Do you think marriage is overrated in the 21st century?

Answer 1

NO! What I think is overrated is the 'free' society that we live in today. People no longer no how to make a commitment. Few people today look past the 'now' and have few plans for the future. I think they believe they will always be 'young' and 'beautiful' and 'free'! Living together, having sex with everybody, male or female, countless partners, leaves one feeling empty after awhile.
The young people mock those who have been married for years. Yet, it is these, who have learned the importnce of working together, supporting one another, being there for one another, sacrificing for one another, loving one another___. Sex is the icing on the cake (marriage).
..............For these people have grown in love.
Young people today don't want to work for much of anything, let alone a marriage. They don't commit because they know they can 'walk' anytime they want.... and walk they do. The old saying, 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fense' still rings true. But the 'walker' is older...., the 'new grass' is young...their eyes look past him... he senses things have changed. He's now looking at 40 and he has nothing but gray hair to show for it. No home..., no wife...., no childen... no.....no nothing.
My question to him/her who walks this non-commitment walk is, "How's it working for you so far?"
..............No, dear one, marriage is not overratted!
...........Commitment to the right person is wonderful!

Answer 2

absolutely

The traditional 1 man + 1 woman marriage is an archaic ritual that has no real need in the 21st century. Options such as same-sex, plurality, serialism, etc... are just as (if not more) valid these days.

Further, the traditional marriage is demeaning to women and their children. It creates an environment (supported by law) wherein one party is assumed to be the more competent member of the partnership without regard to whether this is true.

That so many end in failure is a prima facie indication that what we have been doing (while likely valid until about 1957) is no longer a valid construct.

On the other hand, don't take this to mean that I also support "shacking up" as an alternative. That situation is worse as it creates no rights of partnership but many of the obligations.

The only valid solution is to accept that a civil domestic partnership should be able to be created by any two (or more) people under the protection of the law as a full civil partnership and that the choice to function as a family unit directed by a 'sole proprietor' (man or woman) is just as valid.

This doesn't weaken families, it strengthens them. It gives the same rights and privileges (as well as responsibilities) to everyone equally.

Answer 3

Marriage is the same despite the century that is in question. I feel that the commitment to the institution is over-rated in the heads of many people now. Way too many people go in with the the feeling that if it doesn't work out then divorce is an option as easy as returning a bad meal at a restaurant. I do not feel that a person should stay in a bad relationship. But I feel that a couple should weigh the decision with a lot more severity than they do now and make more of a commitment on the front end than they do now...
~Tyed~

Answer 4

I can't imagine how you could come to that conclusion. The institution of marriage has never changed, it's peoples attitudes and selfish behavior that has given marriage a bad name. Alot of marriages probably wouldn't end if one or both of the parties weren't always thinking me me me. I think what's overrated is the big ridiculous WEDDINGS that many people have to have. When in reality, it's the MARRIAGE itself that needs just as much effort and forethought.

Answer 5

Absolutely! Very few people think of marriage as a sacred institution and people don't take vows seriously at all anymore. Once upon a time, marriage was a forever commitment, now people bail out because they didn't like the meatloaf. What a joke!

Answer 6

I do not think it is overrated at all, what I do think is that, not marriage seems to something that people do not treat as sacred. People get married and divorced all the time. I think the true meaning and idea behind marriage is lost!!

Answer 7

No, but I do think that people have generally lowered their standards and become lazy. No one wants to work for anything, and anything worth having is worth working for. This includes marriage. People have just gotten lazy.

Answer 8

If you choose the wrong person, it is overrated in any century.

Answer 9

marriage isnt overrated but i believe a life partnership is more practical u dont need a legal document to prove u love each other

Answer 10

Yes,
I do not plan on having children, so I see no need to get married. I feel I can make a committment to someone without the blood diamond and a government document.