ABOUT my AUNT?

Question

MY aunt left her husban when i was little.
MY cousins are my age.
MY aunt was tired of my UNCLE cheating on her.
HE would play with other women right in front of her.
SHE finally left his sorry BUNS.
NOW 20 years later my cousins are against my aunt 4 leaving heir two timing dad.
I believe my aunt.I have seen my UNCLE in action.
MY cousin has had three small children.
SHE is now, with holding the kids and the new baby from my aunt.
I think she has rights, but what do i tell her to make her feel better.
OF corse i think they(my cousins) are playing games with their children.

Answer 1

Generally, if people choose not to have their children around a person there is something big going on. And if *more than one child* of a parent refuses them contact with their children that is a *HUGE* sign that something major is/was going on with that parent...something bigger than a divorce.

However, even if the divorce is the only reason-or if they had no reason at all-your cousins are well within their rights to decide who does or does not have contact with their children. They're the parents, and it's their decision. Period. Your aunt has to understand and get over it because granparents have no rights to their grandchildren except through the parents (except in a few states that grant grandparents rights if that child has been in their legal guardianship).

If you want to make her feel better, tell her *you* believe her about your uncle, but it's really not your place to butt in the relationship between your aunt and her children/grandchildren.

Answer 2

I'm sure there is a lot more history here, but sounds like the kids need to grow up. And withholding the grandkids from their grandmother? Why in the world do humans use children against one another? This is the most selfish act a parent can commit. They do it in the child's name, but what they are actually doing is getting gratification out of seeing their mother suffer for something they believe she did wrong. It's none of their business! I guarantee that whatever they do, she will be there to support them in their time of need. They need to stay out of the war between their parents and get a life. One that preferrably includes both parents, even though it sounds like the dad is pretty low down. That doesn't mean that he is a bad grandfather, just a not so great person. They also need to remember that children grow up and what goes around, comes around. Man, what a vicious cycle this can create. I pray for them all.

Answer 3

How did your cousins find out about their dad? I hope that their mom didnt tell them because kids should be free from parent bashing. Also your Aunt can go to a lawyer and ask to have Grandparents right which will give her visitation of her grandchildren.

Answer 4

Maybe you should write a tv series. Then give the profits to your aunt. Then they would suddenly want her in their lives.
Sounds like you're dealing with a lot of immaturity. In your shoes, I wouldnt get involved at all.

Answer 5

Yes, your right, they are playing games, and it's going to get ugly, unfortunately, I don't think your Aunt has any recourse, but truth will tell.......... this girl will realize one day that her father is exactly what he is...... and then she will hate herself all the more and her children will resent her for not allowing them a relationship with her mother........... does that even make sense?........ hehehe........

Good luck

Answer 6

They probably know something you dont. If you have seen your uncle doing that then I'm pretty sure your cousins have too and their mom has obviously done something worse

Answer 7

There is something I am missing. What I can promise you that their is something beside leaving dad that the kids are complaining about.

Answer 8

Be supportive of your aunt - but stay out of this.

Answer 9

stay out of it.but be there for your aunt if she needs a shoulder.