Have your husband or wife had an affair, during the affair did they have a child by the person they had the affair with? How did you handle it? Where you able to forgive them?
2007-11-03 16:43:09 · 12 answers · asked by sexychocolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This happened to my mother-in-law. So, my husband has a half sister. It was a long time ago (obviously, since we are all grown up). She stayed with her husband, and they seem ok together...Then again, they also have separate bedrooms and have as long as my husband can remember. They are Catholic and don't believe in divorce. But, clearly, not all is forgiven.
2007-11-03 17:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can only say that I was a friend to someone that went through this, and though she did the mature thing and forgave him, and is still with him trying to make the over nine year reationship work, I really doubt that I could do the same, and that's just being honest, cuz from that moment till the day your spose dies that child will be a part of his life, and will always be a constant reminder that he cheated!! I can't say that I'm emotionally strong enough to do that. Then again I've never been put in the situation, so who knows . . .
2007-11-04 00:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kuri 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I could possibly forgive an affair, but a child by another woman would be too much for me to handle. I'd definitely divorce, no question.
2007-11-03 23:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by G.V. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen, this never happened to me but I can tell you if you choose to stay your life will be like living in a Lifetime Movie. I know of a few stories that have happened to people where I live. You don't want to be part of this. He will always cheat again and most possibly with the mother of the child. No one deserves this.
2007-11-03 23:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heck no... I would never be able to trust him. I told my husband before I married him, if he EVER- even one time- cheated (let alone had a kid with the other woman), he'd come home from work one day and I would (along with everything in the house) would be gone. Then I'd make his life hell for breaking my heart.
2007-11-03 23:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sue A 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would never forgive him. First, he cheated...that should say it all. Then, to have a child. Why would you want to stay with someone like that?!? He will probably do it again
2007-11-03 23:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must forgive everyone, everything they do to you. That doesn't mean you have to lay down and get walked on. God gives adultery as the one reason acceptable for divorce.
2007-11-03 23:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that's a tough one. It would take a very mature.understanding person to really forgive that person. Of course, time takes care of everything.
2007-11-03 23:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah....I forgave him.....then packed my things and left. Forgiving was the easy part....forgetting was something I never was able to do.
2007-11-03 23:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by peachesdeese 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, if they had a child together it would complicate things wayyyy to much!!
2007-11-03 23:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Due with baby#1 06/08/09♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋