Marriage & Divorce - 3 November 2007

Hi, I have recently split up from my husband and now my neighbours ex has shown a lot of interest in me he keeps calling me, he lived with her for 6 years and whilst he lived with her he told me that he had strong feelings for me (her and I understandably dont get along she really hates me). He left her 2 years ago and hasn't seen her since. I have always regarded him as a friend but to say I'm not attracted to him would be a lie. He is calling me every weekend wanting to come over but I feel sory for my neighbour as she still loves him and I have just split up from my husband and don't want to go on the rebound.. it would be a whole lot easier if I wasn't so lonely and I didn't find him so attractive! Should I let him into my life or is it still too soon?

2007-11-03 07:05:41 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

my little sister and my husband are really close (not like an affair type of anything, seems like really good friends...oh god i hope so). now she's just 15 and he's 23, she asked me if it was ok she asked him out on a "date" like something to eat saying "just to know him a little better. im thinking, dont you know him pretty well enough? i really think its weird how they treat each other. she's always doing my job, wife things. she cooks him little cookies, and she always asks for a "friendly hug" from him. i think personaly its fine that she can hug him, but yesterday really drew the line. after she hugged him, she asked him to bend over, we were both supprised, she leaned in and kissed him quickly. now i know i shouldn't over react but i swear i saw tongue!! she just said" just a tiny kiss" now im just really mad and my husband is still pretty boggled and confused becasue he just wanted to be friendly with her. should i still let her eat out with him? i swear if anything happens....

2007-11-03 06:59:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the afternoon i went to sleep as i wasnt feeling well.During that time my husband was in front of computer. Now when i watched youtube website i noticed from the history that he watched sexy girls videos along with other normal videos especially girls with big boobs.I got very jealous.Is it fair while I am sleeping feeling unwell he watches this kind of videos?Now he isnt at home when he comes back i want to leave computer page on cover boys or something to make him feel that i was watching it to make him feel the same. I dont know should i do it? Generally at the moment we are good towards each other and it improved recently i am a bit worried i will spoil it by doing the same to him .

2007-11-03 06:58:17 · 15 answers · asked by Sindy 1

He never had anything to do with our son (his choice) I dont know where he is now or how to contact him (his parents pretend they dont know his whereabouts either), Ive broken off contact with his whole family now as they dont seem too bothered about my son either. I was wondering if I remarried would my new husband be able to adopt my son without my ex husbands consent? My ex husbands name is on the birth certificate.

2007-11-03 06:57:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering because I'm reading the stuff on here and a lot of men are complaining about their wives having kids, gaining weight and so the passion died. As for women, it's more of a communication, emotional thing.

2007-11-03 06:54:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

from before.When we are out together he's very carrying,gentle etc.The problem is that he isn't so steady in his promises,2 times so far we made some plans but the last moment he cancelled by telling me he was tired and he wanted to relax in his house.I'm not a pressing type but i'm surprised as he was the one to propose all these things.We're both 26 and we didn't have sex yet.how you see this situation?

2007-11-03 06:50:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are Hindu girls and women rejecting their own religion,parents and husbands for their blind love for other religion and men

2007-11-03 06:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by venkatesh v 1

I want to be clear, I have not had an adulterous affair with another woman, but I very well could, just so confused..

I have always loved my wife as a partner, but this old girlfriend, she was also the last girl I kissed outside of my current wife, has always driven me to the heights of passion and I feel that stronger sexual connection with her than I ever have with my wife and the connection has always been deeper. I love my wife, I love who she is, my wife truly is a good person, but I just am not in passionate love with my wife and probably haven't been for a very long time. Heck, we have 2 kids.. Going down this road would be very costly (in so many ways).. I just don't know what to do.. I want passion in my life that I have never had with my wife, but I don't want to hurt everyone else to get it..

2007-11-03 06:46:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

first off i love my wife dearly, we have been together for 10years. we have four children, and through it all, she has gained weight, which is to be understood. Our problem is that, i have a problem getting stimulated, because of the weight. women have a problem understanding that men are visual creatures. we are stimulated visually, not emotionally. SEX has little to do with love for men....My wife notices how i am bother, but i cant lie or hide, even though i wish i could... i really wish sometimes God would put something in me to like or even love her weight, but right now its not my preference.. and suggestions? She does make attempts to work out, but she gets horny in the mean time, i refrain because in the act she would know im not totally there. i even offer to please her by other MEANS, but this is not satifactory. what a i to do, i dont want to let her go, but y preference has been the same since i was a teen im 38 years old now....help if you can

2007-11-03 06:39:00 · 21 answers · asked by mujahidfurqan 1

Would you be okay with this? If you were sleeping and your partner had sex with you while you were asleep, is that okay? If you were married is that okay? Like if a man has sex with his wife while she is asleep or vice-versa?

Just curious. My friends and I were debating about it and I wanted your thoughts.

2007-11-03 06:11:39 · 16 answers · asked by asdf 1

Husband, who was suffering from schizophrenia and manic depression,had been in and out of a mental hospital, but at no time had he been declared insane by a court. In fact, he continued to work at his job as a design engineer during the day, returning to the hospital at night. His wife initiated a separation agreement because of the husband's mental condition, although her husband did not really want a sepatation. At a time when he was depressed and did not fully inderstand the impact of the agreement, he did sign it. The agreement was signed by both parties in the presence of the wife's attorney, although the husband did not receive any legal advice from an attorney and did not really know the exact contents of the agreements. Later, when the husband realized what he had done, he requested that the separation agreement be canceled. The wife refused. Is the husband entitled to have this agreement canceled??

2007-11-03 06:03:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hey my husband wane get divorce and go to a other country. What I can do I have a child in a age of 1 year and 1month.
Please helped me

2007-11-03 06:02:18 · 11 answers · asked by unknown 1

My husband and I used to have a great sex life. Recently though, things have changed. My husband always used to initiated the foreplay, and was always up for sex, however since I've been pregnant, he never does that anymore! No more of those come from behind cuddle hugs, no more touching and fondling in a sexual manor, no more of those intense kissing sessions, absolutely nothing! Now I always have to begin the foreplay, and he barely puts any effort into things at all. Who do you think is supposed to start things more often, the woman or the man? How can I bring more romance back into the marriage?

2007-11-03 06:01:47 · 10 answers · asked by Mommy! 3

My husband and i are married for 5 years. He is a very blunt person and dun care abt me and how he talks to me. So I always secretly take revenge by cutting up his clothes and throwing away his precious stuff. Just then, when he shouted at me, i simply walked off; retreated to my room and addded half a tube of analgesic cream to his shower gel and used his toothbrush to brush the toilet bowl. How can we continue on like this?!

2007-11-03 06:00:03 · 22 answers · asked by rhappy28 1

2007-11-03 05:48:25 · 18 answers · asked by Nicole B 1

i fell kinda ashamed, my wife gigles when she grabs one of the earpieces of my ipod

im a dashboard confessional kinda guy, am i weird? what do you think? id play "stolen" for her, then "so long sweet summer" for my kid and vindicated to make myslef feel good

2007-11-03 05:45:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

A great friend of mine got into a fight with his wife last night & she hit him. I haven't seen him but it sounded like it even left some marks. He's a professional & there is no finanical need involved, she's the one dependent on him, if anything. I doubt he would have told me if he wasn't caught up in the moment and didn't call me right after the incident. I'm outraged by 2 things: 1- My own reaction-- if it was a girlfriend, she would be staying in my guest room as we speak. I was upset, but not to the point of going to get him. 2- As upset as he was, he wouldn't have even dreamt about pressing charges, which is something I would have considered if anybody put their hand on me, not saying always would, but it would be a consideration. I can't help but wonder how often this occurs in relationships & how often this is overlooked even when there are injuries! Why the double standard?

2007-11-03 05:44:47 · 11 answers · asked by Lioness 6

i'm getting married in 2 weeks and my fiance never seems to want to have sex. I know there is no one on the side cuz when he's not working he's at home. we spend ALL of our spare time together. i also just had a baby almost 3 months ago. his baby of course. but i've lost almost ALL of my pregnancy weight. I feel like i've tried everything. sexy outfits, lingerie, giving him little dances and he STILL hardly ever wants to have sex. now i know he enjoys it and always has. and My "lady parts" haven't changed at all cuz i had a c section so that's not it either. what can i do? he only really wants to get intimate a couple times a month and i try for a couple of times a week. i mean we're young!! i'm 18 and he's 20. so why doesn't he want me? :-/ he keeps on telling me i'm still sexy and even when i get him "excited" he still doesn't want to have sex. I'm just so confused. anyone experience this?

2007-11-03 05:41:36 · 17 answers · asked by Xander and Marie's Mommy 4

My husband and I have been separated 7 months now, because he had and a drug and alcohol problem. He has now been sober for 4 months. We have been talking and wanting to work out the rest of our problems. All the rest of our problems are things from the past that continually get brought up. Do you thing we can get past it with counseling? Or is our relationship too torn? Please help I love him more than anything.

2007-11-03 05:39:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 05:39:04 · 11 answers · asked by Moore55 4

i feel so betrayed still. and its been a year i never seen our marriage ending even though out of the blue one day he said to me i dont want to be married anymore.i stated we just had a baby.told me that he really was never planned and we never talked about having kids.right there i knew something else was going on. i had a terrible miscarriage before we had our son and it took me a while to try to start thinking about having kids but none the less i did it and i had a beautiful baby boy. wasnt the easiest pregnacy but i kept positive we were so happy my husband and i. dont get me wrong our marriage has had its ups and downs and i stood by him through thick and thin and then one day he decides to end our marriage never gave it a second thought.i knew there was someone else but he denied it. i found out 3 months after that it was a co worker she had the nerve to send me a gift to my house when my son was born. she denied it too. just befriended a man that had nowhere to go i feel like such a ***. made me out to be the bad person. the topper is she has 2 kids and my heart broke when i caught him at her house with her and her kids while i was left alone for months with my child. i just cant understand how people can be so heartless

2007-11-03 05:34:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 22 years and my husband wasnt happy but didnt have the guts to tell me. He went to find himself but found someone else, but wants to stay in contact with me and see me every now and then. He has not said he doesnt love me. I am just so confused and dont know how to forget him or get him out of my head. what would you do

2007-11-03 05:25:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is having an affair and wants me out without giving me anything.He wants a divorce on the grounds of incompatibility.

2007-11-03 05:23:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy i know in my hobby class is going through a bad phase in personal life. He is 28, looks quite settled, intelligent, well informed & read. Most of the times he is quite funny and mostly he jokes upon himself. He isn't flirting with anyone though.

Does he have low self esteem? Confidence issues or trying to grab attention?

2007-11-03 05:02:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now please don't quote 'When Harry met Sally'! I'm talking about a man and a woman who keep in contact over a long period of time,say months or years...even though they don't live in the same area. They may not be in contact very often but the friendship still continues. I've heard it said that a woman can have a man as a friend only but a man always has a 'soft spot', I mean feelings of attraction for a woman he keeps in contact with. Is this true? Would love in particular to hear from the men on this one! Also, if a guy has actually kissed this girl at some stage and keeps in touch with her, isn't it more likely that he holds some desire for her beyond a brother-sister type of feeling? By the way, I'm talking about two single people.

2007-11-03 04:59:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 35 yrs old.Seven years back I was married.It was love marriage.Now I have 6 yrs old son.
Two years back I connected internet to my home.My wife is a home maker,she started playing game online and then she started chating with boys.After fews months she said,I don't like having sex with you and we had a fight.
Now we live in the same house in separate rooms.we don't have sex.She talk over the phone for hours together with all her boy friends.Even sometime she hangsout with them.
I feel very lonely.I don't want my marriage to break and I also don't want my son to suffer because of separation.So I am just tolerating all these things.But sometime I lose my temper and shout her.
Nowaday she doesn't do house work.I have kept maid for cooking and to do all the top works also.
I am little busy with my work.I have my old aged parents in my village ,twice a month I visit them.
Please advice me how to handle this situvation.
Thanks.

2007-11-03 04:42:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like to understand more about women, What do women like about a man : Naked or not & More. Thanks.

2007-11-03 04:30:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister and daughter also get social security checks, my sister has not worked for the 13 years that they have been married because they had plenty of money to live off of, now they are getting a divorce. He is kicking her to the curb with no where to go...can he do this? What can my sister do?

2007-11-03 04:23:28 · 8 answers · asked by darci_bean 1

When I think of mine I will post! This will take some thinkin---!

2007-11-03 04:22:31 · 19 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

I am dating a man who has been separated from his wife for about 6 weeks, is this still adultery and could it be used by the wife to file for divorce.

2007-11-03 04:06:03 · 28 answers · asked by mollygirl20002000 2