My husband and i are married for 5 years. He is a very blunt person and dun care abt me and how he talks to me. So I always secretly take revenge by cutting up his clothes and throwing away his precious stuff. Just then, when he shouted at me, i simply walked off; retreated to my room and addded half a tube of analgesic cream to his shower gel and used his toothbrush to brush the toilet bowl. How can we continue on like this?!
2007-11-03 06:00:03 · 22 answers · asked by rhappy28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea, main reason we are still together is that we have a baby. We both work but he contributes much more to the family monetary wise... but communication wise, we cant work out. whenever i express emotions to him, he deemed that i am throwing a tantrum even when i speak to him calmly. I hate it when he raises his voice to me when my folks are around and so i can only retreat to such underhand revenge. But what choice do i have?
2007-11-03 06:24:22 · update #1
Yea, main reason we are still together is that we have a baby. We both work but he contributes much more to the family monetary wise... but communication wise, we cant work out. whenever i express emotions to him, he deemed that i am throwing a tantrum even when i speak to him calmly. I hate it when he raises his voice to me when my folks are around and so i can only retreat to such underhand revenge. But what choice do i have?
2007-11-03 06:27:07 · update #2
GTO Judge is right.
It sounds like he is manipulative and controlling but your behavior could seriously hurt him or he might raise his hands to you one day if he is not already doing that.
Stop doing such sickening things like the toothbrush deal. What if he found out and put stool softeners/laxatives and arsenic in your food and illegal drugs in your pills, and you had an o.d. reaction or he just plain tried to off you or put kitty waste or a disease in your beverages and food especially while you were pregnant? Both of you need help. And serious help at that.
I have suspected that my husband or one of his relatives because of their mental illnesses scrubbed my toothbrush in the toilet and kitty litter and contaminated my food and beverages when I was pregnant and caused me to develop a bodily infection that almost became septicemia (blood infection) and caused me to lose my baby and almost die myself. I have also been told those times I got sick my mentally ill in law at the house and my husband could have been poisoning my food. Strange thing that I was sooo very sick most of my pregnancy and kept getting sick after that. And there were many bad things happening. My husband and a couple of his relatives are currently on medications but the damage has been done.
Stop before anything seriously bad happens, and that toothbrush thing is DISGUSTING!!!!
I don't know what he did for you to start doing this but please stop! It is a form of abuse what you did and what he is doing and you need help before it escalates into something more serious.
My husband used to throw away my things too and yell and curse at me, abuse me and cheat on me IMO; and also IMO he even almost killed me, even though he says he didn't almost kill me, but I think he didn't want to admit it. After he started seeking mental treatment he has not laid another hand on me. I had to threaten to leave him (and I meant it and the other things I said). Please get yourself and your husband mental help, if not for your marriage and yourselves, then at least for the baby. Your baby shouldn't have to be exposed to this, and even if not in the same room, your child knows there's something going on. Even if you get a divorce, I hope both of you get mental help even after the fact. That is just not normal behavior to put his tooth brush in a waste depository like that.
2007-11-03 07:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't continue like this. Why are you still living together? Why haven't you filed for divorce? Under the insults, anger, pettiness, do you still love each other? I think so.
Seek counseling before irreversible damage is done. These foolish games are going to get you in trouble, and you will soon do something that is over the line- something that may cause permanent injury.
2007-11-03 06:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The things you are doing to him are childish. Why did you get married in the first place if you two are still acting like 12 year olds?
2007-11-03 06:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are playing a dangerous game by doing all this. if he is really that bad of a guy divorce is a whole lot easier and safer. if i hated my wife that much i would just leave her not go through all that i mean it really gets you know where besides going to his level. and if you think about it this could really get out of hand and someone may end up getting hurt physically and that would be really bad. play it smart and put him out its the best thing for both of you.
2007-11-03 06:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by king of kings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of your marriage! You don't belong together. Plus all the stuff you're doing? The shower gel thing? That could escalate into something worse. Then you could find yourself in jail. You don't want that!
2007-11-03 06:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't get out your feeling by doing immature things like scrubbing the toilet with his toothbrush...just try to talk to him and see if he feels this way too and if you really can't stand each other, then i think you'd be better off to get a divorce. has he just recently started frustrating you? because maybe something's going on at work or something that's stressing him out. just talk to him about it and if he won't talk or gets mad, then i think you know what to do...
2007-11-03 06:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to do all this childish shiit to him, the best way to deal with it is to leave.
Destroying his possessions won't solve anything, and besides it's illegal. Technically he could have you arrested.
And the toothbrush in the toilet.....eeeewwwwwwww! That could make him ill..and you could be charged with assault.
2007-11-03 06:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't continue like that. Although, the toothbrush trick was pretty clever. lol !!!! Seriously, just divorce him. Life is too short to be miserable !!! You deserve someone you Love ( and Like !!! lol !! ) . Why are you cheating yourself out of happiness?! Get it over with. No need draggin' it out anymore YEARS!!!! Good Luck !!!
2007-11-03 06:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you both need to seek counseling. I don't think you can continue on like that. I would seek marriage counseling before you do anything else.
Good luck. I hope you're able to work it out.
2007-11-03 06:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Freke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad my husband is dead. He was not there for me in MY hour of need! I am sick and tired of everyone telling me what a great guy he was, and putting him up on a pedistal. He WASN'T great at all! I am the one who should be put up on a pedistal!! I am the one who was a ******* Saint. But not anymore! I am going to live my life any ******* way I want to now!!!! Anyone want to join me? It's MY time now!!!!!!!! Finally time for ME. It's about ******* time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2014-09-02 01:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋