When I got divorced in 1998, my ex claimed to be unemployed. Without an income to go off of, the judge had to set his child support on the minimum he was capable of making, minimum wage. Which turned out to be $42.15 a week. I never went back and got it increased, though I knew he was working and knew without a doubt he made more than minimum wage. I finally asked for it to be increased a few months ago, and we went to a mediation about 2 months ago. I was in shock that they gave my me and my son an additional $450.00 a month. I didn't realize he made that much money. He was furious and called me every name in the book including money hungry.
Looking back at the past 9 years that he was only paying me $42.15 a week, I kinda feel this increase is making up for what he really should have been paying me all those years. What kind of looser quits his job right before court, so he won't have to show the judge his income? That is what my ex did, and then starting working afterwards.
2007-11-03 10:48:47 · 6 answers · asked by Pink Cowgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You absolutely did the right thing. I can't believe he had the nerve to call you money hungry when it's exactly what he is. If he weren't he would have wanted the best for his child. Your sooo better off without him
2007-11-03 10:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question? You seemed to then explain the situation. No need to explain. You deserved more at the beginning, but he lied. You have no need to retread the past, just move on. And if he makes more money and you have the need, remember these are his kids, also. Like it or not. If you were the main money maker, believe me, he would be after you for more child support. Of course, be fair, but don't be passive and think you don't deserve what the kids need for their food, shelter, clothes,and education. Not cars, new ipods every year, etc. but all needs. For wants, they can go to work when they are old enough to learn about life and money matters. Don't poison their mind against dad; he will always be dad until they die. But enjoy the money and the peace that comes with providing for your children. You do not need to explain to anyone. I'm sorry that he cheated you before, but don't look back on 9 years; look toward the next 99 and the joy you will have with your children. And bless you for doing what you could for them with so little.
2007-11-03 10:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not very much of a man if he refuses to care.
And that IS the root of a man - to care, to give a damn.
You're actually MUCH better off without him. Cut the strings, find another decent man who can love you and your child totally!!! You will never have another regret as long as you live!
2007-11-03 10:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men do stupid things like this because they think the money is for the ex-wife and not the kids.unfortunaly alot of women do use the money for themselves and not the kids. I think you did good by doing this ,and hope you do use the money for the kids.
2007-11-03 10:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very topical for him to react this way. You should get the lawyer on this and get things up to speed, you are doing this for the kids. The kids come first.
2007-11-03 10:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely your child's right to have the support raised. He made the baby he needs to take care of him/her!
2007-11-03 10:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Rev.Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋