Is anyone else bored or dissatisfied with their life?

Question

I mean, are you doing what you always imagined you'd be doing?? Accomplishing goals, having a social life, etc.?

I know I'm not. I am in such a rut. All I do is sleep, wake up, take care of my kids and my house, work, eat, sleep, do the same thing the next day. My life is so boring and predictable I know what my day is going to be like a month in advance. I have no friends, no social life, no time or money to go out with my fiance, and so on.

Sometimes I think, "Why bother?"

Answer 1

You sound just like us. A never-ending ground-hog day. For us...we always seemed out-of-sync with others of our age. We were married and had children young, so while we were changing diapers, our friends were on the partying circuit. And now that they have settled down with young children, ours are now in high school...so we're still disconnect.

So no friends (save each other), no social life (that doesn't include the kids), and a tight budget. We feel your frustration.

To get through it, my wife and I look forward to the day when she and I will be old and grey. Sitting on our rocking chairs on the front porch, listening to the wind blow through the crops and trees. That may sound sad to some, but my wife and I take comfort in thinking about those quiet days that will eventually come.

Answer 2

Only you can change things. Save some money, hire a sitter and go out. There are a trillion different things to do and more in this old world. Go to a movie, go roller skating with the kids. Play miniature golf. Go to the beach or to the park have a picnic. Tour a museum. Get a hobby. Read books. Paint pictures. Introduce yourself to your neighbors. Go for a walk around your neighborhood and find out who lives close to you. If you think you don't have time, make time. Set out a couple of days or hours a week and do something different. Change your attitude. Become grateful for what you do have, you are not promised it will stay the same. You should enjoy your life and your children while you have them. People get hurt and die everyday, you are not immune to things that happen, time is passing and your children are changing and before you know it they will be grown and gone. Don't be complacent with your family, wake up and say thank God it's morning, instead of oh God it's morning.

Answer 3

Yup, I know what you mean. I get up every morning, get the kids ready for school, (my husband gets them on the bus), leave for work, work all day, come home, cook dinner, get the kids in bed, do housework until 10:30 or 11, then go to bed. Then at 6 the alarm goes off an it starts all over. I don't get enough sleep and I alway feel stressed and stretched to the limit. It's really hard when your kids are young. My 3 kids are all 8 and under, so it's still very hands-on. I CRAVE time for myself to read a book or go out with friends for some laughs. But I am told, by my friends who have been there and done that, that this is the hardest part of our lives right now.

The one thing I've started to do differently lately is to demand a little bit of time for me. On a Friday night, for example, I get the kids in bed, then I'll go to my girlfriend's house 2 doors down and we watch some tv and have some laughs and a glass of wine. It's not every Friday night, but it's once or twice a month. One Thursday a month I go to a scrapbooking workshop for a couple of hours that's down the street. Sometimes I have to skip it, like this week - but I try to get there regularly. You have to do SOMETHING for yourself.

What kinds of things do you and your fiance have in common that you like to do together? It doesn't have to be expensive. But you need to find the money for a trusted babysitter and get out every once in a while. If you can't afford a nice meal out for just the two of you - hell, go to McDonald's and get fries and a chocolate shake! Do you like to listen to music? Find a local bar and listen to a band - maybe have a beer and dance a little. Or if you don't drink, have a ginger ale and just listen and talk. Just having a conversation without kids interrupting is a beautiful thing.

Find something on your own that interests you and pursue it, even if it's just once a month. That's a great way to meet people you have things in common with. Another friend of mine has bowling once a week. Another likes to do karaoke. You need something to break the monotony - and believe me, I know first-hand how easy it is to get in that rut and how hard it is to break out of it. I'm still not feeling 100% out of the rut. But at least a couple of times a month I have something to really look forward to. And one is free, and the other is only $5 bucks! And when I've had some fun and some laughs, I feel so much happier, and the feeling lasts for several days. It makes a big difference. Good luck!

Answer 4

First of all, please don't do anything crazy. Always keep your head up. You should cherish life. My life isn't always great. It has it's up and it's many many downs. As a matter of fact, my wife and I are in a rut ourselves. We don't have a car so we're stuck in the house every single day. I would recommend you go to http://www.thesexualilluminati.com and look it over. Don't let the name throw you off. Their package not only covers relationship, social life and sex life, but it also includes information on self improvement. Might be just what you need. Hope it helps!

Answer 5

Yea, that sounds like a really boring life. You can't get rid of the children though, so you're stuck with them, so work on making the rest of your life interesting. What kind of job do you have? What kind of career do you want? Do you need to go back to school? If so, do it.

Do you want to travel? Well, save up and wait for the kids to grow up. You kind of sentence yourself into a rut of boredom for 18 years when you had kids.

If you want to make friends, try to make friends with other parents because those of us who don't have children aren't going to find you very interesting because chances are you're like most other parents who just want to talk about their children.

Answer 6

yes mine is gone when i get up and comes in for lunch sometimes at different times. then the next time lately has been for eight or 1:30 in the morning. he's a manager of a small trucking business. does anyone know someone who is out all those hours?

Answer 7

You are not alone.

When people say time is fleeting, it's true. Your hard work pays off (regarding your children). Before you know it, you'll be alone and you will have all the time...

In the meantime, make time for yourself and something you enjoy. Only YOU can make that happen.

God will reward you for being there for your children. Not many parents are.

Answer 8

no, I really enjoy my life. I have always lived by the saying "life is what you make it" and it has been. I have worked hard and played hard...well hard enough.

It sounds like you just need to take control of things, stop worrying about what you don't have, and start planning for what you do.

Answer 9

I hate to be blunt but a lot of it depends on YOU. It is really up to YOU to change your destiny and routine life. There are lots of choices we make on what is important. Write down what is important to
you and then work on these. The key here is what is important to YOU - not your friends,family or society. Most of what society dictates is profit driven.

Answer 10

getting bored in life is quite common.