My boyfriend and me have been together for 2 years and I think he's about to pop the question and we are about to move in together, only one problem, my parents hate him! They don't really know him, they just heard rumors and are believing them. I'm living with them right now, how do I break it to them? and I know they wont agree to it so how would i move out? they are both very very controlling (not normal controlling), I'm afraid they would do something very drastic to keep me home. I'm in love with this man, know that he is the ONE and want to spend the rest of my life with him, so please help me. And please no comments about how my parents know whats best, my minds made up.
2007-11-03 17:10:04 · 15 answers · asked by *Jace's Mommy* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We live in a small town and people like to say alot of things that are not true. Like with my boyfriend there have been rumors that he has cheated on me which I've done proven untrue, because I spent the night with him when a certain someone said that he was cheating on me so its j/ silly rumors like that.
2007-11-03 17:19:37 · update #1
I'm 21years old
2007-11-03 17:20:25 · update #2
he's tried to meet them, they wont give him the time of day. its like they dont even wont to give him a chance, they are very picky people which is understandable, but they wont even meet him
2007-11-03 17:31:01 · update #3
I've dated, had my wild streak and I'm really just ready to settle down. and I'm not "blinded" by love, I'm sensible about this I've known him for longer than two years so I know what kindof person he is.
2007-11-03 17:48:09 · update #4
btw parents dont know who my boyfriend really is, never met him or anything so how would they know if he was a good guy or not
2007-11-03 17:53:48 · update #5
Tell your parents That you are old enough to choose your boyfriend at age 21 you could even get married. Let them know that they are suppose to show you love and not to try and controlled you, it is making you very uncomfortable. They should listen to you and help you through any situation instead of other people. How can they judge someone they don't even see.
2007-11-03 18:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by vis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all , how old are u' all? There may be something to what your folks are feeling, I mean they may have a good reason. Obviousley, they love you. But ultimately in the end, if you are old enough to support yourself and you are positively confident that he is the one for you then, you gotta do what you gotta do. Noone can tell you what to do sweatie. This is your life and you need to make your own decisions. You need to keep the communication lines open with mom and dad, they love you. Don't throw that away. This guy... well if he is all that then maybe he needs to step up and show your parents just how good he can be for you and how happy he can make you. He needs to try to work things out with your parents if you are planning on staying together, you shouldn't get put in a posistion to pick and choose between the two.
2007-11-04 00:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by artbrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your mind is made up - why ask the question? On the other hand make sure you are moving out for the right reason - i.e. To get a way from controlling parents. They may see lots of things in him that you don't. How does he treat old people, animals, children? Does he treat you with respect and thoughtfulness? Sometimes you are too close to the forest to see the trees.
2007-11-04 00:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents didn't like my boyfriend and could see the problems he had that I couldn't. It's impossible to see flaws from where you are in the relationship. Ultimately we married and divorced, and I had to admit they were right. Everything they saw in him became clear to me after it was too late. Maybe since you live in a small town, you have friends who would actually be your friend and tell you the truth. If he's a loser and everyone knows it, why would you throw your life away on him? You're only 21! I'm 20 years older than you are and wish I had waited and dated more. You'll find yourself saddled with kids before you're 25. Run! Go and have some fun!
2007-11-04 00:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by jw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you are either an only child, only daughter, or the one they never expected to ever dissapoint them.
I've met parents like yours; they are emotionally abusing to you. you are 21, and unless your last name is "Soprano", what exactly is drastic? If they threaten to never speak to you, it's their loss, I believe they would be sorry, but controlling people never change. Please.......move out on your own first!!! Every woman should, especially comming from a controlling environment.
Hopefully you are able to support yourself. Every person, especially women, need to make it on their own. If you are in love or not...never depend on a man, or anyone for that matter.
Make sure it;'s the guy you're in love with, not just the freedom from your controlling parents. You need to get out from under your parents roof and controll regardless.
Please do not get married too young!! If you accept his ring, wait at least 2 to 3 years,......if you can make it through that, then maybe the next 50 years may be possible.
Any chance your parents started the rumor to keep you home?
Good luck to you.
2007-11-04 00:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jenispent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you've been with him 2 years, live in a small town and your parents don't know him that well? I also live in a small town and know what you mean about rumors. If you 120% positive and want to marry this guy... Then you need to demand your parents respect, yet be willing to do what you want without your parents blessing.
2007-11-04 00:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what are these rumors? If theyre controlling as you say, get a trusted third party to go to bat for you. You are NOT the first young lady to think that bc their parents have somethign against their bf that their controlling. I know this is going to make me sound old, but how old are you? If you're under 18 you need to rethink this.
2007-11-04 00:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your relationship will last. You are too young. You are living with him before marriage. You have your parents against them. I doubt combined you together earn $50,000. And when it all falls apart you will be asking your parents to bail you out.
If you are both dedicated to the relationship, why are you not getting married? The answer is simple. You are pretending and you do not want to face the long term reality of what your parents are trying to warn you about.
2007-11-04 00:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by eric l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well baby doll u have ur mind made up thn wht can somebody say but yaeh i would jst ask u to open ur close eyes have a wide vision collect some information and then do whatever you like coz once u hav a proof tht ur boyfriend is correct thn u can tell it to ur parents but be careful thr r such kind of men
2007-11-04 00:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by King K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was almost killed three years ago. I have learned from that experience that you need to do what is going to make you happy! Yes you want your parents to except him and like him just like you do but life isn't perfect. You only live once and while you are here you need to be happy!!!
2007-11-04 01:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋