My husband is very selfish in bed. It is always all about him and his needs and never mine. I have tried talking to him but he just says he understands what I am saying and then it is just the same thing over and over again. It is all what he needs. Any ideas out there?
2007-11-03 17:41:26 · 12 answers · asked by blzabobb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When your hubby is in "action" just lay there and yawn and start talking about things that need to get done around the house. He'll soon start listening!
2007-11-03 17:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by bella s 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well now... isn't this the age old story. Buy a vibrator and tell him to take care of himself. See how he likes that. Maybe try finding a book or something that can teach him a thing or two when it comes to hanky panky in the sack that reminds him that he is not the only one there in the moment. Otherwise, go get the vibrator. Who knows maybe he will like the idea too and it could ease him into trying new things with you and put the focus on the two of you instead of little ol selfish hubby.
2007-11-03 17:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by artbrat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try doing something different and sexy, like playing a game and whoever wins gets the "treatment" for the night.
If it doesn't work. Go on strike.
Stop having sex with him until he agrees to be more generous.
Or if you want to be really ...catty might be the word..
get a vibrator. Use it directly after you make love to let him know that he is not getting the job done.
At least that way, you'll get some satisfaction while making your point
2007-11-03 17:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, sex is a two-way street. You have to feel satisfied too. To be quite frank, while you're having sex make sure you get pleasure out of it too, even if it means taking care of yourself during it. Obviously talking hasn't solved the problem, and sometimes that can be associated with how you are talking at, with or to your husband. Anyway, my best advice is for you to NOT fake pleasure during sex, if you are, you're sending the message that it's enjoyable to you. Secondly, pleasure yourself, that sends a clear message that you have needs and want those needs met. You never know he might actually like it and want to help you finish off!
2007-11-03 17:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that he warms you up enough oraly and with fingers before he can get inside of you so that when he is able to start your ready to orgasm and you can get off as well . Basically if he's selfish be selfish right back or cut him off.
2007-11-03 17:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by mikeypaperz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would sex be offered up willingly if some husbands didn't ACT like dogs- humping everything in sight?
2016-04-02 03:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds selfish to me, in a committed relationship like the one you and your husband share. intimacy is a key factor in keeping it spicy and exciting. this is one reason why people look for outside satisfaction when they aren't being pleased at home. you need to sit him down and explain to him just how you feel. i know you said you already spoke to him but you have to be blunt and honest when it comes to matters like this. he might brush it off as unimportant but this important to you and let him know.
2007-11-03 17:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop telling him what he is doing wrong and tell him want you need from him and ask him is he capable of giving it to you. than you two should seek some counseling. GodBless
2007-11-03 17:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...If he is not co-operating or helping you to get what you want in bed.....don't co-operate with him......say some excuses for at least for some time....and just pretend or do masturbating....and make sure he is watching or at least make sure that he knows that you are doing this.....let him understand what is your problem....
2007-11-03 23:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... you have two options to satisfy yourself. One, you can buy a battery powered friend or two you can have what they call an affair.
2007-11-03 17:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋