Marriage & Divorce - 3 November 2007

2007-11-03 10:50:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I got divorced in 1998, my ex claimed to be unemployed. Without an income to go off of, the judge had to set his child support on the minimum he was capable of making, minimum wage. Which turned out to be $42.15 a week. I never went back and got it increased, though I knew he was working and knew without a doubt he made more than minimum wage. I finally asked for it to be increased a few months ago, and we went to a mediation about 2 months ago. I was in shock that they gave my me and my son an additional $450.00 a month. I didn't realize he made that much money. He was furious and called me every name in the book including money hungry.
Looking back at the past 9 years that he was only paying me $42.15 a week, I kinda feel this increase is making up for what he really should have been paying me all those years. What kind of looser quits his job right before court, so he won't have to show the judge his income? That is what my ex did, and then starting working afterwards.

2007-11-03 10:48:47 · 6 answers · asked by Pink Cowgirl 4

I received a divorce last week however it was done prose and I misunderstood the judge when he asked about insurance benefits.. I do not have with my company (new company) and now me and my daughter have no insurance after 30 days. My ex has covered us for over 4 years and still will cover his son although not me or my biological daughter. Can I go back and appeal or ask for a consideration or is done done.

2007-11-03 10:47:38 · 2 answers · asked by marissa 1

2007-11-03 10:36:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 10:35:41 · 14 answers · asked by phoenixlstilwell 2

I live here 1 year 7 months, When I came here I realize how different we are. We used to fight a lot, every weekend. He used to hit me at least 1 a month and I stayed because "I love him" he had help me a lot here, He used to be so sad and he decide he would not hit me again this was march, He was doing good until today. We are so different but I feel I can leave him. I now I have to ..but, We had pass for a lot of things, like miscarriages, hospital, etc. etc....What do I do? We are so different and I think just love keep us together......thanks

2007-11-03 10:30:51 · 11 answers · asked by Lule P 1

I have written answers before on a Domestic discipline relationship...as I will cut and past one of my answers to explain why I am in favor of it. READ IT BEFORE ANSWERING!!

I believe in Domestic Discipline completely. It's not right for every couple, however I believe there are plenty of couples that it couple work and would be a great idea for! Spanking in a relationship can help with many different things, i believe morals have gone to hell in this country! Divorce rate is so damn high. I believe that if BOTH parties know that there are consequences to their actions that they will think twice before doing something. Everyone is human and will make mistakes. That is OK. Every relationship has disagreements as well. However, there are times that they get out of hand and there are hurt feelings and perhaps built up resentment. That isn't healthy for a relationship and it can prevent it from succeeding. I believe it can be very therapeutic to have real consequences for your actions,

2007-11-03 10:27:16 · 10 answers · asked by Jewels 4

I have been with my fiance for 3 years. We have 3 children. I have one from a previous and he has twins from a previous. We have a great family and happy kids.......most of the time. When we argue or get in a fight about even the most trivial and stupid things my fiance says VERY hurtful things to me. He will say he's cheated on me, or is cheating, or that he doesn't love me, or doesn't care if I leave or stay. When the fight is over he says he just says those things to hurt me, ecause it's the only way he can get to me and that of course none of it is true and I should know that he doesn't mean it. It hurts a lot I feel like my heart is broken repeatedly and I would do anyhting for him to stop acting out that way. I have left him about 4 times and every time I leave he begs me to come back and says he can't live without me and he loves me, buys me flowers he goes all out...but after a little while it goes back to the same old same old.

2007-11-03 10:22:08 · 23 answers · asked by Renee F 2

My husband had an affair 1 year ago with a China gal. It took him 3 times (I discovered they were still communicating after the 1st and 2nd time he end the relationship infront of me, they promise me never to communicate during the 1st time) to part clean with her (I hope its really clean this time). The 1st 2 times was initiated by my husband, and the final time the gal look him up. I was so upset that I cut my hand with a scissors and had 7 stitches done in hospital. Initiated divorce twice but was not successful. He cut his own finger to show his remorse for the 1st time and enlist my parent's help for the 2nd time. I have been unable to trust him up till now and still cannot get over his infidelity. Though I moved on with him in our marriage for a year already but my heart is still not healed at all & I do feel hatred for him. We had 2 kids, now I'm 2 months pregnant and a homemaker. Divorce is not an option now. How can I forgive and forget to lead a normal happy life?

2007-11-03 10:17:16 · 20 answers · asked by IRL 2

2007-11-03 09:59:59 · 66 answers · asked by Lioness 6

I don't know what is wrong with me. I have the nicest guy in the whole world who I want to marry and who loves me to death. The problem is he likes to argue alot because he takes everything I say so personally because he is so sensitive. When this happens, I always tell him it is over. I am hurting him and our relationship and I don't know why I do these things. I always give up on people when they hurt me. I come from a divorced family, don't know if that is why but I am a grown up now so I have to take the blame for my behaviour.
Any suggestions on how to control my urge to walk away from people and shut them out of my life when they hurt me?
I feel so messed up.

2007-11-03 09:40:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 09:31:10 · 12 answers · asked by astarr203 1

My girlfriend, who has a less than desirable marriage, father-in-law has passed away....im wondering if this will draw her and husband closer together or farther apart...especially since in-laws live out of the country? Im only concerned because she seems so miserable as it is....this tragic end could be a new beginning for her??? what is your experience with this??

2007-11-03 09:27:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to see my kids point of view.
my hub. is a weekend drinker, he's not abusive in any way, its just annoying to see him laid out on the couch when we wanna go out. kids r 10-8-2

2007-11-03 09:21:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to follow in the footsteps of my roommate and second cousin....they have twins...aww...could it be because of his first wife?

2007-11-03 09:17:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

before his kids came he used to call his girlfriend almost every 3 hrs. & very strict. Now that he is busy he barely gives a call to his girlfriend. Is it normal for the girlfriend to make tantrums & feel jealous?

2007-11-03 09:17:19 · 4 answers · asked by vince 2

My husband moved out in June of this year and ended our marriage pretty suddenly with no real reason why. He cut off the electricity, took all the money out of the bank accounts, and trated me horribly. A few weeks later he realized his mistake and tried to reconcile with me. I had started seeing someone else and I hid it from him, but did not allow him to come home or rekindle our marriage. After a few more weeks we started seeing a marriage counselor and I ended it with the other man. Now, months later, he has found out that I slept with the other man during the break up. I am no longer seeing the other man, but my husband has is making me feel guilty and threatening to leave again. Was it wrong for me to see someone else after 5 yrs of marriage, or is he to blame by walking out on me? Who is to blame, and do we continue the marriage?

2007-11-03 08:54:17 · 19 answers · asked by Cynthia P 1

Husband says it is law that working woman should spend all her money for house. althought my income is very less compared to his. When I was full time working, I spent almost 90% of house expenses. He never questioned. Now he is abusing me with hurting words, degrading me. He shouts, If I go to work I should spend money, otherwise I should resign and be at home full time. He never reveals how much he is saving for himself however.

2007-11-03 08:52:54 · 7 answers · asked by Nishitha 1

i am seperating from my wife and have an amazing gf that i love and i am loved back. we have a great relationship. i also have 2 kids from the previous marrige... my gf keeps telling me to keep my chats with the ex minimal b/c it hurts her feelings... i cant do that b/c it would end up hurting the kids.... i agree with her that some of the things my ex would say to me or moves she'll make or even msgs she'd send are inappropriate she obiously is tryig to ruin my relationship but my point is that my gf should trust me enough to know i am only doing this 4 my kids.....what do i do? say? whats fair here...?

2007-11-03 08:34:55 · 19 answers · asked by beautiful stranger 3

When your dating the question is, "When are you going to get married" at least 40 times a week. You finnally get married and its, "When are you going to have kids" but there a problem you've had repeat miscarriages, you figured out why and MAYBE next time it wont happen again, but until then no one else knows and just thinks you should be a breeder because you are married, 24, and seemingly healthy, so what do you say? I smile and say, oh kids have to be planned now a days, or some change the topic. Anyone else have a better anwser? As to "When are you going to have babies?"

2007-11-03 08:33:51 · 13 answers · asked by Tbenn 2

2007-11-03 08:33:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wants to see his friends over doing thing w/ our family is this the way it is in every mariage? We dont see him much b/c he works but I would like to have 1 day where it is just us and our kids am I a bad wife for being upset he chooses hunting w/ his friends on his days off over us? I do believe he deserves a day off and to have him time so dont think I am trying to make him choose frinds over me I am not.

2007-11-03 08:24:36 · 16 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1

MEN: Married and Single, imagine that you are in a committed relationship and that you don't live with your respective girlfriend; you live and work 2 hrs. away. In this scenario you've been dating about a year or so. You go out with the boys often. And you play in a band with others your age. Several bands. You're 33. You also bump into old (male) friends and go to dinner with them and their wives. Occasionally staying over at their place if it gets too late. (But you always call your girlfriend and let her know what's going on.) I'd never begrudge him his dreams or his friends. But I have a question. Trying to make the bigtime in bands and all that I've described: Is this normal for a committed, mature man or is this immature behavior?

2007-11-03 08:11:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 08:08:31 · 12 answers · asked by . 3

My husband it seems would rather sit down and watch a hockey game with his friends then be home with me.

2007-11-03 07:44:52 · 23 answers · asked by girl 4

I proposed a girl recently. She is undecided and we are still good friends. I am hopeful that sooner or later she'll accept. But my inner conscience says that it is not the right time to fall in such commitments and by doing so I'll lose focus from my career and job. I will not step back from my proposal and will commit myself if she accepts. But it is also difficult to ignore my inner conscience. What should be done?

2007-11-03 07:35:49 · 12 answers · asked by mohitpatwa 1

Say if you lost a parent you're an orphan, if you lost a wife/husband, you're a widow or widower. how about if you lost a child. what is the term to be used.

2007-11-03 07:23:32 · 12 answers · asked by ron 1

I've always wondered how they do it...? How do you take someone's husband or wife..? Or take them away from their children? Those children have the right to grow up in a home with 2 loving parents. We all know that sometimes relationships can be hard so why take advantage of that? Why take advantage of someone when their relationship may be going through some troubled times?

I just don't get it... what's your take on it?

2007-11-03 07:20:54 · 36 answers · asked by *Shayla* 4

Does it matter if a couple decides to live together for life but dont get married.

2007-11-03 07:12:26 · 13 answers · asked by prakash k 2

Let me count the ways...
I turned off that dreadful alarm clock.
I made Crock Pot Ribs
I cleaned the kitchen
I swept and mopped the floors
I cleaned the bathrooms
I picked up the clutter from about the house
I vaccumed
I woke you with gentle kisses a cup of coffee and a smoke
All to say thank you for all that you do for us and simply that I love you.

2007-11-03 07:11:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous