Marriage & Divorce - 3 November 2007

My husband and I now live separately. There happened a lot of quarrel with him with a isssue. Now the problem is somehow solved. But i dont want to tell him about it. bcause then he will think that I surrender. But it is necessary to inform him. how can I do this?

2007-11-03 17:57:05 · 6 answers · asked by heera 1

Cheat or lie or deceive. The hurt, the harm, the agony you will place on the one you vowed to love and honor. The stupid idiot who believed in you and was loyal and faithful and who you have now hurt more than anyone else could hurt them. The dagger you stuck in their heart; the heart that was true and kind and good. Is it really worth that little thrill of an affair to hurt so devistatingly the one your love? Was it worth it to cause them to live in doubt and fear and pain? Would like some honest answers from people who have cheated. I'm not here to bash you; just want to know if it was so good that it was worth creating such devastation.

2007-11-03 17:50:10 · 11 answers · asked by pussycat 5

I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. We have two kids together. We have been having issues since we moved in together. Part of the problem is that he never understands where I am coming from. He has also lied about paying rent and didn't tell me about the half naked pictures his ex sent him (I found them myself). I know nothing happened, but he doesn't see how these things affected me. I know he is sorry that he hurt me, but he can never see anything from my point of view, which makes closure hard. I have been trying to bring us closer and save our relationship and I thought he was doing the same. He told me about a week ago that he doesn't want to get to know me too deeply or I would become predictable and he would get bored. He says he keeps me at a distance because he doesn't want to lose me. I am angry about this. I know that part of being in a relationship is getting close. I don't know what to do (therapy? give up?) Any suggestions or thoughts would be helpful

2007-11-03 17:50:10 · 8 answers · asked by Kima 2

I've been divorced now for a year and I want to go out and date, but I can't. I either think about my ex or just can't let anyone close. How can I drop the barrier?

2007-11-03 17:48:36 · 7 answers · asked by lilovin1212 2

My husband is very selfish in bed. It is always all about him and his needs and never mine. I have tried talking to him but he just says he understands what I am saying and then it is just the same thing over and over again. It is all what he needs. Any ideas out there?

2007-11-03 17:41:26 · 12 answers · asked by blzabobb 3

MY aunt left her husban when i was little.
MY cousins are my age.
MY aunt was tired of my UNCLE cheating on her.
HE would play with other women right in front of her.
SHE finally left his sorry BUNS.
NOW 20 years later my cousins are against my aunt 4 leaving heir two timing dad.
I believe my aunt.I have seen my UNCLE in action.
MY cousin has had three small children.
SHE is now, with holding the kids and the new baby from my aunt.
I think she has rights, but what do i tell her to make her feel better.
OF corse i think they(my cousins) are playing games with their children.

2007-11-03 17:33:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He said that I can't put it up this year because he thinks our son will pull it over. I think that if we pay close enough attention it should be fine. I don't want to fight about it, but I do think that we should have a tree, especially with a little boy..my sister already has hers up and he loves it! I'm just aggravated because when I mention lights or anything about our tree to someone he says, "I already said we're not putting the tree up this year" like I have no say whatsoever. Should I just put it up anyway?

2007-11-03 17:17:25 · 43 answers · asked by ... 1

My boyfriend and me have been together for 2 years and I think he's about to pop the question and we are about to move in together, only one problem, my parents hate him! They don't really know him, they just heard rumors and are believing them. I'm living with them right now, how do I break it to them? and I know they wont agree to it so how would i move out? they are both very very controlling (not normal controlling), I'm afraid they would do something very drastic to keep me home. I'm in love with this man, know that he is the ONE and want to spend the rest of my life with him, so please help me. And please no comments about how my parents know whats best, my minds made up.

2007-11-03 17:10:04 · 15 answers · asked by *Jace's Mommy* 2

I am almost 30 years old and I am extremely close to my mom. She is so amazing and sacraficed soo much for me. My mom doesn't have to many friends to speak of, and she doesn't have a car......she can't afford one.

She relies on me a lot for transportation, and sometims she needs grocery money, or money for her bus pass, a new outfit....whatever.

I want to move to a different city.....but I honeslty don't know how she will make it without me. I see her at least once a week if not more. She loves going out to eat, telling me about her work issues, hearing wht is new in my life, etc, etc. If I move away, she won't have anyone. No other family and no friends. And it is very hard for her to make friends (for a number of reasons). She will take the bus home and have nothing to look forward to.

I like to think that I would be able to send her $$ for groceries, taxi and bus fares, but the area I want to move to is sooooo expensive. I may not be able to afford living for myself and h

2007-11-03 16:56:02 · 10 answers · asked by sephia 1

2007-11-03 16:48:50 · 19 answers · asked by jennifer 1

im now happy w/ my husband. Weve been together for almost 4 years now but during the first 2 years of our relationship, I got bored and I wasnt satisfied w/ him. I met a guy and we made love and had a one month relationship. Then Ive jst realized that I was wrong and my husband became more sweet and loving thats why I tried to correct the mistake that I had but I rather not to tell my husband about my mistake coz I dont wanna loose him. I was wondering if it is necessary to tell him or not...? please guys help me out. The guys can also answer!!!

2007-11-03 16:46:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have your husband or wife had an affair, during the affair did they have a child by the person they had the affair with? How did you handle it? Where you able to forgive them?

2007-11-03 16:43:09 · 12 answers · asked by sexychocolate 2

2007-11-03 16:42:58 · 15 answers · asked by Tax Man 2

how can a person start life over. i messed up over this sorry tramp back in. 2001. and wished i had never saw that thing . how can i try now to get my life back my wife left me last week once she found out . about it. that ws back in.2001 i tried explaing to my wife she wouldnt listed. now she filed for divorce. that so called woman runt everything. in my life she was no more than trailer park trash. but my wife called how the trash.s ex. husband in his state and went to meet him the trailer park trash was in her.40.s i was just.19. at that time . how do i get my life back over this tramp

2007-11-03 16:41:40 · 9 answers · asked by matthew v 3

I am 22 years old and just got a tattoo. I will be coming home for Thanksgiving break (one week) from college and then again for Christmas break (one month). I would like to hide my tattoo until the end of christmas break. My tattoo starts at the top of my shoulder and goes down to my bicep on my left arm. That is the only one I have and ever will get. Everywhere I go I always get comments on how great it looks (Cross with dragon, and the words "Only the Strong Survive") It has special meaning to me, but am afraid my parents may kick me out or force me to pay my tuition. I have one semester left, spring. They tried to convince me to not get one. I was told if I hid it from them this long, 2 months with occasional visits from them, I can probably hide it for the 5 weeks. I would be forced to wear long sleeve shirts every day for the week and the month. I am not sure what to say if I get asked a question, even though it is cold. Should I tell them or hide it?

2007-11-03 16:38:10 · 9 answers · asked by nick a 1

2007-11-03 16:34:15 · 30 answers · asked by gary f 1

She even says "I'm the boss and what I say goes." Or "I make the financial decisions around here." The other day she gave me crap for not having supper ready. She also keeps bugging me to buy her a ring. What am I getting into here?

2007-11-03 16:26:34 · 38 answers · asked by George C 2

My husband was drunk when we got married. Someone told me that because he was drunk our marriage might not be legal, anyone know if this is true?

2007-11-03 16:24:59 · 34 answers · asked by Jennifer L 2

from lies?

2007-11-03 16:21:20 · 19 answers · asked by ? 6

Recently my husband opened a checking account that he kept hidden from me. I found out when I noticed a regularly occurring deposit had not been deposited into our joint account and researched where the money had gone. He says it's because he wants to save money and that he wasn't really trying to hide it because he knew I would get the pay statement. However, he's made sure this is not a joint account and I have no access to this account. I don't believe it's about saving money, because that's not a real issue in our marriage. I'm afraid it's about him wanting to spend money and not wanting me to find out what he's spending the money on. How should I handle this???

2007-11-03 16:05:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

It really bothers me when I want to have a serious discussion and he either keeps reading the newspaper or working on the crossword puzzle. He says "I am listening." Or he jokes about things and doesn't take me seriously when I am trying to express something important to me.

2007-11-03 16:05:13 · 10 answers · asked by okie 2

Me and my boyfriend and I had been together for 8 months and ended breaking up on bad terms, but as time goes by we both realized how much in love we are and got back together, secretly of course because my parents would never understand. Well he got put in jail (for something stupid, nothing like killing nobody or anything, he really is a great guy, he just made a stupid decision) and I've been secretly going up there and have been bringing his child up there with me (who I love with all my heart) to see him. He'll be getting out soon and he wants us to live together and i think he's gonna ask me to marry him, which is great!! only one problem, I'm living with my parents, im 20 by the way, and they are the most controlling people, like crazy controlling, and I dont know how to break it to them that I'm moving out to live with him, I feel like if i do they are gonna like hold me down so i cant go. I'm seriously in love with this man, how do i break it to my parents?

2007-11-03 15:58:05 · 10 answers · asked by *Jace's Mommy* 2

Thanks for the thoughts ;)

2007-11-03 15:43:00 · 15 answers · asked by L 3

I mean, are you doing what you always imagined you'd be doing?? Accomplishing goals, having a social life, etc.?

I know I'm not. I am in such a rut. All I do is sleep, wake up, take care of my kids and my house, work, eat, sleep, do the same thing the next day. My life is so boring and predictable I know what my day is going to be like a month in advance. I have no friends, no social life, no time or money to go out with my fiance, and so on.

Sometimes I think, "Why bother?"

2007-11-03 15:40:01 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

After 7 years I no longer love my wife. Its just gone; there is nothing there-- She drives me to drink pretty much. I stay with her is because she earns a ton of money and i live very well (new car every year, nice house) --- other than that, i can't stand her. Is it okay to stay with her if i pretend to still love her??????

2007-11-03 15:19:35 · 21 answers · asked by godman 1

Okay, i made a huge mistake-- I slept with my wifes sister!!!! I have not told my wife yet; what should i do???? We have been married 7 months and i love her, but this thing just came over me to have sex with her sister-- Help me--

2007-11-03 14:58:28 · 27 answers · asked by godman 1

I have great sex with my husband. No problems at all. I just want to do something new and different. I am the kind of person that wants to try diffrent things now and then. So I was wondering a diffrent position?,music?,candles? Just something diffrent that will get him aroused. You know something fun and exciting! Any ideas, advice?

2007-11-03 14:45:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-03 14:40:47 · 33 answers · asked by Ax. 2

2007-11-03 14:20:55 · 11 answers · asked by ki-ki V 2

What is mind phuck or what does it mean?

2007-11-03 14:11:49 · 10 answers · asked by Jill M 3