She even says "I'm the boss and what I say goes." Or "I make the financial decisions around here." The other day she gave me crap for not having supper ready. She also keeps bugging me to buy her a ring. What am I getting into here?
2007-11-03 16:26:34 · 38 answers · asked by George C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has even had me convinced she is the boss...I admitted to it. How do I retract from this position..I do love her and want to keep her
2007-11-03 16:31:31 · update #1
I work but don't make nearly as much as her. I actually work longer hours. Because she makes more though she thinks she's the boss and can order me. I love her that much though and want to make her happy..
2007-11-03 16:44:42 · update #2
u know u like it thats why your there
2007-11-03 16:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
OK let give you some real advice, Just think it over a minute You just said you love her. So that's means even her bossy ways. Shes an aphla woman. I'm not saying that her way is always right. Try talking to her see if maybe she's willing to back down some. Tell how you feel, shes sure doesn't have any problem telling you. Explain to her that if she was willing to try even you might actually consider a ring because that would mean she is willing to try anything to make yall's relationship to work. That's what a marriage is about anyways. If you aren't ready for marriage then you really need to tell her that too. You need to be honest with her. That's what a relationship is base on.
2007-11-03 16:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by csiintraining2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because you can't really accomplish anything on your own...
And she probably bugs you about a ring because she's not confident that you are capable of getting a ring and proposing all on your own.
Honestly, you are probably too dependent on her and that's the only way she knows how to deal with it. If she is forced to take care of all the details and make all the decisions than she IS the boss, she's just letting you know. But that would be your fault for not stepping up and taking care of your ****.
Start making your own decisions, take care of ALL of your responsibilities without her help, and plan things for you two once in awhile.
Trust me, it will make a HUGE difference if she sees that you're capable. I guarantee that she doesn't like making ALL the decisions and planning things... She gives you a hard time in hopes that you'll step it up.
Good luck!
2007-11-03 16:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your getting into a thing called love. She wants to see that you will do all that she wants you to do before she says I do. They all do that. Best advice I got was just agree and go along you'll win in the end. She says something agree let things play out even if you know she's wrong and when it blows up or she loses interest you win. Financial decisions always say yes because then one day she will say yes to your riding mower or some other thing you want. She will see the balance and she will realize I spend this no money for that. When I got married my wife was the same and trust me when she sees it's food or xyz she'll chose food. Eventually you will take over just give it time.
2007-11-03 16:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Texan~to_the-Max 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how badly you want to be there bud. All women want to be the man. Ever since mankind let them into the mans workplace, they started feeling liberated from cooking and cleaning for a living. I'm just kidding, but seriously, man, you DEFINITELY need to be your own boss. You have way too many already. One person does NOT make a relationship work. But if you suck at balancing a check book, can you blame her? If you love her, talk to her. If she loves you, she'll listen.
2007-11-03 16:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Type0pisces 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wants to be the upper-dog. Unsecure, she needs to be in control. If you let her, you are enabling the situation and will only get worse and worse. Give her an ultimatum. But be careful, she might pull back temporarilly then resume the behavior. Unfortunately for you, it is a personality disorder and there is no fixing! Get the f---- out!!
2007-11-03 16:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Vendetta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she asks for a ring, point out that your looking for a partner to marry not a boss.
2007-11-03 17:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe at some point in her life she was bossed around and is now doing the same thing to you. Or maybe she is waiting for you to stand up for yourself and say something about her actions and or words. Either way you should talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel. Let her know it bother you and maybe she would reveal her reasons for being so bossing.
2007-11-03 16:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She wants to be the boss because she likes the control.
I would put a stop to this now, unless you want to be dominated for the rest of this relationship.
What was she doing that she was not able to make dinner..was she at work
Make some changes now before it is too late and she gets used to her role.
2007-11-03 16:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd walk out.
If you are not working then yes, I would be mad if supper wasn't ready. If you both work, then I tell her politely to make a list and stick to who does dinner when. Or let her do the dishes. You aren't her slave and she isn't yours. If there isn't mutual respect, it isn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship.
2007-11-03 16:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by tugar357 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her who's boss. Don't let her push you around dude. Tell her to shut the **** up and listen to you for a change, she might like it. If not you need to get away from her. Be a man. Good Luck.
2007-11-03 16:31:51 · answer #11 · answered by Hate the ignorant 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋