Marriage & Divorce - 3 November 2007

why is that women are not able to understand that love and attraction are not one in the same? a guy can go sleep with a stripper he doesnt love, because she is a visual stimuli. where as for his wife who has gained weght, he loves her but visually not stimulating.... it doesnt mean you are not standing by her side or that you want to leave, or that your ungrateful for the children shes bared, or that your insensitive to her needs.... i beleive that woen are stimulated by there ears, and men are stimulated by there eyes. if over weight women are so attractive why arent there more magazines on the newstands promoting this like there very own victoria secrets....... i love y wife i just need some advice, a solution, cause im not leaving her. i want women to answer this, what is it that you think is a turn on to men?

2007-11-03 23:55:32 · 16 answers · asked by mujahidfurqan 1

My husband moved out and in with a woman he was having an affair with. The only thing he took were his clothes. Everything else he owns is still here. We had my brother living here and he told me that was the reason he did what he did. My brother moved out yesterday (it was truly horrible with him living here). My husband keeps saying he wants to come hom. I dont want to rush him but dont want to be taken advantage of either. When this other woman is around she is up his butt because she knows he still cares for me. When she is not, we are together. How long should I give him before I say its over. He is a good talker, but has also come through in the past (not that this has happened before). If you wish to discuss, leave me your emai. Thanks.

2007-11-03 23:49:47 · 12 answers · asked by jenn 1

...after couple of break ups...?

2007-11-03 23:47:53 · 26 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5

My husbands best friend is reverting back to single life, and is trying to drag my husband out everywhere with him, however we have 3 children and are happy! How can i explain to him we will end up unhappy too!

2007-11-03 23:37:53 · 21 answers · asked by R B 2

I understand married daughters in Karnataka before 1993 do not have rights on ancestral property acquired by grandfather in family partition and presently owned by his widow. Grandfather had only one daughter who has 2 sons and a daughter referred to in the question. Now, it is proposed to share the property between the 2 sons only, as there are no property rights in ancestral property for the daughter in view of the fact that she was married in 1982 and died in 1998 leaving a husband and a son. Husband has remarried.

2007-11-03 23:36:57 · 3 answers · asked by sumukha 1

That is save the "Dream Wedding" money and put it in a college fund for the kids. That is money you will never get back.

2007-11-03 23:29:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is your job at home.

2007-11-03 23:24:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's a moody/gets angry quickly type of person

but we're not perfect .. we all have bad things in our personalities and i love him despite the bad things in his personality

He admits those bad things but says things like (this is me) (i was born that way) (i'm just like my father) (although my mom is the most special person in my life she couldnt change that in me)

I can't completely change him for sure, but if i help him control his temper or find ways to get him out of this un-nessecery bad mood .. do u think i can pass ? do u think there are ways i can help him with ? should i talk to him about that plan i'm making to change him?

By the way .. we're engaged and getting married soon .. been engaged for almost a year but never got to see each other during that year cuz he was studying abroad so our relationship was a phone or IM relationship

So do u think i can ?
Therapy and leaving him are NOT options

2007-11-03 23:18:34 · 14 answers · asked by Maria 6

I am 26 years old and this is my second marriage. My first marriage was very abusive. Now I am married to this great guy, I can say I am married to my best friend. The problem is we don't have sex. He has ED and cannot keep it up for more than 1 minute. I honestly forgot the last time we had sex. He seems to have an orgasm when penetration is not involved but when he tries to please me he can't keep it up. This is ruining my self esteem. He had medical help, even with medication he still has problems. We talked about this situation a number of times with no progress. We have been married for more than a year now. I just can't see myself growing old with no sex! I am a pretty attractive lady and casual sex is going across my mind and I am feeling terrible! We can't afford any therapy right now and I can't count how many times we talked about this. I don't want to divorce again because of my daughter who is very attached to him. Should I cheat, or be sexless my entire life?? HELP!

2007-11-03 23:05:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel so hurt and not able to cope but it was all my fault 2yrs ago had a fling and got caught i deeply regreted it he didnt deserve it. He has been trying to get me back but he had to many issues wouldnt let me live it down. The fling has been in and out of jail abusive to me now hes out and i cant get him out of my life so my ex is now with my sister.

2007-11-03 23:02:51 · 13 answers · asked by marling61 1

her boyfriend has 2 c.p.o's against him, and has broke the c.p.o 1 time already, what can I do to protect the kids

2007-11-03 22:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by thegentleman_123 1

All in all, I am 23 three and have been with my spouse for almost 6 years now. In that time we have been through any kind of hurdle a relationship can go through ( cheating, children , death in the fam, being broke and having lots of money, so on and so forth), We are even considering having another child in a few years.

I am a very happy person and I love him SO much words cant even explain, but I have absolutley no desire to get married, not now , not ever. I figure if everything is fine the way it is, why screw it up? Mind you, out parents both went through very messy divorces, I guess I just shyed away from the idea of marriage and he wants to do it more than ever. I know im not my parents and they have since moved on from eachother and are quite happy in new relationships but generally I have no want or desire to get married at all.

Is this normal?

2007-11-03 22:51:52 · 7 answers · asked by Crystal84 2

it was my first time..ive neva done it b4..i regret it so deeply its realy tearing me apart..it made me realize how much i realy love my husband..how much he realy means to me..im trying so hard to get that message across to him..i know i cnt push or be mad at him for daughting me..its my own fault..no one in this world can hate me more for wot ive done than i hate myself..i miss him so much..we trying to work things out but theres constant friction and i dont know how to make it stop..i just wana make him happy..show and make him feel that there is there will neva be any other man or woman i want..he says his trying..but i dont feel that..it feels like i cnt do anything right in his eyes..that there is always sumthing im doing wrong..how do i show and make him feel that i love only him that i only want need desire him..how can i make him hapy again..make our mariage strong again..i dont wana pay for my STUPID mistake 4 the rest of my life..kids mis him 2..damit i love this man so much

2007-11-03 22:12:46 · 12 answers · asked by musicslave 1

I have recently gotten close to one of my husband's friends. My husband is also his supervisor. (They're cops). Apparently, we got a little too close. He kissed me, and I didn't stop it. I'll be the first to admit I enjoyed it (at the moment that is). I now realize that I screwed up royally. So naturally I went to my friends for advice. Some say that I should not tell my husband because it was just a kiss and would hurt him too much over something really small. Others think that I should have told my husband right away. He has cheated on me (not saying that makes it ok, just giving a fact). I'm scared to tell him. Don't know if I should. Don't want to create tension at work. I tried to tell him a few times before about something that happened when we were just dating and he refused to believe it. Thought I was joking. Didn't think that me cheating on him was possible. Have no clue how this is going to go. If I should tell him, how do I tell him? How do I undo the damage?

2007-11-03 22:07:55 · 15 answers · asked by GreenEyes 1

2007-11-03 20:51:12 · 12 answers · asked by James W 1

Men, tell me if you knew in your gut that a woman was "the one" as soon as you saw her. Tell me if when you met "the one" the very first time did you NOT know she was "the one".

1 What profession are you both in?
2 How long did you date prior to marriage?
3 First marriage?
4 How old were you both when married?
5 Are you married?
6 Happily married?

Please asnwer the title question with a few sentences and the survey questions. Please do not answer "I am not married" because this question is for married people. This question is not for everyone. I am doing research on love.

Please share freely because I am all ears.

Thank you for your cooperation.

2007-11-03 20:26:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay long story short...me and the ex-neice kinda always had the hots for one another...I'm 29 now and she is 19, I was married to her aunt until 2 years ago when we divorced for other unrelated reasons (she decided she didn't want to be married), I remarried about 6 months ago to a cool girl but me and the neice have been knocking it since she turned 18 about a year ago...I think we have fallen in love...I know the ex's family will be livid if me and the "neice" become an item...what should I do? As much as i care for my current wife, I just don't have as much emotional draw to her as the neice...I realize that now. P.S. this may sound superficial, but my "neice", is super HOT looking and is a little sexual dynamo, so I admit that really is playing on my mind...I cannot get the neice out of my mind...day and night 24/7...what to do?

2007-11-03 19:59:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

please logically evaluate your question and write a valid argument please tell me whats on your mind??

2007-11-03 19:31:57 · 41 answers · asked by mickie1108 3

i have feelings for my brother-in-law and i know its wrong! I can't help it though and I have thought the same of him feeling that way, but aint sure. My husband has cheated on me all the 15 years of our marriage, and he dont treat me with love and affection. We went on a vacation and my brother-in-law went with us. My brother-in-law treated mine and my husbands adopted son so good that it felt as if he were the father and husband. The question is what now?? How do I express myself? What do I do? how do I find out how he feels? Im scared that I got the wrong signals, and tell him how I feel and for him to tell my husband.He lives in a different state and only comes down in holidays.

2007-11-03 19:29:09 · 6 answers · asked by reda m 1

please i need advise my sister is married and has children . she. has a man that treats her like a queen. . she goes to church. and meet. this man from another religious belief. .she.s in her.40.s to. the man she meet is young enought to be her son. and she listened to him and made a very bad mistake. she caught her husband. and children gone and had sex with him not knowing nothing about him she only knew him a week. she told me this and really made a *** of her self beliving every thing he said to her . now she scared her husband .will find out and leave her and her children to .i dont know what got into her but now she sees.s if this comes out as what she did she be divorced and loose everything . how can she try to keep her husband from learning what she did .

2007-11-03 19:20:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

i m a married lady with kids but i have a friend who is my age like 28 she is not still married she dosent want to marry but she wants to make relation with a man and just stay so i m from india i want to xplain her that what she want to do is against out culture she is so depressed with life she dosent want to know what is right or wrong she dosent listen to any one im afraid she might do something wrong for which she can be sorry later how can i help her ??dont want to hurt as as she is already so upset.

2007-11-03 19:09:46 · 10 answers · asked by jasmine 2

I have asked him to talk to his doctor for years. He continues to ignore my request. It has been more than four months since we had any type of intercourse. We tried today and he could not keep it hard for very long. We ended up having to use the vibrator for my enjoyment. I'm really tired of this.

He is only 34 years old and we have been married for 14 years. This has been a problem on and off all during our marriage. It is truly frustrating to the point I have considered leaving.

2007-11-03 18:40:04 · 44 answers · asked by cmhc32 3

Yes, I went on a date and kissed another guy a year ago, when my husband suggested we divorce and he moved out. But after telling him I was moving on, he came back and promised me things would change and he would treat me better. Well, for a month straight he has played the blame game, and tonight, He called me a whore in front of the kids, and said to my 5 year old daughter...Do You Know Mommy Has Sex With Other Guys!! I got so fed up, I slapped him so many times while holding my 2 month old. He of course jumped up and attacked me and threw our baby down the crib. I didnt care if he attacked me, but was terribly upset that my baby was screaming. He's gone now. But I'm so fed up. I love him so much and I can't stand it anymore. There is never 1 day we can go without him mentioning something about the past. I'm trying to learn from my "mistakes" and grow. But now I'm confused as to who's fault it is.

2007-11-03 18:38:01 · 15 answers · asked by Laurellamags 5

ex hubby's new girfriend took it up on herself to write me and tell me how sheS "got him"and she knows "how to keep a man" and "he doesnt want me " this is the 3rd of his girlfreinds to write me this way ( i think he puts them up to it, as i dont contact them i have a new life now) . anyhow she is considering herself to be his one and only, i clicked her profile she had a trashy photo of herself in jean shorts and a see through bra (nipples showing through)and NOTHING else. i sved the picture and emailed it to his mother. now she wont look like the kind you take home to momma, is that a good revenge?

2007-11-03 18:37:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 18:24:41 · 5 answers · asked by biggepac 2

My dad told me he was going to get remarried within a month. It came as a shock to me, and I don't know if I should feel happy or sad. My mom and dad have been divorced for about 10 years, and I'm 16 years old. He asked me to come to his wedding, and I don't know how to react. I'm wondering how other people on yahooanswers dealth with anything similiar to this.

2007-11-03 18:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by Daniel k 2

My husband reckon you should wear them for 24 hours and I disagree because when I cuddle them they smell gross. Because he changes them before bed and stays in them to he has another shower before bed.

2007-11-03 18:16:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Separated from husband 7 months ago; we still talk every now and then; (Contemplating a divorce) Don't feel like waiting for things to get better or change. Should I step out and find someone new??

2007-11-03 18:06:24 · 14 answers · asked by Brnskngyurl 3

I got married in july of this yr (2007) and my husband thinks I'm cheating on him, he's even accused me of cheating on him with his 14 yr old brother and 1 of his lil friends... I've NEVER gave him a reason to think I would cheat on him at all...I know he's insecure so u ain't gotta tell me that...I know he is...But damn! It's bull, he tells me he is ugly,fat,etc...and says I wanna move back to my hometown and not be up here with him etc...What should I do? If it keeps up I may just leave him!!!!

2007-11-03 17:59:24 · 24 answers · asked by x_farrah_x 1

i've been engaged for almost a year & getting married in less than a month

He's an angry+moody person which was totally ok with me (no one is perfect) ... i just feel so sensetive and in need of sweet talks and future loving promises from him to make so i'd go into our marriage more confidently but his bad mood is making me feel more and more worried about being his future wife ! although it was OK with me a week ago

He's starting to make a BIG DEAL about small things and makes me feel guilty about silly things and becuz i'm stressed , i DO feel guilty although i havent done anything wrong and i find myself saying sorry at the end, i become so sensetive and upset quickly whenever something goes wrong between us and he's not helping at all .. i dont feel excited at all and i never complained about his bad mood all the time

what's even making me freak out is that my parents didnt want me to marry him (cuz he's black) so the only support i have should be him

2007-11-03 17:59:09 · 9 answers · asked by Maria 6