I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. We have two kids together. We have been having issues since we moved in together. Part of the problem is that he never understands where I am coming from. He has also lied about paying rent and didn't tell me about the half naked pictures his ex sent him (I found them myself). I know nothing happened, but he doesn't see how these things affected me. I know he is sorry that he hurt me, but he can never see anything from my point of view, which makes closure hard. I have been trying to bring us closer and save our relationship and I thought he was doing the same. He told me about a week ago that he doesn't want to get to know me too deeply or I would become predictable and he would get bored. He says he keeps me at a distance because he doesn't want to lose me. I am angry about this. I know that part of being in a relationship is getting close. I don't know what to do (therapy? give up?) Any suggestions or thoughts would be helpful
2007-11-03 17:50:10 · 8 answers · asked by Kima 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He still is very touchy with me (not always in a sexual way). He also cried when I talked to him about this and mentioned breaking up.
2007-11-03 17:57:59 · update #1
Dating? Parents of two children, living in the same home? You're as good as married.
Dump the SOB!!! The good part is no divorce; just make sure to get what you are legally entitled to for child support.
He will never change, they never do. You need to change now! Don't fall for his mind games....he sounds like a boring, stupid, emotionally retarded prick!
You have a family, and he's afraid to know you deeply! ? You deserve better!
2007-11-03 18:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jenispent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now! The guy obviously doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you. He's hiding too much from you, and being sorry isn't enough. You deserve someone better.
2007-11-03 18:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he doesnt have a clue as to what he really wants. OR he's playing you. In either case, I'd take a break from him for awhile. That will either bring him to his senses
........OR he'll appreciate the break.
Are you willing to take that chance?
2007-11-03 18:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What that's all your fault, why did you just not be with a guy that wanted to be close right away, why wait 3 years before you decide you want to know someone. Was it friends with benifits when your not really friends, your fault, should have been close before he even stuck his dick in.
2007-11-03 17:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but take a hint. I am sorry that children are involved but you need to leave him.. He obviously doesn't care enough about you to make it work. It will be hard but you need to leave.
2007-11-03 17:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have changed the first sentence to past tense.
2007-11-03 17:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to let him go if he comes back hes urs, if not he never was.
2007-11-03 17:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by ruthi :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just not that into you anymore...
2007-11-03 17:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by htsupguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋