my husband andmy sister?

Question

my little sister and my husband are really close (not like an affair type of anything, seems like really good friends...oh god i hope so). now she's just 15 and he's 23, she asked me if it was ok she asked him out on a "date" like something to eat saying "just to know him a little better. im thinking, dont you know him pretty well enough? i really think its weird how they treat each other. she's always doing my job, wife things. she cooks him little cookies, and she always asks for a "friendly hug" from him. i think personaly its fine that she can hug him, but yesterday really drew the line. after she hugged him, she asked him to bend over, we were both supprised, she leaned in and kissed him quickly. now i know i shouldn't over react but i swear i saw tongue!! she just said" just a tiny kiss" now im just really mad and my husband is still pretty boggled and confused becasue he just wanted to be friendly with her. should i still let her eat out with him? i swear if anything happens....

Answer 1

Girls have sex at fifteen. Don't be a dumb@@@, tell her to go play with boys her own age and get your husband away from her. She's obviously trying to seduce him. Do not be stupid!!!!

Answer 2

I'd say it would be appropriate for you to stand your ground here and cut off anything more than casual contact at family gatherings. I wouldn't allow my sister to act this way with any married man, let alone MY husband. She is looking for the wrong type of attention, and she's young and conflicted. This is not innocent. DO NOT let her eat out with him alone. It might be a good opportunity for the 3 of you to go out and lay this all out on the line. You have a right to be mad at her, but you'd really regret it if you turned a blind eye and something developed. Sorry, hun, but this sounds like something that requires action now. She has no respect for your marriage, and obviously no respect for you. Good luck!

Answer 3

Emotions run wild at 15. You and your husband are responsible for stopping this now. It is natural for young girls to have feelings of attraction to men they respect but there is a line that cannot be crossed. Let her know that it is not appropriate for any woman's husband to go on a "date" real or play with someone else. It is also not appropriate for another woman to kiss another woman's husband. Innocent or not its is not acceptable. Make sure that they are never alone and that she knows what her boundaries are. You are the queen of the castle and your word is law.

Answer 4

You would be a fool to allow your husband and sister to go on a "date"...this would be very inappropriate....You and your husband need to set boundaries with your sister....

Why do I get the feeling that you are the same poster who asked a question about your sister and husband a few hours ago? Your sister was 17 then...the story sounds remarkably the same....I believe your id then was... Hard to think sometimes

Answer 5

It sounds like your sister has a crush on your husband!!!! Best thing to do though, is to invite yourself to this "date" and for you both to quit allowing the kisses. Talk to her and explain that you don't mind them being close friends, but he is your husband and trying to mess with your husband is a serious violation of the unwritten book of sisterhood. She is probablly going to tell you you are just being silly, but maybe it will make her realize that her crush is unrealistic.

BTW, does your hubby have a younger brother that looks similar? Maybe if you take her attention off of your hubby and onto something or someone else, it will make things easier for all involved.

Answer 6

How does your husband feel about all this? She is young so maybe she likes the older male attention? Maybe she is in her own fantasy world or pracitcing being around guys to become more assertive with them?
But you should not let her go on a 'date' with him. Sounds too close for comfort.

Answer 7

I think your sister is attracted to your husband because he's "safe" and readily available. She probably has a little crush on him & avoids feeling lonely when she's with him.

Your husband needs to tell your sister that they aren't "dating" and that tongue kissing is completely inappropriate. He needs to set the boundaries for that relationship before things get out of hand.

Remember, both you & he are the adults in this situation...it's up to both of you to tell your sister how things need to be.

Answer 8

Trust your instincts!!!

She's a minor. Tell him that. Every hour.

Then take a look at your marriage and see if he's really a husband to you. In your heart of hearts you know the answer

Answer 9

Husband is solid. that's your sister doing no longer the guy. She is conscious the type of guy or woman he's and maintains the relationship. So she only has to settle for his procedures or end it. he will no longer exchange because of the fact he does not have too. i'm particular this guy is youthful and immature if he on the brink of your sisters age.

Answer 10

I remember being 15 and having a crush on my bro in laws brother that was just slightly painful because he was 20+, I never felt that was wrong, BUT what you are describing is your little sister being jealous and a bit of a tramp. Your husband is caught in the line of fire and he needs to set her down with you present and set her straight that she is now his little sister and he expects her to behave that way and you need to put you foot down (if not up her buttocks) and tell her she will not be welcome in your home if this behavior does not stop IMMEDIATELY! ! ! ! Give your hubby the benefit of the doubt for the past behavior but for any future carrying on he is as a fault as she and needs to be called on the carpet for his behavior. If this does NOT stop you and your sister will both be raising his kids and hating him and each other. THIS BEHAVIOR is NOT NORMAL>>>>NO do NOT let them out of your site alone for a loooooonnnngggg time........if ever..