 4

2007-11-06 22:53:29 · 20 answers · asked by collin 2

ok my parents have been quarrelling years. my father even physically abuses my mother. bascially he's a dictatorial bastard. while my mum had her faults being stubborn and all. I am an only child, soon to be 19. whilst i'm pretty strong, I can't cope with stuff sometimes, all alone. It does get to me, especially when I'm having to study.

anyway they are renovating the house soon. and my dad insists my mum has too much rubbish and he wants to throw them away. thing is, he wants to "get" people to help throw all her things out. and my mum is really really angry. i get her point, it's just so rude and mean to take someone's stuff to throw out!!

anyway, i need your help!! is there anyway i can help my mum pack all her stuff and keep it somewhere else during the renovations? should i keep it in a box (there's alot of stuff!) and where should i put it?

desperate, any suggestions accepted. thanks so much =)

2007-11-06 22:47:09 · 12 answers · asked by Nat 2

2007-11-06 22:25:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-06 22:20:46 · 34 answers · asked by Yam King 7 7

Please advice…

Couple divorce. After one year the woman meet up with another man and they decided to get married. A little in a hurry but it is confirmed and the ex is also notified. He broke down in a state because she told him she will never marry again. She told her future husband she has to go and comfort the ex and that if he does not understand then it will be the end of the relationship. He found out that she was staying over at his place for two days and they slept together in one bed but did not have sex. The future husband ended the relationship. They couldn’t stay away from each other and the next week they were together again. The wedding was put off because of pressure from the ex and the family of the woman.

The woman refuse to let go of the ex’s friendship and the future husband has a problem with that. The future husband have problems with getting hold of the woman at times and is told that she stays over at a friend’s place when she is in stress.
So she is gone sometimes two to five days being at the friend’s place sorting herself out. Her cellphone is off and she cannot be reached. At another instance she sat next to her future man talking with the ex and telling him she loves him and the future man also saw an sms where the ex asks if she still loves him.

The Future man forgives her everything after he founded out that they did sleep together at his place. Also that the friend’s place where she went to to sort herself out was that of the ex. He bought her clothes and and all needed if she ever need to make use of the “facility” and gave her the keys and a remote to the place.

Now the future man wants to sort out these things and continue with the relationship, trying to put everything behind him, but has a condition. He agrees under pressure from the woman that the ex and she may continue the friendship and that he may come and visit where she stays but has a problem with her going to his place. She does not understand that and ask him why he does not trust her. She still has the keys and remote but tells the future man she will not go there. He ask her what if she is invited there..what is she gonna say and how is she going to handle that? She tells him that she WILL go there if she has problems with the future man. She refuses to tell the ex that she still has a relationship with the future man as she does not want to hurt his feelings and that he was so “good” for her and the kids while they were married and he left her with everything and she is owning him her friendship. He is a wonderful man and will not force a relationship on her and she tells the future husband that he is the only man in her life and that she loves him very much.The Ex knows enough about “them” and need not know anything more that will hurt his feelings. The ex still buys her food sometimes and gives her money.
The future man said that he is willing to except everything but will not tolerate her going out with the ex and visiting his place again. She says the future man is unreasonable and she has been asked some times ago to go with the Ex on two occasions in near future to help him buy some goods for his home. She tells the future man that YES she is going to do that and WILL go to his place and maybe stay over for a braai/barbeque the evening.
The future man does not except and wants to end the realtionship because he has been so understanding and feel that the Ex need to do a little understanding himself?


The questions?
Who is right or wrong here or unreasonable.
Any advice for both parties.
What would you have done if you were the future man
Can the future man sue for losses here

2007-11-06 22:18:52 · 19 answers · asked by Dirk S 1

to "talk" all of the time when he couldn't be bothered before. Now I'm wishing he'd just hush up and leave me alone. I have nothing to talk to him about anymore. What should I tell him when he's just trying to be nice and he really has no interest in what's going on in my life.

2007-11-06 22:07:28 · 22 answers · asked by jacquie 6

2007-11-06 21:57:57 · 19 answers · asked by moori3100 1

He always tells me he misses me when he's by himself for a few hours. It was sweet when we were dating but now its just obnoxious. I don't say it back. Am I a bad wife?

2007-11-06 21:46:27 · 22 answers · asked by Rosella 1

I know he will refuse. Is it better just to leave it alone. I dont have the money to get a lawyer and fight him to get it. So what is the best course of action?

2007-11-06 21:42:59 · 6 answers · asked by Tristan P 1

2007-11-06 20:26:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I posted earlier question :"She is not the same as used to be".
What should be good for me to do for her that would make her feel better? We just got married two months ago and we live in different states.
We are still aparts due to job transfer problems, but in three weeks she is moving here.
There should be some ladies in here who will give med some advice. If you are kind of unhappy with your husband or bf, and you think that whatever he does is kind of wrong, what will kind of change your mind and make you feel better? What should he do for you? I tried as calling her 3 or 4 times a day, and telling her that i missed her and so on... but she is just mad at me for some reasons which I don't know what they are. I know that in the beginning most of people freak out about getting married and all I am trying to do is make things work.

2007-11-06 19:51:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

After two years of marriage, I have realized that my husband is gay. He only slept with me 3 times to have a baby, and before or after that no sex. I have caught him searching gay online dating, and found out he had male sexual partners in the past.

I can't file for divorce, because my residency is on the line, I have to wait for another 4 years to sort out my residency. In the meantime, as he lied to me about his sexuality, and ignored me all the way through, do you think it's a wise idea to find a partner for myself outside marriage, or shall I wait for another 4 years, to have my residency sorted, which means that I'll grow older and feel miserable for another 4 years?

2007-11-06 19:46:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my love 1 year and 3 months now. We have been very close to each other we spend almost every single day together and do everything together. We always tell each other we love each other and he even told me he really wants to marry me someday. He tells me everything and he even a few times about a couple of girls who tried to hit on him but he told them he had a girlfreind. He recently told me about this girl who been trying to be with him and all his freinds trying to make him go with her(i heard his freind on the phone saying it) BUT he keeps telling them NO. And one friday after church he dropped me off and was headed home but then he said hes brother called him and told him to pick him up(flat tired) so he told me to call him back in 5 minutes. I did and he never picked up (which was unusual) so i got scared and went out looking for him. I finally saw his car next to the pary where his bro was in and found him making out with the same girl! What should i do!

2007-11-06 19:44:26 · 16 answers · asked by AbA 1

2007-11-06 19:42:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-06 19:36:52 · 12 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

who is a rather insecure but very ambitious person who only seems interested in spending time with her family and not with her husband's family, my son's families.

2007-11-06 19:30:09 · 8 answers · asked by Meeshmai 4

If your significant other were cheating, would you want your friends or family to tell you and would you believe them?

2007-11-06 18:51:31 · 16 answers · asked by mojo52 3

Me and my wife are having bad times right now. Over the last 8 years I have never been able to make her happy. She is not happy with anything really. I've talked until im blue in the face, begged her to talk to me, tried to reason with her, tried to get her help, done anything i can to try to be there and show her love and i never see a consistant change. once i blow up and she thinks she might lose me she will do better and then we go right back to the same things. we have no intamcy, when we are together it feels like she looks at it as a chore, we don't kiss anymore, and we fight more often than not. started getting bad head aches and it feels like i have a 25 pound weight on my chest all the time. so the question is, stay or go?

2007-11-06 18:48:09 · 15 answers · asked by bullcity25 2

I just found out that my husband (42) has been going to the gym with a much younger woman (in her 20s). He says that she just wanted him to her and give her advice with her workouts. If this is true, then why was it kept a secret. Why is she calling him to let him know when she'll be there or not? It seems like their meeting. He assures me that he loves me but I still can't shake the fact that he lied when he told me he hasn't met anyone there. This woman also works with him. It hurts so much especially since we've been together for 15 years and had recently gotten married just last year. I really need to understand why I'm hurting so much. Please help me.

2007-11-06 18:37:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 2 boys. My husband is always ugly toward them. He never talks to them, and if he doen he fights with them. He comes home in the evening go to his bedroom and stay there, he is never there to help me with the boys, and if i ask him he is so ugly towards them! I have spoken so many time to him, but he does not change. Please help me!!

2007-11-06 17:48:40 · 23 answers · asked by annie 1

2007-11-06 17:47:13 · 16 answers · asked by wood18us 2

I had a good marriage till today. We have a one year old cutie boy. We love him so much. The problem is my wife goes out of mood often and starts blaming me and humiliating me for no reason for everything happened/happening around. Not to fuel it, most of the times, I dont argue back and just remain calm. But sometimes I get furious on this pecking and argue with her for a minute. I stop the argument immediately realizing not to increase the anger. I have lots of tough decision to make in life and cope up with work pressure. With my wife's humiliation, I am getting totally confused & worried most of the times and I am afraid it will affect my work and life. I made her sit down and explained her so many times not to do that. But she is taking toll on me. Nowadays, Since I dont want my son to grow up in a healthy environment, I dont argue at all. I had a rough childhood. I always wanted a peaceful life. I am totally helpless.

2007-11-06 17:32:36 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

after 22 years of marriage, evidence that my love for her is failing?

2007-11-06 17:20:00 · 5 answers · asked by bobalo9 4

2007-11-06 17:11:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous